Waitresses trying to sabotage me
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mamapeach910 wrote: »Well, it's cool that you're a regular enough that the waitress are being cute and giving you extras. It seems that you just eat a small portion and bring home the leftovers, so have developed a strategy to deal with this.
So I don't understand the need to call this sabotage? Do you feel that caving in to eating that extra bit of food is imminent?
I'm sort of lost here.
I also don't understand the concept of sabotage frankly. I have food sitting in my pantry right now, just THERE. Taunting me. Waiting to be eaten. Is my pantry sabotaging me?
It's either sabotaging you or trying to get in your pants.
Caramel popcorn with nuts... in my pants.
Kinky.
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I'm not understanding where people are getting a flirting vibe here...?
When a customer eats less, the shop has to wonder whether he just isn't liking the food as much any more. Even if they realize it's due to a weight loss program, there's the concern that the person may eventually just not come back. Restaurants love their "regulars" (if the regulars behave, anyway, and I'm sure most do). They're a cash cow the shop can count on. Regulars are also much more likely to recommend the shop to others. Restaurants and cafes have a VERY edge-of-the-knife day to day competition just to stay open, generally. It's a tough industry.
Waitresses learn early that the more "personal" and friendly they act with customers (for the most part), the bigger the tips and the more likely they are to get, and maintain, regulars. Although I do know a number of dudes who like to think they've still got it and that's why service people are so friendly toward them.
(Waitresses know they feel that way and will keep coming back because of it. Overall, wait staff are not stupid. Not by a long shot. Some are paid the absolute bare minimum and survive on tips. If they don't make you feel great about yourself, they can't pay their electric bill.)
Not seeing why anything the OP said indicates that the waitress urgently needs to get into his pants, unless it's to fish around in there for his wallet. If it is indeed flirty, I hardly think the OP's marriage is in danger. Waitresses know their clientele and what will bring the biggest tips. Little kids like to be joked around with and handed crayons, women like to have their shoes, jewelry or parenting complimented, and men, particularly the over-30s, like to have their egos stroked. I don't think there's a state of emergency here, frankly. These techniques are ages-old. 0 -
She is just doing it because she thinks it will get her a bigger tip.
I had this happen at a fast food restaurant. I ordered a juinor sized fry at Arby's to eat in. When I got my tray, the carton was stuffed the brim with fries and there were fries dumped everywhere on my tray. Probably like another two servings worth. I was like WTF? in my head, but I realized they just honestly thought they were doing me a favor because everyone likes more fries, right? I just threw all the extra in the trash and ate what I ordered anyway.0 -
mamapeach910 wrote: »mamapeach910 wrote: »Well, it's cool that you're a regular enough that the waitress are being cute and giving you extras. It seems that you just eat a small portion and bring home the leftovers, so have developed a strategy to deal with this.
So I don't understand the need to call this sabotage? Do you feel that caving in to eating that extra bit of food is imminent?
I'm sort of lost here.
I also don't understand the concept of sabotage frankly. I have food sitting in my pantry right now, just THERE. Taunting me. Waiting to be eaten. Is my pantry sabotaging me?
It's either sabotaging you or trying to get in your pants.
Caramel popcorn with nuts... in my pants.
Kinky.
MizzPeach,
You are officially my new hero!
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When i quit smoking, nobody pushed cigarettes on me. Even my still-smoking friends were respectful of my decision. hell, they showed deference and even offered support by volunteering not to smoke around me (which was unnecessary, but the thought was appreciated).
Shortly after getting comfortable as a non-smoker, i tackled my diet. Almost a year later, i find that many 'well-intentioned' people cannot help but try to convince me to have a pastry, ice cream, or whatever other treat i'm avoiding and they're indulging in.
It's frustrating, but i've gotten pretty good at saying "no thank you" without feeling guilty. Some people do get pushy, and i've learned to be blunt. "I'm not arguing with you; i choose not to eat that." After that, i started finding treats left on my desk. I throw them away. I've had "hurt" feelings from colleagues, and i shrug that off pretty easily too.
People don't take food seriously....0 -
When you order you could say you've noticed them giving extra items lately that you can not eat and ask for no extra food. You could look before you leave and take out anything you did not order and leave it there.
You could pack food from home and stop frequenting so many restaurants.0 -
Sabotage is an INTENT to derail someone from reaching a goal. Doesn't sound like sabotage. More like a "thank you" for being a good loyal customer.
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amyrebeccah wrote: »I'm not understanding where people are getting a flirting vibe here...?
When a customer eats less, the shop has to wonder whether he just isn't liking the food as much any more. Even if they realize it's due to a weight loss program, there's the concern that the person may eventually just not come back. Restaurants love their "regulars" (if the regulars behave, anyway, and I'm sure most do). They're a cash cow the shop can count on. Regulars are also much more likely to recommend the shop to others. Restaurants and cafes have a VERY edge-of-the-knife day to day competition just to stay open, generally. It's a tough industry.
Waitresses learn early that the more "personal" and friendly they act with customers (for the most part), the bigger the tips and the more likely they are to get, and maintain, regulars. Although I do know a number of dudes who like to think they've still got it and that's why service people are so friendly toward them. (Waitresses know they feel that way and will keep coming back because of it. Overall, wait staff are not stupid. Not by a long shot. Some are paid the absolute bare minimum and survive on tips. If they don't make you feel great about yourself, they can't pay their electric bill.)
Not seeing why anything the OP said indicates that the waitress urgently needs to get into his pants, unless it's to fish around in there for his wallet. If it is indeed flirty, I hardly think the OP's marriage is in danger. Waitresses know their clientele and what will bring the biggest tips. Little kids like to be joked around with and handed crayons, women like to have their shoes, jewelry or parenting complimented, and men, particularly the over-30s, like to have their egos stroked. I don't think there's a state of emergency here, frankly. These techniques are ages-old.
Most people purporting that the server is flirting with the OP are kidding and using hyperbole. But yes, you are correct, it's the OP is a regular and they're trying to do nice things to keep him/her happy.
Aha, missed that somehow.
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Yeah, I don't see this as sabotage. I see this as you being a regular so you get extra stuff. It's pretty common. We go to a local restaurant pretty regularly and I swear that every time I get a margarita they put more and more tequila in it. I've stopped ordering them as often because I have a low alcohol tolerance and I'm a bit afraid that my husband is going to have to start carrying me out to the car after dinner.0
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Yeah, I don't see this as sabotage. I see this as you being a regular so you get extra stuff. It's pretty common. We go to a local restaurant pretty regularly and I swear that every time I get a margarita they put more and more tequila in it. I've stopped ordering them as often because I have a low alcohol tolerance and I'm a bit afraid that my husband is going to have to start carrying me out to the car after dinner.
That sounds just awful.0 -
Yeah, I don't see this as sabotage. I see this as you being a regular so you get extra stuff. It's pretty common. We go to a local restaurant pretty regularly and I swear that every time I get a margarita they put more and more tequila in it. I've stopped ordering them as often because I have a low alcohol tolerance and I'm a bit afraid that my husband is going to have to start carrying me out to the car after dinner.
That sounds just awful.
The extra alcohol or not having it as often?0 -
Yeah, I don't see this as sabotage. I see this as you being a regular so you get extra stuff. It's pretty common. We go to a local restaurant pretty regularly and I swear that every time I get a margarita they put more and more tequila in it. I've stopped ordering them as often because I have a low alcohol tolerance and I'm a bit afraid that my husband is going to have to start carrying me out to the car after dinner.
Perhaps your husband is tipping them on the side for this outcome. Why are you sabotaging his efforts?0 -
Yeah, I don't see this as sabotage. I see this as you being a regular so you get extra stuff. It's pretty common. We go to a local restaurant pretty regularly and I swear that every time I get a margarita they put more and more tequila in it. I've stopped ordering them as often because I have a low alcohol tolerance and I'm a bit afraid that my husband is going to have to start carrying me out to the car after dinner.
Perhaps your husband is tipping them on the side for this outcome. Why are you sabotaging his efforts?
Hmm, sneaky, very sneaky.0 -
I agree with everyone else, the servers are just being nice to a good customer. I wouldn't say a word to them that is not appreciative. You seem to be handling it OK, by giving it away, or saving it for later, etc.
Or, why not take a co-worker with you to lunch, so you have someone to share your extra food with? Everyone eats lunch.0 -
I wish someone would sabotage me with free food. I
free food. 0 -
CrabNebula wrote: »She is just doing it because she thinks it will get her a bigger tip.
I had this happen at a fast food restaurant. I ordered a juinor sized fry at Arby's to eat in. When I got my tray, the carton was stuffed the brim with fries and there were fries dumped everywhere on my tray. Probably like another two servings worth. I was like WTF? in my head, but I realized they just honestly thought they were doing me a favor because everyone likes more fries, right? I just threw all the extra in the trash and ate what I ordered anyway.
You tipped your Arby's server, right?0 -
I absolutely hate it when people try to be nice to me! Don't you?
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jofjltncb6 wrote: »CrabNebula wrote: »She is just doing it because she thinks it will get her a bigger tip.
I had this happen at a fast food restaurant. I ordered a juinor sized fry at Arby's to eat in. When I got my tray, the carton was stuffed the brim with fries and there were fries dumped everywhere on my tray. Probably like another two servings worth. I was like WTF? in my head, but I realized they just honestly thought they were doing me a favor because everyone likes more fries, right? I just threw all the extra in the trash and ate what I ordered anyway.
You tipped your Arby's server, right?
Wait...I thought extra fries had to be fed to ducks.....
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BAAHAHAHemily_stew wrote: »CrabNebula wrote: »She is just doing it because she thinks it will get her a bigger tip.
I had this happen at a fast food restaurant. I ordered a juinor sized fry at Arby's to eat in. When I got my tray, the carton was stuffed the brim with fries and there were fries dumped everywhere on my tray. Probably like another two servings worth. I was like WTF? in my head, but I realized they just honestly thought they were doing me a favor because everyone likes more fries, right? I just threw all the extra in the trash and ate what I ordered anyway.
Heh. Hehheheheheh0 -
emily_stew wrote: »CrabNebula wrote: »She is just doing it because she thinks it will get her a bigger tip.
I had this happen at a fast food restaurant. I ordered a juinor sized fry at Arby's to eat in. When I got my tray, the carton was stuffed the brim with fries and there were fries dumped everywhere on my tray. Probably like another two servings worth. I was like WTF? in my head, but I realized they just honestly thought they were doing me a favor because everyone likes more fries, right? I just threw all the extra in the trash and ate what I ordered anyway.
Heh. Hehheheheheh
Okay, that took me a minute.
She's taking a chance there, there is no guarantee exactly how big that tip will be.
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I thought you were a woman and still started thinking the ladies were flirting. They might be trying to sabotage the marriage, not the weight loss 0
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Just to clear things up a little, I was only using the word "sabotage" jokingly. I never was trying to imply they are trying to make me gain weight. Just sharing something I noticed and asking if others had similar experiences.
It's hard to impart tone in a brief post. Sorry all.0 -
Seriously. Those waitresses have an unspoken bond with you and expect you to be faithful to your food and eat every bite of it. Don't throw away your food unless you're ready to toss away that kind of special bond that you share between you and your wait-staff!Vows are not to be taken lightly and you really shouldn't just throw all of that away. Trust once broken is not easily regained.0 -
RibStabsHeart wrote: »
Seriously. Those waitresses have an unspoken bond with you and expect you to be faithful to your food and eat every bite of it. Don't throw away your food unless you're ready to toss away that kind of special bond that you share between you and your wait-staff!Vows are not to be taken lightly and you really shouldn't just throw all of that away. Trust once broken is not easily regained.
They also expect to get into your pants, apparently...waitressing has come a long way!
Either that or customers have become MUCH more demanding...
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As a waitress, if there is a chance I can give people free food without getting caught, I'll do it if the table has been really nice with me. Most of the time we don't do it for a bigger tip, most of the time we just actually like giving you free stuff if it makes your day that little much better.
Though I am really good at judging what tables would appreciate the gesture more. :]0 -
Don't go out to eat but bring your own lunch to work? Saves you money too and keeps your diet on track. Unless you want to check out the waitresses then just order water haha0
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You are in control. Dont blame your eating habits on others.0
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Sounds like she's flirting with you. Refuse the extra food and ask instead for her phone number.
And other people can't make you gain weight unless you let them. Own your weight loss.
You didn't read this part......?My wife says they probably think they need to help feed the skinny man
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I don't know how long you've been married or what kind of relationship you have with your wife but I think you need to do some examination of your marriage before you do anything you can't undo here. Vows are not to be taken lightly and you really shouldn't just throw all of that away. Trust once broken is not easily regained.
Wow. Where did this come from? (Just curious
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