can't afford wedding

wizzybeth

Still obnoxious assumptions on your part.

myfelinepal

newmeadow wrote: »

Seriously. The cost of accepting an invite to a fancy wedding.

Gift usually a minimum of $100 if you're going to actually show up and eat the food and get buzzed at the open bar.
Dress or tasteful pantsuit $100 to $200.
Matching beaded clutch purse $100.
Silk hosiery $50.
Matching shoes $100.
Optional accessories $100.
These are the bare minimal costs in my opinion.

I would RSVP a polite no and send a card and mail a gift such as a $30 toaster.

I would only attend if it was an immediate family member or a best friend.

If a fella wanted me to attend a fancy wedding with him as his date, I would expect him to pick up the costs listed above.

Why is the present $70 cheaper if you're not going to the wedding?

3dogsrunning

myfelinepal wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

Seriously. The cost of accepting an invite to a fancy wedding.

Gift usually a minimum of $100 if you're going to actually show up and eat the food and get buzzed at the open bar.
Dress or tasteful pantsuit $100 to $200.
Matching beaded clutch purse $100.
Silk hosiery $50.
Matching shoes $100.
Optional accessories $100.
These are the bare minimal costs in my opinion.

I would RSVP a polite no and send a card and mail a gift such as a $30 toaster.

I would only attend if it was an immediate family member or a best friend.

If a fella wanted me to attend a fancy wedding with him as his date, I would expect him to pick up the costs listed above.

Why is the present $70 cheaper if you're not going to the wedding?

Cause you aren't getting buzzed at the open bar. Duh.

myfelinepal

newmeadow wrote: »

myfelinepal wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

Seriously. The cost of accepting an invite to a fancy wedding.

Gift usually a minimum of $100 if you're going to actually show up and eat the food and get buzzed at the open bar.
Dress or tasteful pantsuit $100 to $200.
Matching beaded clutch purse $100.
Silk hosiery $50.
Matching shoes $100.
Optional accessories $100.
These are the bare minimal costs in my opinion.

I would RSVP a polite no and send a card and mail a gift such as a $30 toaster.

I would only attend if it was an immediate family member or a best friend.

If a fella wanted me to attend a fancy wedding with him as his date, I would expect him to pick up the costs listed above.

Why is the present $70 cheaper if you're not going to the wedding?

Because you're not eating the food and drinking the swill. The unspoken rule is, a wedding gift should minimally cover the cost of your attendance at the event. I know I know. Saying so out loud is obnoxious. But that's the unspoken rule.

You know, following imaginary etiquette won't make people think you're less of a *kitten*, so why bother?

3dogsrunning

newmeadow wrote: »

myfelinepal wrote: »

newmeadow wrote: »

Seriously. The cost of accepting an invite to a fancy wedding.

Gift usually a minimum of $100 if you're going to actually show up and eat the food and get buzzed at the open bar.
Dress or tasteful pantsuit $100 to $200.
Matching beaded clutch purse $100.
Silk hosiery $50.
Matching shoes $100.
Optional accessories $100.
These are the bare minimal costs in my opinion.

I would RSVP a polite no and send a card and mail a gift such as a $30 toaster.

I would only attend if it was an immediate family member or a best friend.

If a fella wanted me to attend a fancy wedding with him as his date, I would expect him to pick up the costs listed above.

Why is the present $70 cheaper if you're not going to the wedding?

Because you're not eating the food and drinking the swill. The unspoken rule is, a wedding gift should minimally cover the cost of your attendance at the event. I know I know. Saying so out loud is obnoxious. But that's the unspoken rule.

Or you could actually give a thoughtful gift not based on tit for tat...

Plus. If we are going to go buy the "unwritten rule", for top shelf liquor and black tie worthy food, probably more than $100, especially depending on where you are.