Husband Rant
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Tell him hes going to have a can of whoopass for dinner.0
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Men just don't see things like we do and what is important to us may seem silly to them. My husband will acknowledge that my hard work is paying off and how he admires my dedication one day and the next he's ranting about how I'm "obsessed" and need to cut back. Really? I either do cardio or lifting once a day. Rarely do I ever do both in one day and I never work out for longer than 1 hr in one sitting. I take rest days every week. I've noticed that his attitude depends on what's going on with HIM. For whatever reason, he projects onto me whatever he's dealing with. So if I don't have "time" for him because I need to get my 40 min workout done, suddenly it's an obsession. Any other time he's got his own thing going and couldn't care less if I'm working out or splitting the atom. All I can tell you, honey is that men are a different animal and don't expect them to act or react like us (ladies). Undoubtedly they feel the same way about us. You know the truth in this case. Chalk it up to the whole Venus/Mars thing and keep working you *kitten* off!0
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aquamarina_182 wrote: »tat2cookie wrote: »I refuse to workout in front of my husband for that reason right there. The last time I tried I was getting on the treadmill and he lectured me about how I was doing it wrong..... Seriously. I have been using the damn thing for 5 years... He used it twice, 5 years ago. The man who never exercises is an expert on fitness. I told him the next time he did that I'd use his nuts as a punching bag.
haha....his nuts as a punching bag... Love it! I will so totally tell my boyfriend that the next time he adds in his 2 cents...why do they always do that?!
yep. because threatening sexual violence is always a good idea. how would you feel if a guy came into this thread and said that his girlfriend wasn't supportive, so he told her next time she said anything he'd punch her.
there's a lot of sexism in this thread, and it ain't comin' from the men.
it was just a joke! my bf and I always joke around with each other its not necesarrily sexism ugh0 -
I think divorce or kicking him in the nuts is a little extreme. Maybe next time just tell him to deal with the boiling pasta water and/or the 3 yr old. At 61 I have come to the conclusion that men are pretty dense at times.
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Men just don't see things like we do and what is important to us may seem silly to them. My husband will acknowledge that my hard work is paying off and how he admires my dedication one day and the next he's ranting about how I'm "obsessed" and need to cut back. Really? I either do cardio or lifting once a day. Rarely do I ever do both in one day and I never work out for longer than 1 hr in one sitting. I take rest days every week. I've noticed that his attitude depends on what's going on with HIM. For whatever reason, he projects onto me whatever he's dealing with. So if I don't have "time" for him because I need to get my 40 min workout done, suddenly it's an obsession. Any other time he's got his own thing going and couldn't care less if I'm working out or splitting the atom. All I can tell you, honey is that men are a different animal and don't expect them to act or react like us (ladies). Undoubtedly they feel the same way about us. You know the truth in this case. Chalk it up to the whole Venus/Mars thing and keep working you *kitten* off!
We do care really, oh wait is that my Tee time being called out
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yep. because threatening sexual violence is always a good idea. how would you feel if a guy came into this thread and said that his girlfriend wasn't supportive, so he told her next time she said anything he'd punch her.
there's a lot of sexism in this thread, and it ain't comin' from the men.
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Ok totally off topic with the husband rant thing...but totally how im feeling about evrything lately...something is always offensive to someone jeez. oh it's sexist, oh its this, oh its that....*sigh*
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rqevO_zrxsA 0 -
MrCoolGrim wrote: »Men just don't see things like we do and what is important to us may seem silly to them. My husband will acknowledge that my hard work is paying off and how he admires my dedication one day and the next he's ranting about how I'm "obsessed" and need to cut back. Really? I either do cardio or lifting once a day. Rarely do I ever do both in one day and I never work out for longer than 1 hr in one sitting. I take rest days every week. I've noticed that his attitude depends on what's going on with HIM. For whatever reason, he projects onto me whatever he's dealing with. So if I don't have "time" for him because I need to get my 40 min workout done, suddenly it's an obsession. Any other time he's got his own thing going and couldn't care less if I'm working out or splitting the atom. All I can tell you, honey is that men are a different animal and don't expect them to act or react like us (ladies). Undoubtedly they feel the same way about us. You know the truth in this case. Chalk it up to the whole Venus/Mars thing and keep working you *kitten* off!
We do care really, oh wait is that my Tee time being called out
lmbo thank you for the perspective!
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laurielima wrote: »MrCoolGrim wrote: »Men just don't see things like we do and what is important to us may seem silly to them. My husband will acknowledge that my hard work is paying off and how he admires my dedication one day and the next he's ranting about how I'm "obsessed" and need to cut back. Really? I either do cardio or lifting once a day. Rarely do I ever do both in one day and I never work out for longer than 1 hr in one sitting. I take rest days every week. I've noticed that his attitude depends on what's going on with HIM. For whatever reason, he projects onto me whatever he's dealing with. So if I don't have "time" for him because I need to get my 40 min workout done, suddenly it's an obsession. Any other time he's got his own thing going and couldn't care less if I'm working out or splitting the atom. All I can tell you, honey is that men are a different animal and don't expect them to act or react like us (ladies). Undoubtedly they feel the same way about us. You know the truth in this case. Chalk it up to the whole Venus/Mars thing and keep working you *kitten* off!
We do care really, oh wait is that my Tee time being called out
lmbo thank you for the perspective!
He's right. We totally do care. Just as soon as this next inning is over/next set of downs/the next commercial/...we'll totally be supportive then.0 -
Just get a divorce, it won't get any better. He obviously doesn't love you.
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Sleep naked. He will notice then!
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Oh or workout naked. Maybe I'll just start running on the treadmill a la birthday suite. It will either be awesome or traumatic... Either way I bet he's be speechless. Lol0
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This thread makes me a little happier about my husband being supportive of my weight loss. He joins me when I exercise, and especially loves watching me do squats hahaha0
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tat2cookie wrote: »Oh or workout naked. Maybe I'll just start running on the treadmill a la birthday suite. It will either be awesome or traumatic... Either way I bet he's be speechless. Lol
Lmao! Speachless indeed lol.0 -
Where fitness is concerned, my wife rarely asks for my honest opinion and more rare that I offer unsolicited advice.0
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My husband is supportive and doesn't criticize but my 15-year-old daughter sure does! She has been in dance since 1st grade and seems to think that makes her some kind of personal trainer. I finally had to tell her if she didn't stop giving me "advice" she was going to have to stay in her room while I work out because it's really not helpful! She leaves me alone now.
*kitten*. lesson learned. i've been a dancer since 1989 at age 4 ... aaaaand i've done this to my mom pretty much ever since. SOOO...maybe I deserved a taste of my own medicine from my hubby, now that you bring this up! Damn it!!!! hahaha
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that first word was s**t. i like bad words. a lot. lol.0
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MelWick524 wrote: »that first word was s**t. i like bad words. a lot. lol.
Pottymouth. What the *kitten* is wrong with you?0 -
redneck_princess1687 wrote: »I refuse to workout in front of my husband. He has never been rude, but not really supportive either. I also work full time, manage a home, have a 6 year old boy. My husband works 12 hours a day so he doesn't see everything that I do when I am home. Made a comment about getting back into my workout routine...ummm, I have been and continure to be on a routine that I am busting my a** to get done every day! It is frustrating but I don't listen to him anymore.
right?!?!?! yeah the closest thing i've gotten to a supportive comment lately was..."please don't fall off the wagon because i can't afford to feed you when you are on a binge" lol. he meant it funny, he IS funny...again, i love this dude to death.0 -
MelWick524 wrote: »So, I'm down 13lbs (since the end of January) and I've been busting my A** weighing and counting everything and hitting the gym after work and on the weekends 5 days a week and doing a home HIIT circuit the other 2 days a week. I push myself beyond the limits I thought I had, and I'm FINALLY having success and feeling awesome about myself. Last night, my hubby came home while I was on round 3 of 3 of my home HIIT workout and saw me struggling on my 3rd one-minute set of mountain climbers in my kitchen, while my three year-old was pulling on my shirt and my pasta water was about to boil over. I made a quick comment, "damn mountain climbers get me every time"...and he followed up with this..."If you want my honest opinion, I see how you work out, and I think you're not seeing results because you're not working hard enough." WHAT?!?!?! The funny thing is, I AM seeing results, I'm putting all my effort into getting healthy and fit, working full-time and managing a home, and...I'm not working hard enough? LOL! I ask for his support and motivation and honest opinions, but...this honest opinion sucked! This man is the love of my life, and I think he was trying to do the "Jillian Michaels Tough-Love" bit ... but ... well ... no! UGH!!!
Ha! That was not a smart comment. Good for you for not turning violent in the moment.
Do you talk to your dh about your plan? I think sometimes people ask for support, etc but don't give details or little successes. Does he know that you feel like you are making decent progress and pushing beyond your limits all the time?
I would calmly let him know that he is wrong about what healthy weight loss is and how hard you need to work.
Invite him to cook dinner, distract child or workout with you.
thank you :-) he's a chef, so i hate asking him to cook after work, lol...but we trade off so i can't complain. i didn't mention to you guys my LONG history with eating disorders, which makes me extra sensitive...because he said one thing, but my screwy brain heard, "YOU ARE FAILING. YOU ARE FAILING. YOU ARE FAILING." Not to get all deep on you guys, but I do know I probably internalized it a little more than the normal folks would, lol
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Not sure if that's worse or better than what my hub said "eat whatever you want, you have been eating so healthy for a whole week. One day won't hurt" I don't need his help wearing down my resolve to lose weight or my willpower to avoid fast food. He meant well, but ugh.
OMG YES!!! When I was at my fittest (and skinniest, although I hate defining myself as fat or skinny...but...just to paint a picture here) back in '09, I CLEARLY remember my hubby saying these same things...so i listened...EVERY DAY...and by the time I got pregnant in '10, I'd gained back 25lbs and then I packed on another 55ish during pregnancy! lol.0 -
Men just don't see things like we do and what is important to us may seem silly to them. My husband will acknowledge that my hard work is paying off and how he admires my dedication one day and the next he's ranting about how I'm "obsessed" and need to cut back. Really? I either do cardio or lifting once a day. Rarely do I ever do both in one day and I never work out for longer than 1 hr in one sitting. I take rest days every week. I've noticed that his attitude depends on what's going on with HIM. For whatever reason, he projects onto me whatever he's dealing with. So if I don't have "time" for him because I need to get my 40 min workout done, suddenly it's an obsession. Any other time he's got his own thing going and couldn't care less if I'm working out or splitting the atom. All I can tell you, honey is that men are a different animal and don't expect them to act or react like us (ladies). Undoubtedly they feel the same way about us. You know the truth in this case. Chalk it up to the whole Venus/Mars thing and keep working you *kitten* off!
yes yes yes yes and this is why i LOVE this site!!!!
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Edwardshar wrote: »Just get a divorce, it won't get any better. He obviously doesn't love you.
hahaha I don't even know how you wrote that, but it made me giggle!!0 -
HAHA perhaps it's time for a kick boxing class?0
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tat2cookie wrote: »Oh or workout naked. Maybe I'll just start running on the treadmill a la birthday suite. It will either be awesome or traumatic... Either way I bet he's be speechless. Lol
This.
JUST.
Wow.
LOL!!!!!
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Hubby is getting a kiss on the forehead when I get home. He was the fitness buff when we met. Now I'm running around and he's making excuses. But his advice has always been kind and appropriate. He got a good look at my bat wings at the swimming pool this weekend and suggested several arm lifts to help firm them up a bit.
Yep my hubs is getting a big kiss too. He usually tells me to slow it down a notch, and that I look fantastic. That being said we both know he couldn't keep up with me in a workout so he doesn't pretend like he can.0 -
My wife has trained me to understand the unpleasant circumstances of such unsolicited commentary. I should note for the record that she is my second wife for a reason. I am now domesticated and housebroken.0
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I've been married for 38 years to the same woman, so I've "learned" a few things. One of them is to never, ever, under any circumstance, offer unsolicited advice. Another nugget of wisdom is to never, ever, under any circumstance, notice that she might possibly have put on a pound or twenty.0
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tincanonastring wrote: »MelWick524 wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »We are not smart and never claimed to be.
that BEARD! you put my man's scraggly grizzle to shame with that beast!
Maybe if he put more effort into it...
LOLZ!!0
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