why people are so cruel??

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  • nicfitnesszone
    nicfitnesszone Posts: 115 Member
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    Some people lack social etiquette. This is on that person who had no tact. Keep your chin up and focus on you goals.
  • ThickMcRunFast
    ThickMcRunFast Posts: 22,511 Member
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    laurielima wrote: »
    Well some people think more of themselves than they should...and then throw it up all over the rest of us.

    How is making a mistake about someone's age an example of this?


    OP, I highly doubt they were trying to be cruel to you. I don't even get how that comment is connected to weight. It seems that you are projecting your own insecurities. Just move on and don't let it affect your personal goals.
  • yesimpson
    yesimpson Posts: 1,372 Member
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    I think you should consider whether that person just wasn't wearing their glasses before you write yourself off as old-looking and unattractive.
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
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    Ever since my kids were teenagers, servers ask if there will be one check or multiple checks when we go out to eat together.

    My kids looked older than their ages, and I look younger. It is what it is. The person was probably not trying to be mean, people just need to learn to avoid the topics of age and weight in 99.9% of conversations.
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
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    ThickMcRunFast wrote: »
    laurielima wrote: »
    Well some people think more of themselves than they should...and then throw it up all over the rest of us.

    How is making a mistake about someone's age an example of this?


    OP, I highly doubt they were trying to be cruel to you. I don't even get how that comment is connected to weight. It seems that you are projecting your own insecurities. Just move on and don't let it affect your personal goals.

    I dont' remember asking your opinion. Throw it up all over someone else. Thank you.

  • hezemakiah
    hezemakiah Posts: 157 Member
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    Maybe they have vision problems.

    Once when I was 19 I was in a restaurant with my friends and two cops came up to me and started quizzing me about who I was, my age, my birthdate, etc....turns out I apparently looked like a 14-year-old runaway. It's not always easy to guess a person's age.
  • krysmuree
    krysmuree Posts: 326 Member
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    I've had children come up to me and ask me when I'm having my baby.
    I don't have children, nor am I pregnant.
    I'm also almost 25 and get mistaken for someone who can't see an R rated movie without an adult. Rude. ;)

    It'll happen. Don't let it get to you. Keep working towards your goals. <3

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nfWlot6h_JM
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
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    Someone this week thought I was Belgian. I was mortified.
  • marissafit06
    marissafit06 Posts: 1,996 Member
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    My husband started balding at a 19 and people used to give him dirty looks when we were first dating and I was 18. I looked a good 2-3 years younger than my age and he looked about 10 years older. I used it hate it when people asked if I was 15, but you get used to and they weren't trying to be rude.
  • Rivers2k
    Rivers2k Posts: 380 Member
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    This happens to people all the time. My mom asked my friends wife when she was due (she isn't pregnant). My mom was kicking herself for it all afternoon. Same thing happened to my sister recently.

    When I was about 20 I took my mom out for mothers day and the waitress said let me move the center piece so you can see your partner. My mom laughed so hard and I was so grossed out. Stuff like that happens to people all the time. Probably has nothing to do with weight.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
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    AmigaDona wrote: »
    2 days ago I was in a party with my friends, I was with my best friend when someone came close to me and told me is it your daughter?, I was so embarrassed when my friend told her no she we are friends. I feel so broken, we are the same age my friend and I but she is skinny and I am overweight, how to overcome this bad situation? I am so broken from what happened.

    It looks like you answered your own question. I can't say that this person was being cruel. We don't even know what either one of you look like. How can we make any judgements on this?

    Just keep working on yourself. That's all you can do.
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
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    I highly doubt the intent was to be cruel, or "break" you. And it's doubtful that the persons question had anything to do with your weight.

    Don't let people have so much power over you. It makes life a lot easier.
  • ThickMcRunFast
    ThickMcRunFast Posts: 22,511 Member
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    urloved33 wrote: »
    ThickMcRunFast wrote: »
    laurielima wrote: »
    Well some people think more of themselves than they should...and then throw it up all over the rest of us.

    How is making a mistake about someone's age an example of this?


    OP, I highly doubt they were trying to be cruel to you. I don't even get how that comment is connected to weight. It seems that you are projecting your own insecurities. Just move on and don't let it affect your personal goals.

    I dont' remember asking your opinion. Throw it up all over someone else. Thank you.

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    I'm genuinely curious, why is this so offensive? Should I punch the next person who cards me, even though I am far older than 21? Weep for days because someone dares to suggest I may be old enough to drive a minivan and have a stable 401k? I'm so confused by these answers.
  • Rivers2k
    Rivers2k Posts: 380 Member
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    The funniest is I had a friend that was substitute teacher who got escorted to the principals office cause the teacher though she was a student being wise. She actually sought another profession because it happened so often.
  • NewMeSM75
    NewMeSM75 Posts: 971 Member
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    I don't let remarks of strangers bother me. If they were trying to be rude, I would had came back with a smart@$$ remark and moved on.
  • EvgeniZyntx
    EvgeniZyntx Posts: 24,208 Member
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    urloved33 wrote: »
    ThickMcRunFast wrote: »
    laurielima wrote: »
    Well some people think more of themselves than they should...and then throw it up all over the rest of us.

    How is making a mistake about someone's age an example of this?


    OP, I highly doubt they were trying to be cruel to you. I don't even get how that comment is connected to weight. It seems that you are projecting your own insecurities. Just move on and don't let it affect your personal goals.

    I dont' remember asking your opinion. Throw it up all over someone else. Thank you.

    Why so unloved?
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
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    urloved33 wrote: »
    ThickMcRunFast wrote: »
    laurielima wrote: »
    Well some people think more of themselves than they should...and then throw it up all over the rest of us.

    How is making a mistake about someone's age an example of this?


    OP, I highly doubt they were trying to be cruel to you. I don't even get how that comment is connected to weight. It seems that you are projecting your own insecurities. Just move on and don't let it affect your personal goals.

    I dont' remember asking your opinion. Throw it up all over someone else. Thank you.
    Um, she doesn't need you to ask.
  • Juvenica
    Juvenica Posts: 460 Member
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    Let your steam off by working your butt off !!! ( we've all been there )
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
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    I dated a guy when I was 16 that everyone asked if he was my older brother, he even got called out as a pedophile when someone saw us kissing because they assumed he was a much older guy or even potentially my father. He was 6'4" with a beard, I was 5'1" and looked around 14 at the time despite being a little older. When I was 18, I was mistaken for 16, and at 21 mistaken for 18, and the cycle still continues to this day.

    People do make mistakes, not always with an intention to cause hurt. If they did it on purpose, that's one thing. But it may have been an awkward mistake :( I'm very sorry it hurt you and I hope you can overcome it and realize it doesn't have to drag you down. You are strong!

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