People want so desperately to be the exception...
bonitacash08
Posts: 378 Member
Why?
Why is it so hard for us to accept the reality of things that are too good to be true or just not good for us?
We all want the *kitten* guy, the get rich quick scheme, the two day diet, the 5 minute facelift, etc... What is wrong with patience and common sense?
If that guy's a jerk to EVERY other girl, what makes you think he'll treat you different?
If THOUSANDS of people have lost money to this scheme, why would you be the millionaire?
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If it seems too easy, why bother? There are things in life that are going to require hard work. That's it. Bottom line. There's no shortcut to success, no matter what area of life. You want to make money and be successful? Work hard. You want a great relationship? Work hard. You want a great body? WORK HARD.
This is diet and weight loss related because this maddening desire to be the exception is taking over the fitness world. We have to work hard. We have to give ourselves the effort.
When people tell you to eat more, they're not trying to be mean or insensitive. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. They're trying to help you. You're not the exception.
When people tell you to lift weights, they're not trying to bash cardio. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. You're not the exception.
When people tell you those diet pills, wraps, shakes, supplements and VLCDs don't work, THEY'RE NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN OR INSENSITIVE. IT'S BECAUSE THEY'VE TRIED WHAT YOU'RE DOING, THOUGHT WHAT YOU'RE THINKING, AND LEARNED FROM THEIR MISTAKES. YOU'RE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
You're not the exception. Treat your body right. You're the rule.
Why is it so hard for us to accept the reality of things that are too good to be true or just not good for us?
We all want the *kitten* guy, the get rich quick scheme, the two day diet, the 5 minute facelift, etc... What is wrong with patience and common sense?
If that guy's a jerk to EVERY other girl, what makes you think he'll treat you different?
If THOUSANDS of people have lost money to this scheme, why would you be the millionaire?
...
If it seems too easy, why bother? There are things in life that are going to require hard work. That's it. Bottom line. There's no shortcut to success, no matter what area of life. You want to make money and be successful? Work hard. You want a great relationship? Work hard. You want a great body? WORK HARD.
This is diet and weight loss related because this maddening desire to be the exception is taking over the fitness world. We have to work hard. We have to give ourselves the effort.
When people tell you to eat more, they're not trying to be mean or insensitive. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. They're trying to help you. You're not the exception.
When people tell you to lift weights, they're not trying to bash cardio. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. You're not the exception.
When people tell you those diet pills, wraps, shakes, supplements and VLCDs don't work, THEY'RE NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN OR INSENSITIVE. IT'S BECAUSE THEY'VE TRIED WHAT YOU'RE DOING, THOUGHT WHAT YOU'RE THINKING, AND LEARNED FROM THEIR MISTAKES. YOU'RE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
You're not the exception. Treat your body right. You're the rule.
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Thank you. Well stated.
Its frustrating to read so many posts asking what really are good questions, getting good answers...but then the OP rejects all the answers that don't match some idea they already had, because they're special snowflakes.
Its a steep learning curve. People aren't being mean just because they're telling the truth.0 -
Love it!0
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Nice!0
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So much truth in this post. Well put.0
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So much truth in this post. Well put.
the truth has no place on the internet!!!0 -
LOVE THIS!!!
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I love this post. I feel like that has been the story of my life. Trying every fad diet that came around. Not any more... I finally figured out I have to do the work to get there.0
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So much truth in this post. Well put.
the truth has no place on the internet!!!
Ain't that the truth0 -
Well stated.0
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These links may help some people:
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/983158-all-in-one-info-page-halp0 -
Amen to this! We're part of a drive-thru, disposable society & we want it our-way....NOW! We don't want to put in the work it takes to earn what we want.....be it the great job (we settle for mediocrity), the marriage (we get divorced), the body (we get fat). We need to tap in to our own determination and put in the work.0
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Great post...loved it.0
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My reply to MEGMOMS2
I agree. Great post. I have always welcomed truth weather it's not what I want to hear or not. What I don't like is the arrogant people on here throwing out their opinions, turth or not and being snarky about it. At that point, it is just being mean. It's seems to be a trend on the forums. And if you go through a lot of the forums, you will see it's mainly the same people being mean to OP's that are maybe asking an obvious question, but are serious about wanting to know. Sometimes these people aren't educated and really just want to know.
I personally have witnessed this and felt so bad for the OP's. They don't deserve some sarcastic remark, or being made fun of for asking the question. However, this is supposed to be a tool to motivate, encourage and help people trying to lose weight, eat right and stay fit. If you or anyone feels it necessary to reply to an OP with a sarcastic or degrading tone, then I think you don't belong here and your opinion reaps no value.
Side note: I've seen more attacks on OP's for no reason than I have seen people not accepting the truth and becoming deffensive.
Point: You can always educate people with "the truth" in a nice manner. If they choose to become offensive, well then.....they just opened up the flood gate to every person who is having a crappy day or has a low self-esteem and ready to make themselves feel better by making fun of the OP.
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THIS!
There's no quick fix. It's easy to starve yourself to your goal weight in 5 weeks but then what about week 6? (Traditionally my problem) My metabolism is so messed up, I can't afford to eat properly because I'll pile it back on. (I did)
Trying to do it the sensible way this time. A decent amount of calories. Upping my activity levels. No pills or shakes. It has to be a sustainable lifestyle choice for me to consider it. So...
Walking to work (yes)
Being aware of drinking my calories (yes)
Stopping drinking altogether (no)
Anything with "miracle" in the title (no)
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Excellent. Just to defend some of the really successful who have done well, they got successful because they more than likely became obsessed with whatever it is they were trying to become successful at and sacrificed a lot as well as stepped on some people along the way. In general, the majority of the people don't want to dedicate their lives to just one obsession and be self centered, which is why most people don't succeed the same way. These people also didn't do it in a few months or so but took YEARS and YEARS to get it done.Why?
Why is it so hard for us to accept the reality of things that are too good to be true or just not good for us?
We all want the *kitten* guy, the get rich quick scheme, the two day diet, the 5 minute facelift, etc... What is wrong with patience and common sense?
If that guy's a jerk to EVERY other girl, what makes you think he'll treat you different?
If THOUSANDS of people have lost money to this scheme, why would you be the millionaire?
...
If it seems too easy, why bother? There are things in life that are going to require hard work. That's it. Bottom line. There's no shortcut to success, no matter what area of life. You want to make money and be successful? Work hard. You want a great relationship? Work hard. You want a great body? WORK HARD.
This is diet and weight loss related because this maddening desire to be the exception is taking over the fitness world. We have to work hard. We have to give ourselves the effort.
When people tell you to eat more, they're not trying to be mean or insensitive. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. They're trying to help you. You're not the exception.
When people tell you to lift weights, they're not trying to bash cardio. It's because they've tried what you're doing, thought what you're thinking, and learned from their mistakes. You're not the exception.
When people tell you those diet pills, wraps, shakes, supplements and VLCDs don't work, THEY'RE NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN OR INSENSITIVE. IT'S BECAUSE THEY'VE TRIED WHAT YOU'RE DOING, THOUGHT WHAT YOU'RE THINKING, AND LEARNED FROM THEIR MISTAKES. YOU'RE NOT THE EXCEPTION.
You're not the exception. Treat your body right. You're the rule.
But you can attain SATISFACTORY success if you're life is balanced at just about anything you take on with some discipline and determination. Just don't believe that there are short cuts to any goal. As the OP mentioned, it takes WORK. How much you put in will usually end up on how much you get out.
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But what about when that *kitten* guy is mostly douchebaggy to you because he discovered you don't like his creepy friend? Why do guys keep creeps as friends? Like, your guy friend is really creepy when he is over complimenting every chick he works with and even making comments on the color of your lipstick (but is not gay, but brings up how he's still a virgin every chance he can). And I liked the guy (the non creepy one). Whatever, dude.
But, yes, I understand what the OP is saying totally. There is no magic pill to fix everything.0 -
my mum says im a special snowflake though...
nothing like ruining a good story with the truth
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Right on!0
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What's funny is that people who are successful and people who are not are usually equally self-centered... the difference lies in, as you say, how much real WORK is put into whatever you want to accomplish.
I feel like I've barely even pushed myself this year, but already I've lost more than 20 pounds, 3 clothing sizes, and have gained muscle. If I actually start working my *kitten* off at this, I am certain that I'll achieve the figure that I never even dreamed I could have, and maintain it!
People simply do not realize how MUCH they are capable of changing their own lives, no matter what their situation, financial status, health, etc. The only thing that holds us back from success is our own excuses. If you want to do something, YOU CAN DO IT!0 -
Applause.0
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Common sense like this is not so common these days....but it should be. 0
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Amen sistah0
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Bad Arguers… This is a free template to generate a bad argument message “proving” your pet scheme is not a scam. This is a DO NOT DO list. Don’t complain when you get ridiculed when your argument end up looking like it came out of this generator.
Sentence 1: Pick one of the following –
Lots of hilarious opinions here
I see a lot of speculation and very little fact
Bunch of amateur wannabe analysts here.
You guys have no idea what you’re talking about
Sentence 1.5: (scheme name) is not a scam.
Sentence 2: Pick one or more of the following
Sour grapes — you must be jealous of our success
You’re not in it— you must be a member to understand us, how it REALLY works
You just don’t understand us / it / whatever. You don’t have the mindset / positive attitude / training.
It paid me — and that’s all that matters
appeal to association with authority — (scheme name) is associated with big names, it can’t possibly be a scam!
“every thing else is a scam” — social security, federal reserve, IMF, are all scams. Why don’t you go after those?
anecdotal fallacy — i.e. “It’s not a scam (to me)” and my experience must be the universal truth
“appeal to age” — (Scheme name) / (Scheme parent company) is X years old! They have to know what they’re doing (to have last this long)!
“it ain’t a scam unless it’s convicted” — it haven’t been declared illegal (yet!)
“disgruntled” — you must be bitter from a prior failure
“Conspiracy” — you must work for a competitor / you’re just out to get hits for your blog / you are the 1% out to keep us 99% poor
“caveat emptor” — we know what we’re getting into and we don’t like being lectured to!
“appeal to lack of authority” — You have no reputation and therefore your evidence is worthless and your logic worthless.
“What’s your problem” — you must have a personal grudge against (Scheme leader) to say bad things about his company
fairness fallacy — you’re not being fair! You are biased! I demand you to present facts FAVORABLE to (scheme)!
Pick some other fallacy from fallacyfiles.org
Sentence 3: Pick one of the following:
So go ahead and bash, I’ll be laughing from the bank
You’re just negative
Why don’t you just leave us alone0 -
I've definitely seen more defensive posters than attacked ones. But it might just be my perception of the situation.0
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I attribute a lot of this to the incredible amount of coddling and fawning children have been getting for a couple generations. Everyone instilling the idea that you're special, unique, everyone's a winner, everyone gets a trophy, insulating kids from anything and everything that remotely is negative or not full of sunshine and lollipops.
Then when people reach the real world and try to assimilate they don't understand why they're failing. Why aren't things being handed to them no matter what? Why didn't they get that promotion even though the more qualified person did. Why can't they lose the weight that other person did even though they didn't do 1/10th the work? Etc...
I'm ranting.
Good luck everyone. :flowerforyou:0 -
AMAZING POST!!!!!!!
you're awesome lady!0 -
AMAZING POST!!!!!!!
you're awesome lady!
Lol thanks!0 -
Took me a lot of heartbreaking failures in love, life and health to realise that there are no short cuts, no quick fixes and no guarantees!
I've committed to MYSELF at last and I'm working hard now to make ME a happier person
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Well said! :drinker:0
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