They say I'm mean??
mzco14
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Well I started a new program about 10 days ago. Its really simple. I have 2 protein drinks a day, lean meat, fruit and veggies. Its low carb/ low cal everything. So far its been great and the weight is dropping. I also exercise daily and drink lots of water. So anyway since I started this program I 've had a few people say I'm mean. I really haven't noticed a difference in my behavior. I've always had a zero tolerance for BS. Am I suppose to let you mistreat me and I smile? Heck No. I just thought it was funny.
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If you are a straight-shooter, then you'll get the 'mean' card. A lot of people like the roses and sunshine communication - only. Nothing wrong with zero tolerance for the BS!0
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Who says you are mean? Care to clarify? Voices in your head, people in the street? What's your point?0
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Perhaps you're just hangry?0
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Wait, I thought this was a mean people thread. The OP is the mean person? I am confused. Is it time for gifs?0
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Hangry
It's a thing
And if your friends are pointing it out then consider eating something delicious and nutritious0 -
Perhaps you could ask those that are saying that you are mean why they think that?0
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Straight shooter = mean..
That's me!0 -
i don't subscribe to the "honesty=mean" line of thinking. I am honest, but that doesn't mean I have to be a jerk about it.
As far as the OP - i don't know you, so I'm not sure if your behavior has changed. I do know that it is more difficult to see such changes in ourselves.0 -
I am hungry and I hate all of you!
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Many people who think they're "straight shooters" are actually mean in reality and don't know it, or worse, just don't care. They dislike the label and can't deal with the fact that they're not as nice as they would like to think. There is a difference between being honest (it's usually accompanied by compassion and understanding), and just being a jerk for the heck of it and calling it "honesty".
If people are saying you're mean now, they've said it in the past, only they didn't say it to your face. The effects of the diet are making it more pronounced, and they can't take it.
I have little tolerance for BS as well, but as I want to be a well-rounded person, have learned to be more patient with others. Sometimes, you have to work on the inside as well as the outside.0 -
I know I always have a bit more trouble at the beginning of a new regime. Perhaps you are a bit snippier than you would normally be, but I'd say after two weeks (so only 4 more days to go!), things seem to even out for me. Sometimes it's hard to tell the tone of voice I am using and perhaps that's happening to you as well. It may not be that you're actually saying anything different from normal, but it may be HOW you're saying it.
Or perhaps they are using your diet as an excuse to read into what you're saying in a way they didn't before. You don't have to let yourself be mistreated, but perhaps it will smooth things over if you tread a bit lightly for the next few days (especially if this is coming from your family).0 -
It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.0
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It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
I don't get the correlation between those two things? This thread is all over the place. I do agree that you're probably just hangry IF you're replacing meals with protein shakes and eating low calorie for your other meals.
Here you go:
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_incogNEATo_ wrote: »It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
I don't get the correlation between those two things? This thread is all over the place. I do agree that you're probably just hangry IF you're replacing meals with protein shakes and eating low calorie for your other meals.
Here you go:
Beat me to it.
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So anyway since I started this program I 've had a few people say I'm mean.
My brother tried 5:2 intermittent fasting at one stage, had to stop because he realised that on his fasting days he'd be tearing peoples heads off from about 1100 until the end of the day.
I'm the same if I don't eat enough.
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It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.0 -
When I am too hungry, or too often hungry, I do get crabby. Often times other people will notice these changes even if you think you're pretty level. That's why the "hangry" term exists: hungry plus angry. See if anyone you trust feels that way and thinks there's been a change.0
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There may be something to it, or not. I don't know you so can't tell.
I know I have certain days where I'm more likely to give you an earful than others. Those days, I'm not necessarily wrong (I generally don't go off without a reason), but likely I could have handled thing better while still being true to my feelings.
As far as your dietary changes influencing how people perceive you, that I can see happening. It's not an excuse, but when you no longer participate in social eating, you can be seen as less social. It's wrong, but it does happen.0 -
It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
So its not a mean people thread just some people at work calling you mean? You or they are linking said meanness to your diet because you are not eating bagels or pizza in a way that suggest being mean?0 -
It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.
Perhaps not, but how did she say, "no?"0 -
It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.
I bet you're just a peach to work with.0 -
It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.
I've worked with some complete jerks as well...
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I have a very low BS tolerance, and not enough smarts to lie, and when I've been called out at work it's been for being 'too direct' or 'too open'. Never mean.
But, this all depends on how did you say your piece and who are the people saying this? Are they whiny little *kitten* or people you should take seriously?0 -
Are you saying that now you've found more discipline in your eating style, so you're also standing up to yourself about the extra work?0
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_incogNEATo_ wrote: »It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.
I bet you're just a peach to work with.
Now look, would YOU let some lazy butt dump all their work on you? I wouldn't! People will take advantage if you allow them to. It doesn't make someone a cranky old crab if they aren't a doormat!0 -
_incogNEATo_ wrote: »It's mainly people I work with. They want to pile up extra work on me and I wont do it. I've never been a push over. I now have more discipline- not to eat the bagels & pizza at the meetings. I guess change isn't easily accepted but I'm okay with that.
oh hell no. people at the office can be straight up lazy *kitten* about everything and will try and push their work on to others. you are not mean for saying no. i do that all the time and i'm a known "tough *kitten*" at work. this one time a coworker asked for my help on a presentation and as i was helping him, he says "ok, so can you have this to me in a couple of hours?" WTF. i gave him a look and said "yeah, nice try. this is your sh** not mine. and you're welcome!". he never pulled that on me again.
I bet you're just a peach to work with.
Now look, would YOU let some lazy butt dump all their work on you? I wouldn't! People will take advantage if you allow them to. It doesn't make someone a cranky old crab if they aren't a doormat!
I wouldn't. I also wouldn't say "this is your *kitten*, not mine." There's ways to be assertive without being the first three letters of assertive..
ETA: MFP is killing me with these asterisks0 -
I would probably use the word "work" rather than the expletive but all the rest would stay the same! People who deliberately take advantage need to be slapped back into line imho! They know exactly what they are doing. Or trying to do.0
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