Protein World - "How could we possibly be sexist?"
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shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »KingofWisdom wrote: »Well, no one says anything when men are the ones being shamed. Men have body image issues too. Five to twelve percent of male high school students have used steroids by the time they are seniors. Off-topic, I know, but isn't the entire premise of viagra that you as a male are inadequate and need this magic drug to make yourself normal?
Yes actually, there are so many people, women included, who hate to see men shamed for not fitting into the patriarchal Male Power Fantasy of appearing jacked and hypermasculine.
You forgot manspreading
I hate that I attempted to express sympathy for the OP, which he appears to feel is something that is sorely lacking, and the dudes responding to it are turning it into a joke.
Wonder why that happens? Go figure.
So...you don't think our culture idealizes strong, powerful men as much as slim, youthful women? Because I sure think our collective expectations for men are just as frustrating as the ones we have for women...for men they just tend to be focused a little less on physical-appearance-as-sexual-attractiveness and more on power/money/strength as the key to a man's virility and sexual attractiveness.
It's just as rough out there for men who don't fit into that archetype as it is women who are a long way from fitness models.
If you're criticizing the third-wave jargon, that's fine, but I don't think the principle was too far off.
And, yeah, mostly it was about the buzzwords and jargon that are almost devoid of content at this point and act mainly as signaling mechanisms to others of the same mindset. If you think about it, it in itself is really not much more than a thinly veiled attempt at shaming.
You mean to say words mean things to people who know their meanings? Well, I never.
I'm glad to know that you're up in arms and totally throwing the conversation off the rails because of the words I chose and not because you disagree with my sympathizing with the OP at all about how unfair it is for men as well as women that there are these rigid standards of masculinity and femininity.
The man who I was responding to-before the wheels totally came off thanks to you, expressed feeling it was unfair for men to be held to a standard of masculinity that not every man can achieve, and that he felt there wasn't enough sympathy for men who end up inevitably feeling insecure about it-he could probably tell you, but you've missed the point spending all this time telling me how to use my words and talk about genital mutilation in other countries, which is not a thing people don't know about, so thanks.
Your reading comprehension is as poor as your word choices. I certainly didn't tell you how to use your words. However, for someone who sees patriarchy hobgoblins behind every bush, it's not surprising that you'd try to spin it that way.
You sympathized with his view that such things were unfair. Surely you have some independent thoughts on why it's unfair for people to have standards by which they judge others. And, leaving apart that life is, and will always be, unfair, what's to be done about the high school cheerleader who wants to bang the masculine football player just because it makes the less masculine guy all sad inside? Is it her fault that the guy starts taking steroids? Isn't that a matriarchal power structure imposing standards of hyper-masculinity?
Will it also be unfair when we have high standards for intelligence, or programming talent, or the ability to function in a networked world and some men, or women, can't live up to the new ideal?
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shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »KingofWisdom wrote: »Well, no one says anything when men are the ones being shamed. Men have body image issues too. Five to twelve percent of male high school students have used steroids by the time they are seniors. Off-topic, I know, but isn't the entire premise of viagra that you as a male are inadequate and need this magic drug to make yourself normal?
Yes actually, there are so many people, women included, who hate to see men shamed for not fitting into the patriarchal Male Power Fantasy of appearing jacked and hypermasculine.
You forgot manspreading
I hate that I attempted to express sympathy for the OP, which he appears to feel is something that is sorely lacking, and the dudes responding to it are turning it into a joke.
Wonder why that happens? Go figure.
Today I learned I had a sex change in my sleep. Ya know, there's a reason politics and religion are supposed to be against the rules here. People can't discuss them while remaining rational.0 -
DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »DeguelloTex wrote: »shrinkingletters wrote: »KingofWisdom wrote: »Well, no one says anything when men are the ones being shamed. Men have body image issues too. Five to twelve percent of male high school students have used steroids by the time they are seniors. Off-topic, I know, but isn't the entire premise of viagra that you as a male are inadequate and need this magic drug to make yourself normal?
Yes actually, there are so many people, women included, who hate to see men shamed for not fitting into the patriarchal Male Power Fantasy of appearing jacked and hypermasculine.
You forgot manspreading
I hate that I attempted to express sympathy for the OP, which he appears to feel is something that is sorely lacking, and the dudes responding to it are turning it into a joke.
Wonder why that happens? Go figure.
So...you don't think our culture idealizes strong, powerful men as much as slim, youthful women? Because I sure think our collective expectations for men are just as frustrating as the ones we have for women...for men they just tend to be focused a little less on physical-appearance-as-sexual-attractiveness and more on power/money/strength as the key to a man's virility and sexual attractiveness.
It's just as rough out there for men who don't fit into that archetype as it is women who are a long way from fitness models.
If you're criticizing the third-wave jargon, that's fine, but I don't think the principle was too far off.
And, yeah, mostly it was about the buzzwords and jargon that are almost devoid of content at this point and act mainly as signaling mechanisms to others of the same mindset. If you think about it, it in itself is really not much more than a thinly veiled attempt at shaming.
You mean to say words mean things to people who know their meanings? Well, I never.
I'm glad to know that you're up in arms and totally throwing the conversation off the rails because of the words I chose and not because you disagree with my sympathizing with the OP at all about how unfair it is for men as well as women that there are these rigid standards of masculinity and femininity.
The man who I was responding to-before the wheels totally came off thanks to you, expressed feeling it was unfair for men to be held to a standard of masculinity that not every man can achieve, and that he felt there wasn't enough sympathy for men who end up inevitably feeling insecure about it-he could probably tell you, but you've missed the point spending all this time telling me how to use my words and talk about genital mutilation in other countries, which is not a thing people don't know about, so thanks.
Your reading comprehension is as poor as your word choices. I certainly didn't tell you how to use your words. However, for someone who sees patriarchy hobgoblins behind every bush, it's not surprising that you'd try to spin it that way.
You sympathized with his view that such things were unfair. Surely you have some independent thoughts on why it's unfair for people to have standards by which they judge others. And, leaving apart that life is, and will always be, unfair, what's to be done about the high school cheerleader who wants to bang the masculine football player just because it makes the less masculine guy all sad inside? Is it her fault that the guy starts taking steroids? Isn't that a matriarchal power structure imposing standards of hyper-masculinity?
Will it also be unfair when we have high standards for intelligence, or programming talent, or the ability to function in a networked world and some men, or women, can't live up to the new ideal?
I am so sorry, maybe Stacey just wasn't into you.-1 -
Maybe it's because I am american? and we just see more of this here? This is not different than what I see on every magazine cover at the checkout line of ever store I go to, has been that way for years.... I would love to see it change, but I don't see how this particular add stands out from all the others just like it? am I missing something?0
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4legsRbetterthan2 wrote: »Maybe it's because I am american? and we just see more of this here? This is not different than what I see on every magazine cover at the checkout line of ever store I go to, has been that way for years.... I would love to see it change, but I don't see how this particular add stands out from all the others just like it? am I missing something?
Yes, when I think of striving for the peak of human performance and improving myself.. I can't even. What would you like to see?
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I don't find it sexist or offensive. Honestly I don't really find his response to the backlash offensive, either.0
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I_Will_End_You wrote: »I don't find it sexist or offensive. Honestly I don't really find his response to the backlash offensive, either.
LOL. I figured I was the only one who felt this way. And yes, marketing gold!
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