I hate my my wedding dress now :(

Shetchncn1

It's very pretty. You should still be able to get it taken in a little. If the shop doesn't have a quick enough turn around time, try a local tailor.

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drojen

Agree with others who suggested a sash. It will help define your waist. The dress is beautiful. Hope you have a great day. Remember, the day is about far more than the dress you are wearing.

JustLindaLou

I think the dress is gorgeous, a potato sack wishes it was this lovely! I agree with the previous comments, to either have a small nip taken in at the waist or adding a sash to define your waist a bit more. Believe me, on the big day you will appreciate having a little room to breathe rather than feeling like you have to "suck it in" all day!

Congrats and all the best for your wedding day and days and years to come! :flowerforyou:

MyChocolateDiet

JUst go back to the wedding shop where you bought it.

between tailoring, sashes and other ideas they might have that we don't they can get it fitting better for you.

it looks gorgeous though, but now that you've posted that 2nd pic, i get what you are trying to say. they veil is beautiful too by the way. best wishes!



(here are some examples of sashes on lace gowns followed by an example of a sash on a trumpet gown like yours. i think combining all the ideas of tailoring as well as adding a sash to show off your new defined waist will give you the best effect. it will be svelte and smooth and the sash will not only define your small waist better, but also give a contrast which will higlight your rear more since it was the main attraction with the original fit. with the kind of beauty you have though, nothing can mar that. plus add the happiness of the day, and yeah, you're good! )

njones827

At the end of it all, it's your big day. I may sound a little different than others, but If you aren't happy, do something about it ASAP. I had the same thing happen to me. My dress hung around the waist and just did not look flattering. I married the man I love and it was a nice day, but I don't love all of the pictures! There is one where I'm sitting down and it looks fantastic-- other than that, any pics showing off my dress have been stashed. That's sad! Consider trying on others if you have the money and find one. The sash may work out... or it may make the rest of your dress bulge around it and look awkward. I'm just not sure your dress is made for a sash. You could also try to ask for a last minute alteration. I had to have that done once for a bridesmaid dress (taken out because I had just had a baby) and they charged a boatload on a "rush"order. It's easier to take something in though. Asking never hurts! You want to feel fantastic on your wedding day-- not self conscious!

jenns1964

It is natural to question everything before your wedding. You look great and the dress is beautiful. Congratulations!

ScouseNerd

A sash around the waist would look amazing on this! A satin in either white to match or even one of your wedding colours (and/or the colour of the bridesmaids' dresses)

If you have a friend who sews they might be able to do a quick temporary stich on this to tighten it a bit in the back during this week too.

But you do look amazing!! Congrats on losing 15lbs and your wedding!

Edit: just saw the second pic and it's tear-worthy!

MyChocolateDiet

At the end of it all, it's your big day. I may sound a little different than others, but If you aren't happy, do something about it ASAP. I had the same thing happen to me. My dress hung around the waist and just did not look flattering. I married the man I love and it was a nice day, but I don't love all of the pictures! There is one where I'm sitting down and it looks fantastic-- other than that, any pics showing off my dress have been stashed. That's sad! Consider trying on others if you have the money and find one. The sash may work out... or it may make the rest of your dress bulge around it and look awkward. I'm just not sure your dress is made for a sash. You could also try to ask for a last minute alteration. I had to have that done once for a bridesmaid dress (taken out because I had just had a baby) and they charged a boatload on a "rush"order. It's easier to take something in though. Asking never hurts! You want to feel fantastic on your wedding day-- not self conscious!

this is my fear too, that a sash with no tailoring might make it blousy in a way that dress is not intended to be. I agree you should take whatever steps to make it look how you like. its your big day, so just go look into it. there are lots of things that might be able to help quite a bit, and that's without even thinking of buying a new one which is of course still an option. (that dress is brand new i assume and so you might be able to recoup some of the cost by selling it as new with an explanation if it's not returnable.)

The only part i dont agree with above is that I think a sash might work nicely with your dress particularly if its in the same tone, such as the one's vera wang had out lately last season with the embellished details and huge bows. i mean a vera wang sash seems like an appropriate reward for your weight loss efforts, no?

emilypink573

Its beautiful! Just have it taken in a bit.

katy_trail

You look stunning.

and hey with a slightly looser fit you'll be more comfortable.

st0dad

Here are a few last minute things you can do!

1: a belt or sash to cinch the waist can really help!

2: Get a safety pin and take in the sides from the inside, definitely have a friend assist you with this ^^;

3: pig out over the next week (this is not recommended :P )

4: take in the sides from the outside (as it's much easier) and hide the safety pins with the sash and a bow in the back


I think the dress drapes over your waist in a way where it doesn't look that bad (at least it's not all wrinkly or poking out at the hips! ) but I only see it from one angle. Chances are no one else will notice the flaws you see, but then again your opinion and that of your future husband are the most important ones! I just hope these ideas help! Congratulations and I hope you have a great wedding!

fit4lifeUcan2

the dress still looks beautiful just a little loose in the waist. Maybe you could try a sash to cinch it in make it fit a bit better. Hope is not lost. you still have time.

I agree! It still looks lovely. I would just take it in around the waist if anything at all. Have you seen how now the big thing to do with a wedding gown is to wear a sash of some sort around the waist that matches your bridesmaids? Adding color to the wedding gown is the new big thing. OR you can just get an all white sash and tie it in a bow in the back. That will bring it in without having to get alterations done.

DawnieB1977

I agree with adding a sash. That'll show off your waist and add a bit of colour. I think it'll look gorgeous.

On my wedding day I suddenly had doubts about my dress! Even now (and I got married in 2008) I see a wedding dress in a window and wish I'd gone for one like that instead!

snowmoon13

You look lovely .and chose a perfect dress....

I worked in Bridal for many years and trust me most shops want happy brides from what I saw the dress is marginally lose in the waist it should be a small matter to take that in ask them... the belt at the waist might work ... it looks like the dress is an empire cut and it might look better with the accent under the bust .. if no time for adding a row of stones or beads try a large pin... the right jewelry will draw the eye up... the bust line your shoulders and pretty face should be the star of the show... we used to tell our brides you want the guests to say what a beautiful bride not what a pretty dress...

that said you look beautiful enjoy your day be happy in your marriage...

dward2011

I say sash too. You seem really happy in the photos, so I think a little sash or quick stitch for the waist will be perfect.

I will say that this happened to me. The wedding and planning stress caused me to lose about 10 pounds the last three weeks, and the week of the wedding... my dress was too big. I disliked it the moment I put it on me. I thought about going out and buying something off the rack that would fit, but didn't because my friends convinced me that I looked okay. I was so insecure about how large the dress was and how my "girls" kept trying to fall out of the top since it was too big. I was constantly fussing with it throughout the wedding itself. 2 years later and I still regret that I didn't buy something else. I don't even enjoy our wedding photos. All I can see is that ill fitting dress. I should have trusted my instincts and found something that looked beautiful on me. Oh well. The past is the past.

melindasuefritz

I think it's very pretty!

fit4lifeUcan2

You look stunning.

and hey with a slightly looser fit you'll be more comfortable.

Exactly!! You'll be able to eat at your reception without worrying about busting your gown. My wedding gown was so body fitting that I could barely breath let alone eat. I kept losing weight just before my wedding. I was already wearing a size 6 wedding gown and had it taken in a couple of times. The week before my wedding I had it taken in again but then it was so snug I felt like I couldn't breath. Remember that you want to be comfortable as well as look great.

lynnerack

My daughter hated her wedding dress and the night before her wedding, we had tears!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! But as soon as her make up and hair was done, she realised how beautiful she looked - I am sure you will look beautiful too, it is probably pre wedding nerves!

sunflowerhippi

I am going to look for a sash today! Thanks I actually have a waist that this dress does not show at all....I think that's what I don't like so maybe the sash would help...worth a shot. Oh and to the poster who bought another dress....I have thought about doing that all morning lol!

Sash, sash and sash. This will let you pull it in at your smallest point and will make it look like you have a waist. Sometimes especially lace can only be taken in so much before it can hurt the structure of the gown as well, so that is a good idea.

Tiff050709

the dress still looks beautiful just a little loose in the waist. Maybe you could try a sash to cinch it in make it fit a bit better. Hope is not lost. you still have time.

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jadermary

Thanks SO much for all of your suggestions and kind words. If I had more time I would try to get it taken in, I fly out to Las Vegas in 4 days and the wedding is in 6 days. Just a week and a half ago when I picked the dress up it fit better, I swear! lol...this wedding stuff is crazy stressful.

Ivyzmama

I have sewn wedding & prom dresses, and done alterations. Take it to be tailored asap. Your dress is the kind of style that is easiest to tailor, because it's straight. Dresses with gathered waists, sequins, beads, pearls - those are a pain to alter but could still have tailoring done at the last minute - even an hour before. But don't wait, get to a wedding dress tailor ASAP just to put your mind at ease. Insist on picking up the dress at least 2 days before your wedding, and TRY IT ON AT THE TAILOR'S so that it can be adjusted a little bit more if necessary (cause what if the tailor goes too far and makes it too small).

When I did tailoring, I had the lady wait right there, so I tailored it, had her try it on, I tailored it a bit more, etc. to make sure it was perfect. If you can find one who will let you sit there while they tailor it, that would be best.

Annerk1

It's a beautiful dress.

I agree with many others, you need to have it altered a bit. I'd also suggest a push up bra. You won't believe the difference it will make with the look of that dress!

jadermary

I have sewn wedding & prom dresses, and done alterations. Take it to be tailored asap. Your dress is the kind of style that is easiest to tailor, because it's straight. Dresses with gathered waists, sequins, beads, pearls - those are a pain to alter but could still have tailoring done at the last minute - even an hour before. But don't wait, get to a wedding dress tailor ASAP just to put your mind at ease. Insist on picking up the dress at least 2 days before your wedding, and TRY IT ON AT THE TAILOR'S so that it can be adjusted a little bit more if necessary (cause what if the tailor goes too far and makes it too small).

When I did tailoring, I had the lady wait right there, so I tailored it, had her try it on, I tailored it a bit more, etc. to make sure it was perfect. If you can find one who will let you sit there while they tailor it, that would be best.

Oh wow! Hmmm maybe I didn't even think that was an option. I will have to call around!

jadermary

It's a beautiful dress.

I agree with many others, you need to have it altered a bit. I'd also suggest a push up bra. You won't believe the difference it will make with the look of that dress!

I am wearing a pushup in ithe pic lol...I am just quite a bit smaller overall.

emmaps55

You look lovely in it -- it shows off your slim arms -- and maybe you will be glad on the day that it is hanging a bit loose so you will feel comfortable. I agree with the other posters that perhaps a local tailor could nip it in at the waist.... but I think one of the lovely things about it is the long long line it gives you. What a beautiful fabric too! Have a wonderful wedding!

Ilovevwgolf

I think you have put a bit too much pressure on yourself and it all seems a bit overwhelming. The dress is so beautiful and a bit of taking in at the waist area (not to the point of being uncomfortable) as you have lost a bit more since your last fitting..It will look just perfect.

Please don't let anything ruin your big special day esp not your dress...you'll be fine, absolutely fine. "It will be allright on the night"..as the saying goes..!

Have a lovely day! Post us some pics of the special day!

Kellbellftw

Congrats and have fun on your wedding day! Mine was a little over a month ago. After I picked my dress, I decided to put the diet on hold and just maintain where I was, besides some arm exercises! I'm sure you'll look beautiful on your big day, that dress is really lovely!

kwatso88

I'd have your tailor take in the waist and about mid-thigh to give you more of a fit and flare style--show off those curves! Congrats on the 15 lbs!!

Lupercalia

Congratulations on the wedding and your weight loss.

It's a beautiful dress! I hope you can get it altered or work out the sash thing people have suggested....but even if neither of those things work out, you'll still be a stunning bride.

Have a great wedding! :flowerforyou: