I'm going to die if I don't get this done

chelsy0587

enterdanger wrote: »

My best weight loss tip is don't kill yourself with arbitrary time frames.
Recognize that you didn't gain all your weight overnight and you won't lose it overnight.
Make sustainable changes.
Fit treats into your daily consumption.

It's like learning to eat all over again. Log everything. Even if you have a crap day and go way over. We all have bad days/weeks. Persistence is key and eventually the good days out number the bad.

Recognize triggers for overeating. If you need to work through issues driving your relationship with food, don't hesitate to get professional help.

You can do this!

This!!

gpstreet

I have found weighing myself dailly helps and MFP plots the progress on a graph. I can see the fluctuations one day up, one day down but I can also see the steady decline in my weight. It is a slow process but it is there if you are honest and strict with recording your calories in and calories out.
Take this journey in small bitesize pieces. I set myself a goal to reach a weight after a few months. I am on target despite having the odd bad day.
Even half way to my goal I already feel great and more healthy so I can tell you that the benefits of losing weight come quite soon. Just imagine yourself at your end goal. Close your eyes and picture how you will look when you reach your target. You deserve that goal but you have to work for it.

As they say in Japanese 'Gambaremasu' do your best :-)

dufus12

KingoftheLilies wrote: »

First off, congratulations on making the decision to change. That's often the hardest step. Secondly, congratulations on losing 16lbs - that's a lot in 2 months, and don't let anyone tell you differently.

2 months shows your commitment. 2 months shows your capability. 2 months shows your self-discipline. Each and every day is one more nail in the coffin of bad habits, excuses & delays. Each and every day proves that you can do the next one - you started so you can finish.

He said it first but it deserves repeating,,,,,,,,,,I think I will adopt his quote for my own journey!

Having said that,,,,,,yes,everything else said after that is true too......... The 3 P's....patience, perseverance and persistence,,,,,,
You CAN do this, YOU know you can,,,,,,,,,,

Lindy901

I try to focus less on the weight loss, which is hard to do, and focus on eating healthier, logging into the diary, and living more actively. It seems when I look at how much I have to lose it it is easy to lose hope. Living healthier is a lifetime commitment, not a diet. Something most of us here seem to have a lot of trouble with. And when you have a bad day with higher calorie or want to go out and just feast, it happens, just come back to your main focus again.

smukkeff

girl, do you know what some people would do to lose that much in that time span? don't you dare get down on yourself. That's a fabulous kick-off to a successful and even inspirational transition.

jasonraygagnon

Congratulations on starting off and hitting 16 pounds loss!! Huge Success :-) Feel free to add me if you want some additional support or motivation. Best of luck in with your health goals.

Edit - Hell, I'll add you to watch you succeed, and I know you will!!

dlhend

desireemwilsonii wrote: »

I am a 400 lb morbidly obese woman. I've said to myself time and time again I'm going to lose weight when I'm ready and my husband loves me the way I am. But I'm not happy and if health issues don't kill me my depression will. I have been working out for over 2 months and have changed my eating habits but I have lost only 16 pounds. This isn't about looks. This is about me living long enough to have kids one day and actually being able to enjoy my life. I want to walk around Disneyland, or get on a roller coaster. I want to be a person who goes to the grocery store during the day and not at night because I am too embarrassed to be seen in public on an automatic cart because I can't walk through the store. I want to live my life not just survive it. I am going to do this but I need help, support, and friends to see me through this journey. Any help, tips, tricks, motivational quotes, ANYTHING would be most appreciated! Thanks!

dlhend

I would love to be your friend. I also have concerns about my longevity. Losing weight for me is not an option it is a must! I am 68 years old and 310 lbs. Getting around is not easy. I do have some great ideas that may make this easier for you. Please contact me.

meganjcallaghan

Vixenmd1 wrote: »

Thankfully you are facing this now while you are young and this can change the course of your life. I just lost my dad 2 weeks ago tomorrow) from a sudden heart attack due to his morbid obesity( whuch cuased his type 2 and hypertenstion). You are on the way just keep going and don't look back.

sorry to hear that.

Foodiethinking

The best advice I can give is have patience, drink water and don't weigh yourself everyday- weight loss does stall and fluctuate according to the time, day and TOM. You didn't gain weight overnight, and you certainly won't lose it overnight. 16lbs is a great start and hopefully the first of many pounds you will lose. Don't be too strict with yourself and take photos as you go along- when you don't feel like you're making progress, the photos SHOW you otherwise

shergettingfit

First, congrats on the 16 lbs.!!! That's awesome!!! Take it one day at a time and you will reach your goals, that's what I decided to do! I have a bit over 100lbs to lose. I have felt depressed, sad, I get it! Glad we have a community like this for support and friendships. I would be happy to have you on my friends list to motivate each other, as well as anyone else who wants to. I know we all will have days we feel we can't get through, so it's great to have motivation and inspiration from others!

jaysiekemso

You can do it if you really put your mind to it good luck

careyw1

Awesome job on the 16 lbs!! Ive lost 100lbs and have another 40lbs to go..feel free to add me if you like.

KrunchyMama

16 pounds is fantastic, remind yourself often of this success, because it's a huge achievement!

Some lessons I've learned along the way:

1 - Portion size is my biggest problem. I used to eat as much as my husband does, but his total daily energy expenditure and my total daily energy expenditure are completely different, so I really should be eating a lot less than him. Kind of tying in with this, I looked at how much I should be eating at my goal weight, and try to eat at or under that amount every day so that when I reach my goal I will have already had a lot of practice at maintenance.

2 - It's ok to take a break from logging for your sanity. BUT try to remember the things that logging teaches you, like which meals or foods work with your goals, and which ones hinder them. Try to log every day if you can, but sometimes some people just need breaks.

3 - If you have a day where you eat at or above maintenance, and you weren't able to do a workout, try to do a few strength exercises. I've noticed a huge difference just doing a few crunches and arm weights and push-ups before bed when my eating is higher than it should be.

4 - A FitBit is great if you can afford one because it keeps track of your steps. You could use this as a mini-reward if you want, and use it to walk a little more each day. Alternatively, there are smartphone apps that do the same thing.

5 - Keep junk out of the house as much as possible, at least in the beginning. If your husband needs to have junk food ask him to help you by not eating it in front of you, or by keeping his stash where you won't find it.

6 - Remind yourself often that you are doing great, and you WILL get there! Just take it one day at a time, and keep trying to make healthy choices.

7 - Take pictures. You may not be able to see a difference, but when you look back at pictures it will become apparent just how much you've changed.

8 - This article was huge for me: http://www.sparkpeople.com/resource/nutrition_articles.asp?id=1660. I started analyzing the reasons WHY I was reaching for food, and now that I recognize them I am better able to control my impulse eating.

9 - Do what works for you. You'll eventually figure out what you like, what you don't like, what makes you energized, and what doesn't. Don't treat any mistakes along the way as failures, instead see them as learning opportunities and then move forward. This article was really helpful for me too: http://www.nerdfitness.com/blog/2012/02/01/5-steps-after-failing/

10 - If you are feeling down or lonely, come to this site. There is a huge support network here for you, and lots of people cheering you on who KNOW you can do this, and they know you CAN because they've DONE it.

Never give up, you've got this!

213tim

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I have finally came up with a way to prioritize weight loss. 213-Diet Pyramid (in this order):
1. Whatever you do, make it a lifestyle change.
2. Realize your habits causing weight gain, dissect them, then destroy, lessen, or avoid them.
3. Get rid of toxins that cause over-indulgence, or interfere or damage organ functions.
4. Avoid processed sugar and reduce starch.
5. Portion control will be easier if the first 4 are followed.
6. Protein control; Protein can work for or against depending on the fuel intake and usage.
7. Physical activity enough to stimulate the body's systems especially the lymphatic system.
8. Get between 7 to 9 hours of sleep each day.
9. Mental health and stress.
10. Drink enough water.
11. BREATHE! Only way to burn that stored fuel is with oxygen.
12. Balance of Vitamins and minerals. NOT REAL HOW MUCH! as they can nullify each other if too much of one.
13. Exercise, Least important in weight loss and need the other 12 checked for exercise to be most effective.

8 pounds a month is great but may be hard to maintain. 4 pounds will get you there and your skin will not lag too far behind. Be ecstatic with any weight loss per month, okay with none, never happy about gaining any back as these days will happen. At that point get mad and get back on target. Do a little bit today and eventually you can do more tomorrow toward changes. The little bits eventually add up to a whole bunch. Too much, too quick leads to failure, resulting most often in losing every bit of progress. BE HAPPY FOR 16 POUNDS, TIME TO MAKE IT 20.

Depression is normal. Use it to pull yourself out of your situation. Do not run from it but confront it.

You are in the right place by being on MyFitnessPal and look forward to hearing your success story. You will find that most the people here really do care and wish the best for others.

Remember what KrunchyMama said:
10 - If you are feeling down or lonely, come to this site. There is a huge support network here for you, and lots of people cheering you on who KNOW you can do this, and they know you CAN because they've DONE it.

Tim
PS:
I have only lost 45 pounds (of 55 excess) and gained as much as 15 back over the holidays (not about giving up life but making the it work with the lifestyle changes). It is a struggle!

ninerbuff

Realizing that you need to change and WANTING to do it is what's needed to get you off right. My tips:

Be consistent
Don't let 1 bad day get you down, but don't let it be a habit
LIKE YOURSELF UNCONDTIONALLY (I say it outloud to myself once a day for the last 25 years).
Make good choices when it comes to food. More nutritiously dense food over foods that are less in nutrition.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

pantherlily0424

Congrats on starting and already loosing weight. I think you're doing great, and on the right track! In my opinion as long as you're doing it for you and your health that, that will always be just enough motivation to get you going. Any more support you might need, i, and I'm sure a lot of other MFP members will be more than willing to supply you with. You're off to such a great start, and that much closer to your goal. Loosing weight is far from easy, you and I both know it, so keep pushing girl. You've lost 16 freaking pounds and that is amazing! Slowly but surely you're reaching your goal. Great job

karenrich77

16 pounds is awesome!! You can do this, it's more overcoming the mental side of things that is hardest. I started at 370 pounds and a year and a bit later I am almost 100 pounds down. You can do this! Add me, we can do it together xxxx

Carol_

I agree with everyone. 16 pounds in 2 months is great. I think when we set our mind on a goal..we get in a hurry. I know I do. But some things just go slow..like weight loss. There is nothing wrong with seeing someone for your depression meanwhile. You do not have to accept being depressed. Get some help. Meanwhile..we are here for you.

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KrunchyMama

Oh, I wanted to mention also: if you haven't been checked for sleep apnea then you probably should. At your weight there is a good chance you have sleep apnea, and it can cause depression and make it harder to lose weight because it can put your body into a state of hypoxia.

And for anyone who likes additional reading, thinks they might have sleep issues or experiences any of the following symptoms (snoring, gasping for air, nightmares, frequent noctural urination, waking up with headaches, chest pain or racing heart at night, restless legs, feeling like you haven't slept all night, familiy history of heart attack, stroke, diabetes, or diagnosed sleep apnea), here's another link: http://oregon.providence.org/health-library/s/sleep-apnea/forms-and-information/apnea-can-cause-patients-to-lose-more-than-sleep/

jpulp

16 pounds is a big, big step. I live in Iowa and there's a local news man that just publicly started his own weight loss journey that is making national attention. His name Daniel Finney and you can follow his plan and weight loss journey on twitter(#makingweight)His plan is to do it the right way and lose the weight slowly over the course of time by exercising more and eating in moderation. When you described what you are doing, it reminded me of his journey. The reality for most of us is that we can't lose the 20+ pounds per week like we see on biggest loser, it's just not feasible for those of us going through the rigors of normal life. What we can do is approach it like you have and make changes to our lifestyle that will benefit us in the long-term and teach us how we make a healthy lifestyle our new habit. Best of luck, you can do it!

veronicatucker77

You may not think so but losing 16 pounds in 2 months is Great! Remember every little bit helps. Just go day by day and set small goals for yourself. Once you conquer those goals then you can make new ones. This way you can see just how much you are improving and build up your confidence! Don't get stuck on timelines because they will bring you down.

riyakumar79

Vixenmd1 wrote: »

Thankfully you are facing this now while you are young and this can change the course of your life. I just lost my dad 2 weeks ago tomorrow) from a sudden heart attack due to his morbid obesity( whuch cuased his type 2 and hypertenstion). You are on the way just keep going and don't look back.

Natalierae886

16 pounds is allot in 2 months, ive been on and off with diet and lost 10lb in 4 months. Just take one step at a time, be patient and keep up with it, in a years time you'll be a completely different person and you'll look back proud of how far youve come just stay dedicated