Family Not Encouraging About My Fitness Goal

KingsGirl4

This past weekend I finally shared with my family and friends a huge fitness goal I am working towards, and I didn't get good reactions from them. I'm feeling super unmotivated now and am doubting myself that I can accomplish this goal. I feel embarrassed about even bringing it up.

I've already accomplished a lot thus far which is why I was confident I can accomplish my goal by July, but now I'm struggling to stay on track mentally.

I'd appreciate any encouragement and feedback. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How did you overcome it?

Thank you!

ekz13

Just do it for you and not for them... not sure what reactions you were expecting, but focus on how you feel and what you want to accomplish, not the "atta-girls" that come with it.. head down...ever forward..

slgraha

I agree with ekz13. Your fitness goal should be for you and not them. Instead of allowing them to bring you down and get you off track, use their negativity as motivation by proving them wrong. You can do anything you set your mind to, you just have to believe in yourself.

tulips_and_tea

KingsGirl4 wrote: »

This past weekend I finally shared with my family and friends a huge fitness goal I am working towards, and I didn't get good reactions from them. I'm feeling super unmotivated now and am doubting myself that I can accomplish this goal. I feel embarrassed about even bringing it up.

I've already accomplished a lot thus far which is why I was confident I can accomplish my goal by July, but now I'm struggling to stay on track mentally.

I'd appreciate any encouragement and feedback. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How did you overcome it?

Thank you!

See? By your own words you already know you don't NEED their support and approval. Sure, it would be nice, but the strength and determination are all inside of YOU. Nice to have support but it is best not to rely on it because it may disappear. Then what? You give up and blame them? No. Just do it - you've already shown that you can!

jkwolly

Do you!

Jealousy is an ugly beast, and people will try and make you doubt yourself because they are feeling crappy about themselves.

Stick to your goals, and do something that is sustainable long term!

mumblemagic

Sorry your family are not supporting you. It sucks.

What are your current stats and what is your goal? Is it possible that they think your goal is unhealthy?

csk0018

Don't worry about what they think... you need to do this for yourself. When I first started trying to lose weight... my parents chuckled when they saw me measuring my rice out before dinner. After a while, they knew I was serious and now, my mom makes healthier dishes when I come over for dinner. It's awesome!

TavistockToad

KingsGirl4 wrote: »

This past weekend I finally shared with my family and friends a huge fitness goal I am working towards, and I didn't get good reactions from them. I'm feeling super unmotivated now and am doubting myself that I can accomplish this goal. I feel embarrassed about even bringing it up.

I've already accomplished a lot thus far which is why I was confident I can accomplish my goal by July, but now I'm struggling to stay on track mentally.

I'd appreciate any encouragement and feedback. Have any of you dealt with a similar situation? How did you overcome it?

Thank you!

What is it?

tulips_and_tea

Yeah, I'm curious as to what the fitness goal is as well.

jgnatca

I feel your pain. The first time I lost significant weight (I was about your age), I received opposition and jealousy from my own mother! She accused me of anorexia (I was at the top of my BMI range, and made very healthy choices, slow weight loss), and tried to feed me every time she saw me. I finally figured out that I was skinnier than her for the first time. It was devastating to realize my own mother could be so shallow as to treat me as a rival.

I stopped the program and slowly started putting the weight back on.

Trust me, as a mature woman, it's not worth it to put your happiness in the hands of others. Do this for you; that's all that matters.

mumblemagic

Ok, so your profile says that you were *obese* at 172 lbs. That either puts you at about 5" tall or you might have been mistaken about what a healthy weight for you is.

Take a look at this chart:
http://www.nhs.uk/livewell/healthy-living/pages/height-weight-chart.aspx

NewMeSM75

Attitude is everything. When you set your mind to doing this, you will and no one (nor their opinions) will matter. Or that's just my opinion.

kimny72

What reaction did they have? Were they just not as excited as you are, or were they not happy with what you have planned?

If you respect the opinion of these people, take a second look at this goal. Is it unhealthy or dangerous? Is it something that will move you away from plans you used to have that maybe they were more comfortable with? If their reaction was really negative, is achieving this goal worth alienating these people?

If you re-examine this goal and decide it is truly something you want to do, keep explaining why it is so awesome for you to your family and hopefully as you start to succeed they will come around.

If they just weren't excited enough, I hate to be blunt, but that's life. In my experience, once you're an adult it's pretty rare for other people to be as excited about your goals and plans as you are. If the goal is worthwhile, you just have to do you and find the motivation and drive inside yourself!

BicepsAndBows

It can be hard when you don't feel like you have support. Try finding some friends on here or in real life who have similar goals and encourage each other & share your progress with them. At the end of the day, you have to do this for you. And, it'll make it that much sweeter once you reach your goal and prove anyone who doubted you wrong!

KingsGirl4

Thank you all so much for your insight.

My goal is not unhealthy/dangerous. Their reactions were more like "yah right, you can't achieve that." I do respect their opinions which is why it was hurtful having that "no you can't" response. But thanks to the consensus of the group, you all reminded me that I am that person who achieves what I put my mind to if I want it bad enough.

@mumblemagic I was technically considered obese by my BMI. I am still considered overwight by my BMI. I am trying to make it to the normal weight range for my BMI.

mumblemagic

KingsGirl4 wrote: »

Thank you all so much for your insight.

My goal is not unhealthy/dangerous. Their reactions were more like "yah right, you can't achieve that." I do respect their opinions which is why it was hurtful having that "no you can't" response. But thanks to the consensus of the group, you all reminded me that I am that person who achieves what I put my mind to if I want it bad enough.

@mumblemagic I was technically considered obese by my BMI. I am still considered overwight by my BMI. I am trying to make it to the normal weight range for my BMI.

In that case they're definitely out of order. You can totally do this! There are so many people on this site who have really struggled to lose weight and succeeded. It's easier with help from your family but not impossible.

Good luck

urloved33

I dont really even talk about this or my fitness stuff to my family or anyone...i wait until the say...hey you look good. My children are very supportive....so I am grateful for that.

trisH_7183

I seldom mention wt loss to anyone. Not sure why,just prefer to keep my thoughts to myself. Do what works for you. If you need approval,join some threads or get more friends on here. Good luck.