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ayannabayer
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I just wanted to point out the fact that most people come here for positive feed back. I like to seek information from other peoples personal experiences. People keep saying "shut up & do the work. No quick fixes." Okay, I'm obviously doing work already. Do you all think I just sit around and make threads , waiting of a quick fix? NO! I work my a** off everyday. Its not against fitness pals rules to ask questions. If I want to know what other people have tried. I WILL ASK. If I try it, its up to me. I don't need negative, annoying people giving feedback about how I'm annoying them. If you clearly seen the discussion title was something you don't like, you should've not read it. There are so many rude, arrogant, people on here,and its really sad and discouraging to people like me, who just have simple questions & get disrespected by people who don't even know what their talking about.
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Oh people are going to have fun with this. Just warning u! Honestly whatever u might post about there are some who may come across blunt or even a bit mean. Its an open forum so thats how it goes. Its more because mfp is about calorie counting ...not other diets.0
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If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.0 -
jenncornelsen wrote: »Oh people are going to have fun with this. Just warning u! Honestly whatever u might post about there are some who may come across blunt or even a bit mean. Its an open forum so thats how it goes. Its more because mfp is about calorie counting ...not other diets.
Of course its about calorie counting. My point is, I can ask if other people have done other things & form my own opinions. You say "oh people are going to have fun with this." I'm glad! The ones that will have fun are the ones I'm referring to. Who should be more concerned about losing weight than being a**holes to everyone.0 -
jenncornelsen wrote: »Oh people are going to have fun with this. Just warning u! Honestly whatever u might post about there are some who may come across blunt or even a bit mean. Its an open forum so thats how it goes. Its more because mfp is about calorie counting ...not other diets.
This. Sorry that you may not want to hear that something doesn't work or it might not be beneficial to do because it doesn't help in the long term. This is an open forum so you will get negative and positive answers. And, there should be nothing wrong with that because you should open yourself up to both perspectives.0 -
If I'm on here and you have a question, hit me up. I can answer or at least point you in the right direction. Sometimes people forget where they started from, so you might get a little attitude but hey, focus on your journey. If you're doing what you're supposed to, it'll show.0
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If I'm on here and you have a question, hit me up. I can answer or at least point you in the right direction. Sometimes people forget where they started from, so you might get a little attitude but hey, focus on your journey. If you're doing what you're supposed to, it'll show.
I don't think people forget, I think people remember all too well where they started. And the mistakes and pitfalls they fell in. And they want to pass that on to the people that are new to this.0 -
never2bstopped wrote: »If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.
Its not that. But see how you just critized me? It was in a way that I can accept. People on here are just flat out rude. There is a way to convey your message without treating someone like they're an idiot.0 -
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never2bstopped wrote: »If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.
Wow people. I don't know that her issue was with the negative feedback as much as the way in which it was presented. She is 19 years old......
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Oh like fad diets?
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There are really only maybe 10 people on this site who feel compelled to shoot down anything people say that they disagree with. But they seem to be on the site 24/7. It's easy to round up the usual suspects.
It would be something like this: "I am thinking of going low-carb." Response - "Other than if you have a specific health issue, there is no reason to go low-carb."
Or this: "I'm trying to cut down my sugar consumption." Response - there is no reason to cut down your sugar consumption as long as you stay within your calorie goals.
It's sad.
Now tell me why that is sad?0 -
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jenncornelsen wrote: »Oh people are going to have fun with this. Just warning u! Honestly whatever u might post about there are some who may come across blunt or even a bit mean. Its an open forum so thats how it goes. Its more because mfp is about calorie counting ...not other diets.
This. Sorry that you may not want to hear that something doesn't work or it might not be beneficial to do because it doesn't help in the long term. This is an open forum so you will get negative and positive answers. And, there should be nothing wrong with that because you should open yourself up to both perspectives.
Its not that it's disappointing or hard to hear. I LOVE hearing the truth on how things worked out for people. My problem is, people on here are treating me like an idiot for just asking. They aren't even saying "aw, this didn't work for me." They're basically saying "shut up. We don't care. No one wants to hear this."0 -
ayannabayer wrote: »never2bstopped wrote: »If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.
Its not that. But see how you just critized me? It was in a way that I can accept. People on here are just flat out rude. There is a way to convey your message without treating someone like they're an idiot.
Your first few threads were informative at first. What is getting you the hostility is you continue to ask the same question in different words. People are tired of telling you the same answer.
You can only expect people to explain things nicely a few times. After that they begin to feel you are just flat out refusing to learn. It is at that point that you open yourself for ridicule and harsh answers.never2bstopped wrote: »If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.
I believe the OP is referring to the attacks and the mindless retorts, rather than constructive criticism or suggestions.never2bstopped wrote: »If there is only positive feed back how will you know if something is a good idea or not. It's the balance of positive and negative feed back that gives perspective on a subject.
It is actually quite childish to want only positive reinforcement.
Wow people. I don't know that her issue was with the negative feedback as much as the way in which it was presented. She is 19 years old......
Read above.0 -
WE'RE VERY HANGRY, OK??
TBH I think the problem is that a lot of the time, a beginner's post is likely to be the same as one they've heard time and time again so people can be short with their response.
I think it's better if people leave it for others who don't mind replying in a courteous fashion but, well, WE'RE VERY HANGRY AND NEED TO VENT!!0 -
ayannabayer wrote: »jenncornelsen wrote: »Oh people are going to have fun with this. Just warning u! Honestly whatever u might post about there are some who may come across blunt or even a bit mean. Its an open forum so thats how it goes. Its more because mfp is about calorie counting ...not other diets.
This. Sorry that you may not want to hear that something doesn't work or it might not be beneficial to do because it doesn't help in the long term. This is an open forum so you will get negative and positive answers. And, there should be nothing wrong with that because you should open yourself up to both perspectives.
Its not that it's disappointing or hard to hear. I LOVE hearing the truth on how things worked out for people. My problem is, people on here are treating me like an idiot for just asking. They aren't even saying "aw, this didn't work for me." They're basically saying "shut up. We don't care. No one wants to hear this."
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I think it's good to ask questions, but you might want to use the search feature to do some research just to see if your question has been answered before. Because MFP and its users do not want to fan up the flames of fad diets and junk science, a lot of members will let someone know right away when they're headed down that path. As you can imagine, there's a lot of misinformation to sort through when it comes to diet and fitness, so it's important to establish boundaries in the forums early and often. Sometimes it sounds harsh, but these members are just trying to make it so that the focus here stays on healthy and efficient ways to achieve our goals.0
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Someone pass me the popcorn.0
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Is this because all of your varied threads about detoxes go the same way? How many different times do you need to be told they're a bunch of nonsense?
People telling you what you don't want to hear aren't being a**holes, they are providing helpful information.
People seeing you start thread after thread about the same subject are tired of it all.0 -
If I'm on here and you have a question, hit me up. I can answer or at least point you in the right direction. Sometimes people forget where they started from, so you might get a little attitude but hey, focus on your journey. If you're doing what you're supposed to, it'll show.
Thank you!!!! That's exactly what I'm trying to say. Its hard loosing weight. And as young as I am, its hard for me to be the size that I am. It helps me when other people say "I've struggled with this." I've even had people tell me that a detox worked for them & jump started all the weight they managed to lose over years. I like different perspectives, not disrespect.0 -
ayannabayer wrote: »I just wanted to point out the fact that most people come here for positive feed back.
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, who just have simple questions & get disrespected by people who don't even know what their talking about.
Is judging other people's views as " not knowing what they are talking about ". Because you may disagree with them the sort of positive feedback you have to offer ? Seems hypocritical to me.0 -
They're trying to tell you that CICO works and you don't need puddings or whatever it is. This site is really about CICO and it works, doesn't cost anything and it's easy because you can eat whatever you choose within your limits.
I'm pretty sure you've been told that before and one you realise that you'll see why these other things you're asking about seem so silly to quite a lot of people here.
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ayannabayer wrote: »They're basically saying "shut up. We don't care. No one wants to hear this."
But isn't that kind of what you are doing here? You may not be saying 'shut up' but you are suggesting that you only want to hear from people who say things in a certain way and not from people who are more blunt?
Look, I don't know what prompted this post. And I see that you are a young woman and not an old lady like me but if you really want to make changes you have to start with how you take perceived criticism. Can people be a-holes? Sure. But that is about them, not YOU. Try taking a step back from the hurt feelings and try to get to the core of the message. The internet is not a great place for people with thin skins. I know it seems like that isn't fair, but it is blunt and the truth.
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valente347 wrote: »I think it's good to ask questions, but you might want to use the search feature to do some research just to see if your question has been answered before. Because MFP and its users do not want to fan up the flames of fad diets and junk science, a lot of members will let someone know right away when they're headed down that path. As you can imagine, there's a lot of misinformation to sort through when it comes to diet and fitness, so it's important to establish boundaries in the forums early and often. Sometimes it sounds harsh, but these members are just trying to make it so that the focus here stays on healthy and efficient ways to achieve our goals.
I love what you said. And this is very informational and helpful for me.0 -
mamapeach910 wrote: »Is this because all of your varied threads about detoxes go the same way? How many different times do you need to be told they're a bunch of nonsense?
People telling you what you don't want to hear aren't being a**holes, they are providing helpful information.
People seeing you start thread after thread about the same subject are tired of it all.
Its funny...bc when I post a positive thread about other things. Those people COMPLAINING SO MUCH have no positive advice for me.
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As I say to my kids "when you stop being a whiny little brat, let's talk"-6 -
I think this is less about the people on MFP and more about you're not getting the answers you want to hear. A quick search of your posting history:
Fad Diets
Rapid Pulse Diet (AKA, another Fad Diet)
Meal Replacements
Losing Inches Fast
Detox
Best Method for burning Fat
In other words, you're looking for quick ways to lose weight, in what is most likely not a sustainable way. People around here aren't going to advocate things that are:
1)Unhealthy
2)Unsustainable
3)Don't work
In these cases, people will not sugar coat things. And yes, there are TONS of threads about the exact same things you posted about. Using the search function in these situations are helpful before posting. But even without searching, what you are posting about is basically following the same circle. It's fine to ask questions. Questions are awesome, That's how we learn things - by asking questions. But the answers you get, may not always be what you want to hear, or conveyed in a way you want. That's just life.0 -
Have you ever heard the expression, "Know your audience"? I think it applies here.
I wasn't on the forums for five minutes before I knew that detoxes and fad diets were not well-regarded here (and with good reason, IMO).
You obviously have yet to notice that, because you keep posting threads about detoxes and fads and then are shocked when people have a negative reaction to them.
You can create as many threads as you want about whatever you want. And people can react to those threads as they see fit.0 -
ayannabayer wrote: »I just wanted to point out the fact that most people come here for positive feed back.
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, who just have simple questions & get disrespected by people who don't even know what their talking about.
Is judging other people's views as " not knowing what they are talking about ". Because you may disagree with them the sort of positive feedback you have to offer ? Seems hypocritical to me.
For instance when I brought up the book. People had no idea what if was about but yet had so much to say. I do t see anything hypocritical about that.0
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