Waitresses trying to sabotage me
mburgess458
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I tend to go over and over to the same restaurants for lunch during the week. Now that I have lost a bunch of weight the waitresses keep giving me extra food....a second pita with my kabob.....a second roll/piece of bread with my salad....soup I didn't order....spring rolls I didn't order....those sorts of things. I really don't remember that EVER happening before my weight loss, but I wasn't on MFP then so maybe it wouldn't have stood out to me. It isn't just errors because they will say "I put an extra xxxx in here for you".
Luckily I am usually getting my orders to go (to eat in the office) so I can give away or throw away the extra stuff but sometimes it is tempting to eat it instead. My wife says they probably think they need to help feed the skinny man (either consciously or subconsciously). I prefer to think that they are flirting with me. ;-) I'm sure the wife is closer to the truth.
Anyone else have similar issues surface after losing weight?
Luckily I am usually getting my orders to go (to eat in the office) so I can give away or throw away the extra stuff but sometimes it is tempting to eat it instead. My wife says they probably think they need to help feed the skinny man (either consciously or subconsciously). I prefer to think that they are flirting with me. ;-) I'm sure the wife is closer to the truth.
Anyone else have similar issues surface after losing weight?
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Simple fix... Tell them that while you appreciate their kindness, you actually don't need extra food adding to your order.
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No, but if you could give me the names/addresses of these restaurants that are giving extra food that would be helpful. I'm kind of hungry today.0
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Not really - but feel free to speak up for yourself?0
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I wish! I love BOGO deals. Buy lunch for today and get free lunch for tomorrow!0
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Agreedbeemerphile1 wrote: »I wish! I love BOGO deals. Buy lunch for today and get free lunch for tomorrow!
More food for leftovers is always a win!
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Just tell her "no, thank you" with a smile when she brings them over.
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I'd get a to-go box and save the extras for another day... maybe for a lunch that I don't eat out on, or dinner... maybe even as a snack. Nothing wrong with leftovers!0
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Keep the food for tomorrow. Just because they give it do you doesn't mean you have to eat it NOW. Sounds like a win win to me!0
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Yes I had to stop going to the chinese place that I love. I'm really good friends with the owners and I get a large helping every time I go. He tells me since I sometimes work seven days a week I need the extra food. Just keep it!0
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mburgess458 wrote: »I tend to go over and over to the same restaurants for lunch during the week. Now that I have lost a bunch of weight the waitresses keep giving me extra food....a second pita with my kabob.....a second roll/piece of bread with my salad....soup I didn't order....spring rolls I didn't order....those sorts of things. I really don't remember that EVER happening before my weight loss, but I wasn't on MFP then so maybe it wouldn't have stood out to me. It isn't just errors because they will say "I put an extra xxxx in here for you".
Luckily I am usually getting my orders to go (to eat in the office) so I can give away or throw away the extra stuff but sometimes it is tempting to eat it instead. My wife says they probably think they need to help feed the skinny man (either consciously or subconsciously). I prefer to think that they are flirting with me. ;-) I'm sure the wife is closer to the truth.
Anyone else have similar issues surface after losing weight?
Congrats on your weight loss.
Kinda cute, if you ask me. They're just trying to convince their food is good, and they probably are flirting with you.
The glass is half full, not half empty. Their flirtatious....ahem.....advances are an exercise for you to turn away and say, "no thanks, I'm satisfied with what I've got."
Also, it's a compliment that they are trying to fatten you up. That means you have been successful thus far in your weight loss goals.0 -
I do keep some of the food for the next day (like the soups). Homemade reads/rolls/pitas don't really keep so those get tossed. Sometimes it is stuff I don't really want to eat (like deep fried spring rolls) because I don't like them enough to justify the calories so I tend to give those away or toss.
I wasn't really trying to whine about a huge problem or anything, just curious if others had similar experiences.0 -
In...for sabotage.0
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mburgess458 wrote: »I do keep some of the food for the next day (like the soups). Homemade reads/rolls/pitas don't really keep so those get tossed. Sometimes it is stuff I don't really want to eat (like deep fried spring rolls) because I don't like them enough to justify the calories so I tend to give those away or toss.
I wasn't really trying to whine about a huge problem or anything, just curious if others had similar experiences.
No, I never had this experience, even when I was 95 lbs. Taking stuff home sounds perfect. And congrats on your loss.
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Paranoid a bit there?
Every restaurant I've been to that I am a regular at always give me a little extra food. It's their way of saying "Thank you for being a loyal customer." Accept it, take the food home, and be happy. The world isn't out to get you.0 -
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On easter, I went out for lunch with some family members. My sister who is also on a weight loss journey and I decided to split a seafood salad. Super healthy and low cal (and delicious!) The waiter then put in the middle of the table a plate of mini (but still 2-300 calorie) cinnamon rolls, hot out of the oven. I resisted for as long as I could but then did have one and worked it in to my day. Sigh...it was delicious but I could have had a LOT of food for the cost of that one tiny cinnamon roll!0
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Sounds like she's flirting with you. Refuse the extra food and ask instead for her phone number.
And other people can't make you gain weight unless you let them. Own your weight loss.0 -
If you're visiting there often enough, it could be they consider you a really good customer and feel like by treating you special you'll keep coming back. When I worked in a strip mall, I used to go to the corner sandwich shop to pick up lunch. They started slipping me free extras, but I highly doubt the 50 year old woman was flirting with me!0
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thisdizzy_dreamer wrote: »But I highly doubt the 50 year old woman was flirting with me!
Hey, you never know! 50 year old women flirt, too.
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thisdizzy_dreamer wrote: »If you're visiting there often enough, it could be they consider you a really good customer and feel like by treating you special you'll keep coming back. When I worked in a strip mall, I used to go to the corner sandwich shop to pick up lunch. They started slipping me free extras, but I highly doubt the 50 year old woman was flirting with me!
You never know... She might have been
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thisdizzy_dreamer wrote: »If you're visiting there often enough, it could be they consider you a really good customer and feel like by treating you special you'll keep coming back. When I worked in a strip mall, I used to go to the corner sandwich shop to pick up lunch. They started slipping me free extras, but I highly doubt the 50 year old woman was flirting with me!
You never know... She might have been
I know some 50 year old women who could put 20 year olds to shame. Meow!0 -
That ever your doing your doing it right. Keep it up.0
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thisdizzy_dreamer wrote: »But I highly doubt the 50 year old woman was flirting with me!
Hey, you never know! 50 year old women flirt, too.
Cougars! Grrrrrr!0 -
Just don't eat the extra food.0
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I don't know how long you've been married or what kind of relationship you have with your wife but I think you need to do some examination of your marriage before you do anything you can't undo here. Vows are not to be taken lightly and you really shouldn't just throw all of that away. Trust once broken is not easily regained.0
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Well, it's cool that you're a regular enough that the waitress are being cute and giving you extras. It seems that you just eat a small portion and bring home the leftovers, so have developed a strategy to deal with this.
So I don't understand the need to call this sabotage? Do you feel that caving in to eating that extra bit of food is imminent?
I'm sort of lost here.
I also don't understand the concept of sabotage frankly. I have food sitting in my pantry right now, just THERE. Taunting me. Waiting to be eaten. Is my pantry sabotaging me?0 -
I wouldn't call it sabotage. ... I myself have a real tendancy to feed people I like. You no longer appear to be overweight and most people who look at fit men assume they are active and need to eat a lot of food. Food is a complex social tool often used to express friendship, caring or love. If the waitresses feel like they know and like you because of your personality frequency of visits they are showing you extra kindness through something they can offer.
It can be really annoying to get these types of " friendship offerings however. It happens to me a lot at work and I imagine as I lose more weight it will only increase. I think you are handling it well. If you reject the extra food it may feel like you are rejecting the offer of friendly distinction.0 -
You're pretty close to your goal weight, aren't you? The waitress may be flirting with you or mothering you. You could stop the extra food by being blunt about it; threaten to switch restaurants if they don't stop bringing out extra food you didn't order. Or else you simply ask for a takeout container when the food is delivered.0
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mamapeach910 wrote: »Well, it's cool that you're a regular enough that the waitress are being cute and giving you extras. It seems that you just eat a small portion and bring home the leftovers, so have developed a strategy to deal with this.
So I don't understand the need to call this sabotage? Do you feel that caving in to eating that extra bit of food is imminent?
I'm sort of lost here.
I also don't understand the concept of sabotage frankly. I have food sitting in my pantry right now, just THERE. Taunting me. Waiting to be eaten. Is my pantry sabotaging me?
It's either sabotaging you or trying to get in your pants.0 -
the obv just jelly!!
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