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To the people who have a "terms and conditions" in their 'about me' for people adding them..

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  • Posts: 733 Member
    nothing beats a "good ol chin wag" on a monday afternoon
  • Posts: 43 Member
    wizzybeth wrote: »

    Maybe YOU are taking the OP too seriously. It was a satire post. It was meant to be funny. Chill.

    thanks :)
  • Posts: 3,574 Member
    Nobody ever asked me for naked pictures. :(

    I have had a couple people "friend" me with suspiciously friendly messages...then about 5 or 6 message chit chat exchanges later, BOOM, I got hit with the offer to make money at home with Shakeology or being some kind of fitness coach, etc....

  • Posts: 43 Member
    Tomm88 wrote: »
    nothing beats a "good ol chin wag" on a monday afternoon

    especially a bank holiday afternoon!
  • Posts: 43 Member
    wizzybeth wrote: »
    Nobody ever asked me for naked pictures. :(

    I have had a couple people "friend" me with suspiciously friendly messages...then about 5 or 6 message chit chat exchanges later, BOOM, I got hit with the offer to make money at home with Shakeology or being some kind of fitness coach, etc....
    Whuut that's cool! Did you take up the offer? Nice one :)
  • Posts: 8,399 Member
    When people send me a friend request I prefer that they say why. I don't think that's so strange. There are "mean people", as the experts on here are called, that have been here a long time and have tons of FR. They don't have the time for hundreds of people. I can understand that, so I don't bother them. You may be "having fun" with your post, but yes, people around here take their friends seriously. MFP is what it is---love it or leave it. B)
  • Posts: 1,184 Member
    Meh, my general reaction to "you must do X to be my friend" is:

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  • Posts: 4,537 Member
    wizzybeth wrote: »

    Maybe YOU are taking the OP too seriously. It was a satire post. It was meant to be funny. Chill.

    What has led you to believe the post was satirical in nature? The initial post or all of the posts after where she's defending her stance that people who are choosy are uppity and she just can't deal with that?

    I am cooler than the other side of the pillow, so there is no need for me to chill. I have no stipulations written in my profile and I decline people even WITH a message if I feel like it. Because I give no *kitten*. The only thing people see in my profile is my quote, which actually makes fun of quotes like yours :)

    Maybe I'm just uppity?
  • Posts: 933 Member
    Ok confession time for me. Someone just sent me a friend request out of the blue. I did send him a little email telling him that I am married with four kids and not here for anything else but help, support and to do the same for others and if he wants more he can forget adding me as a friend. :(
    I've had a stalker on Facebook over a year ago and thank God the guy hasn't found me here cos he was a creep. Yippee!! No terms and conditions from me but if you not serious on your quest to a healthier you then I'm not gonna add you. If you committed and focused, even if you fall down, cheat or give up on yourself then I will be there to give a helping hand.
  • Posts: 918 Member
    I love this! I don't send a whole lot of requests unless I find someone that I'm interested in interacting with but I do add pretty much anyone who sends me a request. I will delete them later if they post things that are obnoxious a lot of whatever but I don't understand the posts of "okay, I deleted a bunch of people because we don't interact and they haven't logged. if you're still here, consider yourself lucky". There's this crazy thing that happens to some of us called "life outside or social media".Please. Get a life.
  • Posts: 4,537 Member
    I love this! I don't send a whole lot of requests unless I find someone that I'm interested in interacting with but I do add pretty much anyone who sends me a request. I will delete them later if they post things that are obnoxious a lot of whatever but I don't understand the posts of "okay, I deleted a bunch of people because we don't interact and they haven't logged. if you're still here, consider yourself lucky". There's this crazy thing that happens to some of us called "life outside or social media".Please. Get a life.

    True story, absolutely NO sense in announcing your "cuts." It's pretty sad, really.
  • Posts: 933 Member
    What has led you to believe the post was satirical in nature? The initial post or all of the posts after where she's defending her stance that people who are choosy are uppity and she just can't deal with that?

    I am cooler than the other side of the pillow, so there is no need for me to chill. I have no stipulations written in my profile and I decline people even WITH a message if I feel like it. Because I give no *kitten*. The only thing people see in my profile is my quote, which actually makes fun of quotes like yours :)

    Maybe I'm just uppity?

    The OP wasn't pointing the finger at you or calling people uppity. She understands people are choosy but there is such a thing as being too choosy or too picky. We have a right to accept or decline here and in the real world which is acceptable. I think the OP is just making the point that some people take things a little too far. Everyone has to rant and blow off some steam now and again. Its better than holding it in and making yourself go crazy. Different strokes for different folks!!! We can't all be the same, life would be boring if we were.
  • Posts: 5,235 Member
    If they want to select people who they want to be friends with hats up to them, at least they are being upfront about it, which is best for both parties. It means different things to different people, some people like to know who they have on their list because they provide support , whilst others just seem to collect hundreds. Their choice, even if its a different approach from your own.
  • Posts: 4,537 Member
    jorinya wrote: »

    The OP wasn't pointing the finger at you or calling people uppity. She understands people are choosy but there is such a thing as being too choosy or too picky. We have a right to accept or decline here and in the real world which is acceptable. I think the OP is just making the point that some people take things a little too far. Everyone has to rant and blow off some steam now and again. Its better than holding it in and making yourself go crazy. Different strokes for different folks!!! We can't all be the same, life would be boring if we were.

    Please see page 3, about half way down.

    If OP wants to blow off steam about something she went looking for (because that's the ONLY way she'd know what was on people's profiles), that's fine. I can also blow off steam and rant regarding her rant, right?
  • Posts: 17,857 Member
    Someone's different from me! Let's get'em!!!
  • Posts: 1,544 Member
    It's a vetting process.

    If someone can't read and follow simple instructions posted on my profile, (your examples are extremely exaggerated for the most part) then clearly they are a.) too stupid or b.) too lazy comply and are therefore not worth my time.

    I also explain why I require a message with FRs, because if I don't know who the hell you are, it's creepy to get a request from a complete stranger without knowing where they found me. Also I like to know why I sparked someone's interest, because if they expect me to sexy-talk with them, send nudes, or be their nanny/cheerleader, I know better than to accept.

    Same here. If I have never met or talked to you, why would I accept a random friend request from someone who can't at least send me a hello message? That screams spammer to me.
  • Posts: 874 Member
    Typically just pass them on by, I don't have the time or desire to deal with high maintenance friends on MFP.
  • Posts: 563 Member
    I am about as good a friend in here as I am in real life. If I happen to pass by and someone says something interesting/sad/thought-provoking I will comment on it. If I don't bother to look at my feed for days and only speed log my food then tough luck, no one gets any likes or comments. I am no ones mommy.

    Gawds.. the number of people I have had to disentangle myself from over the years in the virtual and real world when they squeal and whine when they don't get weekly contact - eeeek! Get away from me limpet creature! Klingons! Klingons!

    The best mates I have are people you can meet up with after six months of silence like nothing happened.
  • Posts: 933 Member
    If OP wants to blow off steam about something she went looking for (because that's the ONLY way she'd know what was on people's profiles), that's fine. I can also blow off steam and rant regarding her rant, right?

    You do have a right too, you are dead right. However, I think she was just wanting to point something out and not offend people. We all take things we see online differently because we can't see the persons facial expressions, body language or know the tone of voice behind what is said, we only see the would and can take things WAY out of context sometimes. I worked for years in call centres doing telesales and customer service, believe me even over the phone can cause problems too. I don't think the OP was intending to cause any offense by her comments.

  • Posts: 563 Member
    OP posted in the "Chit Chat and Fun and Games"...... *feeling a little embarrassed for everyone who over-reacted*
  • Posts: 4,537 Member
    Soopatt wrote: »
    OP posted in the "Chit Chat and Fun and Games"...... *feeling a little embarrassed for everyone who over-reacted*

    I feel embarrassed for somebody that equates the internet to real life
  • Posts: 563 Member
    Oh hang on... is this the matrix? I appear to be typing on a real keyboard and I don't feel a socket behind my head. The internet is real life bro. One facet of each of our real lives. Lots of compensating for all sorts of sad real life things goes on here, but your words and actions still have consequences here. I am not a robot. None of us are.
  • Posts: 4,391 Member
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  • Posts: 242 Member
    I make a point not to be friends with people like that. I do not need some control freak dictating the terms of our friendship/interactions.
  • Posts: 1,458 Member
    livbridgex wrote: »


    It was a joke!! It doesn't ACTUALLY keep me up at night despite contrary belief.. I was only trying to make people laugh man. Well thanks, maybe I will but I won't make a huge song and dance about it in my 'about me', I'll just delete them :)

    Yeah my long essay about taking tests, and requiring essays and such was a joke too some of us are purposely exaggerating to lighten the tense mood
  • Posts: 4,537 Member
    Soopatt wrote: »
    Oh hang on... is this the matrix? I appear to be typing on a real keyboard and I don't feel a socket behind my head. The internet is real life bro. One facet of each of our real lives. Lots of compensating for all sorts of sad real life things goes on here, but your words and actions still have consequences here. I am not a robot. None of us are.

    So who is over-reacting now?
  • Posts: 1,445 Member
    Oh to be young and foolish and have time to worry about such trivialities.

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  • Posts: 3,473 Member
    wizzybeth wrote: »

    Is worried about what reason someone has for a friend request...yet has a practically nekkid profile pic for all the world to see...seems legit to me.

    Ohhhh, the "you asked for it" post. I was wondering how long it would take for this to show up.

    *rolls eyes*
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  • Posts: 563 Member
    The world does not have enough emoticons for some people to tell when people are happily and casually contributing to friendly social forums. I think perhaps PC's need to be equipped with big hammers that smash retards over the head and scream "that was a JOKE!" or "that was an off-hand remark!" or, "that person was just feeling silly and found something funny to share" *shakes head sadly*
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