Break-up during weight loss

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  • lisasp4
    lisasp4 Posts: 73 Member
    I went to the supermarket after work and I was stood in the salad aisle - yes salad - a previous ex boyfriend appeared! We made pleasant chit chat and off we went.

    It made me think, if I can get over one guy, I can get over another.

    I bought my salad and treated myself to a giant Yorkshire pudding for my tea (all within my MFP limits for the day) that I filled with veg and gravy.

    I didn't do any exercise today, but it's supposed to be a C25K rest day anyway.

    I'm not letting an idiot of a guy mess up all my hard work.
  • astrose00
    astrose00 Posts: 754 Member
    lisasp4 wrote: »
    Thanks guys. There are tonnes of good suggestions here.

    You are right - I'd just end up feeling even worse about myself if I binged because I was sad.

    What better revenge than looking super fit and making him realise what he's just thrown away :smiley:

    I think the best revenge is when you no longer care whether he realizes it or not. You will get there. Be strong and do good things for yourself. As with most relationships.that 3nd like this, we usually realize breaking up was for the best. Good luck and hang in there.
  • phoenixx866
    phoenixx866 Posts: 173 Member
    I say if you want to lie in bed and cry, do it. If you want to have some junk food, do it -- but do it for one day. Tomorrow, go to the gym and punch the stuffing out of that punching bag.

    In seriousness, now is the time to work on /you/. The pain will pass, I promise. Just take it one step at a time.
  • elphie754
    elphie754 Posts: 7,574 Member
    lisasp4 wrote: »
    Today I was dumped.

    All I want to do is lie in bed, cry and eat.

    How am I supposed to motivate myself to do anything?

    Has this happened to anyone else recently? Did you eat to numb the pain? I don't want to destroy all my hard work but I just don't want to do anything.

    So sorry to hear that. How long were you two together if you don't mind me asking? When I broke up with my ex, I found other things to do to keep me busy and distracted. I mainly went out with my friends. However I did binge all the week, so I guess I did turn to food myself for "comfort". Now I just tell myself you will regret it later and have stopped eating for "comfort".
  • tracie_minus100
    tracie_minus100 Posts: 465 Member
    I know all about emotional eating, so I totally sympathize.
    Replace the emotional eating with exercise. It helps so much more, and is actually good for you. You'll just feel worse if you eat your feelings.
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    work out with the matra of ' im getting hotter for my next man'

    give yourself a day to wallow and cry and eat your feelings but then get back to working on a better and healthier you and *kitten* the jerk who left you!
  • HumboldtFred
    HumboldtFred Posts: 159 Member
    I just wanted to say how very impressed I am at the response here. I wish I had heeded such advise when my marriage ended. Faith in humanity restored.
  • hotnumber
    hotnumber Posts: 222 Member
    You want to stay in bed and cry? Wouldn't you feel better if you punched something? That's the best time to get in a good workout. Go take some boxing classes and feel better soon
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,699 Member
    lisasp4 wrote: »
    I went to the supermarket after work and I was stood in the salad aisle - yes salad - a previous ex boyfriend appeared! We made pleasant chit chat and off we went.

    It made me think, if I can get over one guy, I can get over another.

    I bought my salad and treated myself to a giant Yorkshire pudding for my tea (all within my MFP limits for the day) that I filled with veg and gravy.

    I didn't do any exercise today, but it's supposed to be a C25K rest day anyway.

    I'm not letting an idiot of a guy mess up all my hard work.

    Good for you.


    And remember, now is your chance to focus on you and your goals.

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,699 Member
    maasha81 wrote: »
    Ironically, I looked my best during my divorce. I invested my spare time in a new hobby which happened to be kayaking. I also worked out a lot more. I used all my spent energy into working out ..it was therapeutic.

    Find something to distract yourself. As previous poster indicated, eating is a temporary fix.

    Me too ... and my energies went into cycling.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Breakups bite. The good news is they can be used as motivation to get moving and start focusing on oneself. You're grieving right now, so it's probably the last thing on your mind, but it will come.
  • Tubbs216
    Tubbs216 Posts: 6,597 Member
    Good for you, OP. The best revenge is a life well lived.
    Or a dish served cold. One of them, anyway - you pick :)
  • hhnkhl
    hhnkhl Posts: 231 Member
    sorry, but when this happened to me...it wasn't much of an issue...
    i just pressed forth...
    weight loss is weight loss...
    i separate them from other personal issues.
  • softblondechick
    softblondechick Posts: 1,275 Member
    Very good. I have sworn to never be sad over a break up. There are plenty of men out there. And any loser who does not realize how awesome you are, does not deserve you.

    Now, listen to an old hag, DO NOT make up with him, answer his texts, miss him, feel bad for him, or do anything stupid like text him. Do not do it. Move on. Get busy. You don't need the drama of a messed up man.
  • jascakes
    jascakes Posts: 26 Member
    I'm sorry to hear your news, take care of yourself :) xxx
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