Having a treat 1/2x a week and peoples reactions to it
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I think ultimately it depends on your own lifestyle/goals and your relationship with food.
While I absolutely, one hundred percent believe that life is far too short, and we are far too lucky, with the options around us, to completely exclude foods just because they are treats.
I think the difficulty for many is striking the delicate balance between not having foods labeled as either being on a pedestal or being 'bad', but also recognizing where some foods should not form a staple part of the diet- and acknowledging where that is the case.
That whole 'balance' thing.0 -
Set a goal and focus on your progress toward that goal. If your goal is to lose 2 lbs per week, show her your charts that show you losing two pounds per week and tell her that you are working out and eating well and thank her for her help with the gym membership. Then, you can eat what you like (like a special treat at McDonalds). As long as you are meeting your goals, your mum has nothing to complain about and she'll be happy to watch your progress vs. getting on you about a treat.0
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leahshearer1 wrote: »I believe you should treat yourself 1 to 2 times a week at the weekend. The difference is changing the types of treats you have for example you mention craving a caramel sundae from Mcdonalds.. to me this is a waste of calories as it has absolutley no nutritional value, I would advise googling healthy treat options and start incorporating them in to your life, at first you will crave whar you know but eventually your palet will get used to these treats and your body and will thank you for treating it with respect and giving it what it needs.
My main healthy treats I snack on on weekends are Protien pancakes with strawberries and natural yoghart or peanut butter and banana. I also love dark warm almond milk with a handful or cashew nuts and dark choclate. Fruit salads with granola yoghart and honey is amazing if your craving sweet.
Google has thousands of easy recipes which if you choose can improve your health and life.
At times people have really good information to share, this is not one of those times. OP treat yourself and enjoy it!0 -
You need to get your head out of the sand!
Start weighing, measuring and logging your food.
Keep up the gym.
It sounds like you need a bit of a lifestyle overhaul. Start taking responsibility for your actions. The sooner you start being accountable, the sooner you'll start losing weight
Good luck and don't be afraid to post any questions you have here. If you don't ask, you don't know.0 -
callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »If you're not accurately logging and weighing your food, then no, you shouldnt have it - sorry.
I have treats all the time (not mcdonalds cause gross) but we eat out all the time. i have treats and candy and deserts all the time. ive lost 23 pounds since january. i log EVERYTHING i eat. if i dont have calories for it - i dont eat it. i *usually* know when were going to be eating out, and plan appropriately. most meals out (in a restaurant) will cover two meals for me because of the high calorie counts. That is how i work our lifestyle into my new 'food lifestyle'. and it works.
I'm making a cake later this week and am having friends come over and they will go home with about 2/3 of it (the rest saved for my hubby and kids). I will likely have a very small piece (just one). I made a truly DECADENT birthday cake for myself a couple of months ago. double chocolate, raspberry filled, fudge icing.... mmmm.....had ONE slice, about the width of my finger. that was all. and i was good with it. i had my treat!
your comment about being ' all or nothing' is concerning because that doesn't account for moderation and real life scenarios.
I got a lot out of your post...thank you!0 -
OP, I'm not going to judge you on your food choices, if you look at my diary the last few days, I've had chocolate, ice cream, cookies and whatnot... but all within my calories. Maybe 300-400 calories out of my 1850. And IMO it's totally fine (obviously!) because I'm not hungry the rest of the time.
I haven't seen your other threads but it seems that you're not logging... so I don't know how you can tell what you've earned (I'm guessing by doing a workout?) and what you haven't earned. Log everything, that way you can show your mom that it fits in your calories.
But yeah, lay down on the treats if you still feel hungry, because it means you're having too many of them.0 -
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christinev297 wrote: »But how do you know how many calories you had left over if you're not logging?
I have done some random tracking. I'm not exactly consistent.0 -
beemerphile1 wrote: »You probably won't like this but based on your empty diary, the other thread you started about not having enough calories, and this thread;
I think you should grow up, pay your own way, log your meals, stop making excuses, and take responsibility for yourself.
No matter how many "friends" one has, we are all in this alone. We arise every day and make decisions that affect the rest of our life. No one can do this for you nor validate your choices. Your body and your health is the result of your choices past and present.
Want different results? Change your behavior.
Bolding this as a reminder to myself!!
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christinev297 wrote: »But how do you know how many calories you had left over if you're not logging?
I have done some random tracking. I'm not exactly consistent.
I think it's important for you to start logging consistently and accurately. It doesn't matter where you log as long as you are logging - if you feel embarrassed because of your food choices just make your diary private or log on a notebook.
You can have as many "treats" as you want as long as they fit your calories and you can eat your exercise calories back (50-75%) if you are actually logging so you know where you stand. Until you start logging (again, where you log it's up to you) you will not really see results. Someone said that reducing your intake is a great start and it really is but unfortunately, if that reduction still results in a higher calorie and doesn't leave you at a deficit you will still not see results.0 -
If your mother isn't paying for your meal, eat what you want. If you pay for your own meal, and she insists on sharing her views, tell her that you hadn't really thought about that way, and thank you for your input, you'll think about it, and then do what you want.
If she is paying for your meal, you've got a problem.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »But how do you know how many calories you had left over if you're not logging?
I have done some random tracking. I'm not exactly consistent.
then you don't know...0 -
If she's paying for the gym, you either keep her happy or pay for it yourself. If she's paying for your food, she has the right not to buy you McDonalds caramel sundaes.
I have to be honest, if I paid for a gym membership for my adult daughter and she wanted to stop for a sundae on the way back, I probably wouldn't be too happy either if she had only recently started, as seems to be the case with you. LOTS of people way overestimate how many calories they burn during a workout. If you burned two or three hundred calories, and ate 400 calories worth of sundae, then you had negative "earnings" for the day.
Pay your own way, or listen to your mother. And if you feel the need to have sweets, having a half cup of ice cream for under 150 calories instead of an entire sundae is probably going to be more conducive to your goals.0 -
Without logging, how do you know you have calories left over?
And how did you figure out your exercise burn?0 -
christinev297 wrote: »But how do you know how many calories you had left over if you're not logging?
I have done some random tracking. I'm not exactly consistent.
Then you have no idea.
Don't mean to be harsh, but yeah, I'm with your mom on this one.
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Without logging, how do you know you have calories left over?
And how did you figure out your exercise burn?
yeah, something is definitely not adding up here. ..
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I think maybe a little more commitment is in order on your end, make your diary private and log everything, EVEN the real crap days. You will see in my diary I do eat out, and sometimes I'm a little over. And sometimes I'm WAY over.
I have lost almost 60lbs since August of last year. If you are really committed, you will find a way to re-evaluate how you think of food, portions, and binge-triggers. Mine is anger. Get me angry, I'll eat 5 Whoppers and a milkshake.
If you have health insurance, see if they will cover a dietician or a nutritionist so they can get you on an easy to understand plan and weightloss goal. If you need a therapist because you have a skewed perception of food, don't be afraid to go and look for one.0 -
christinev297 wrote: »But how do you know how many calories you had left over if you're not logging?
I have done some random tracking. I'm not exactly consistent.
I really really recommend that you tighten up your logging and log accurately and consistently. I agree that you should allow yourself some treats, but I'm worried that if you're not logging accurately then you won't get anywhere. I personally feel that if your mother is willing to pay for your gym membership then she should be happy that you are working out and being healthier rather than demanding immediate physical results, this is a separate issue however. Log accurately and consistently for yourself, and let the results speak for themselves. 0 -
Also it won't matter how much you work out if your diet isn't on point.
You can't outrun a bad diet.
You've received some excellent advice here. Now it's 100% in your hands0 -
its like talking to the wall...........-1
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callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »its like talking to the wall...........
yes, it's starting to look that way
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I'm sure she's just gone somewhere.
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lose enough weight and your mom will start BUYING sundaes for you.
at least that has been my experience. 0 -
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ogmomma2012 wrote: »I'm sure she's just gone somewhere.
Posting here earned her another treat.
I'm not gonna rag on her, I remember trying those kinds of baby steps... I sent her a friend request hoping she'll gain some courage seeing my feed.0 -
ogmomma2012 wrote: »I'm sure she's just gone somewhere.
Maybe I'm wrong. It's just the impression I'm getting. Like she's making a half hearted attempt??
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isn't she in New Zealand? maybe she's just asleep....
Checked the timezone - apparently not an excuse.0
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