Do people treat you differently since losing weight?
whoaitzlena
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So I've lost nearly 100 lbs so far. I have been big almost my whole life. But as of late, I am noticing that people (generally of the opposite sex) are a lot friendlier. For instance; smiling, holding doors open, saying hello, offering their seat, etc. Before this much people in general didn't even want to make eye contact with me and pretty most avoided me like the plague.
Anyone else who has lost weight notice any differences in other people's behavior. If so please share, I would love to hear your stories.
Anyone else who has lost weight notice any differences in other people's behavior. If so please share, I would love to hear your stories.
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Oh heck ya! I get way more attention now Lol. I don't think it's just people being shallow, although some for sure, but I know I hold myself differently now. I smile more at people, I carry myself better, I'm happier in general and I think that attracts more people including friends.0
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My weight loss hasn't been quite so dramatic as yours but I do notice a difference. Although, actually, the first difference is from myself: I'm more confident, I look people in the eye, I stand up straighter; and they chat to me, they listen when I speak, they smile back... you know, strangers - my friends still treat me the same as before.
I think part of it is also that before I was trying *not* to notice when people were looking at me, I'd always assume they wouldn't be pleased with what they saw. But now I'm actively looking to see what they think when they look at me. if that makes any sense...0 -
Hmmm...I've lost just under 60Lbs so far & I still get treated the same. I haven't noticed any difference ...not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing lol0
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... I know I hold myself differently now. I smile more at people, I carry myself better, I'm happier in general and I think that attracts more people...
^ This is probably why. You get what you give, so when you put out happy, confident vibes (even unconsciously), you're gonna get positive responses back. :flowerforyou:0 -
you're confident and feeling it so embrace it!
it can also work in the reverse too so be mindful of that
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yea! they treat me like a king0
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Definitely, however it might also be because my attitude had changed as well. People definitely pick up on negative and positive vibes. With the change in my appearance there had also been a change in my demeanor and people are responding to it a lot better than in the past.0
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I act differently.0
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I think it's perfectly normal to treat people differently when they lose weight! Not in that you like them better, but you can talk more openly with them and don't have worry about saying something to offend them. Generally when people lose weight, they become more confident and have a more a positive outlook on life and also are less likely to be easily offended!
However it's a different story if you treated them horribly when they were overweight and then suddenly start being nice to them when they lose weight! That in my books, would not be cool!!0 -
Great point everyone. I never thought of it that way. It could be because my attitude and outlook on life has changed as well 0
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I hadn't realised until this post, but I have been more confident and I've only lost about 8lbs so far. But the added confidence has made me feel a lot more relaxed talking to people. I am now making friends with people in my gym classes, whereas before I wouldn't really talk to anyone before.0
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Yes alot...girls ,guys ,strangers,friends and i don't like it at all because the only thing that changed about me is my looks i'm just lighter and more defined my personality & confidence is the same my confidence and self esteem was never low when i was overweight ..That proves to me that most people ( A very large percentage ) are sick and shallow they are not talking to you they are talking to your body its really stupid and now i completely avoid them they just make me feel literally sick ...0
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very much so especially from girls. Is stupid really as im the same guy inside but im not complaining either. 0
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Wow, 100 lbs is amazing good for you!
Like you mentioned, I seem to get more attention from the fairer sex now. I unfortunately haven't gotten better looking, that's for sure, so I'm guessing its gotta be the weight loss, or just me feeling overall better about myself and carrying myself more confidently.0 -
Yes- I noticed that when I'm walking to places, more people stop to let me cross the road.
But I've also noticed that a lot of people are quite *****y. I am proud of what I've achieved. I still have relatively low body confidence, but from a health point of view rather than an aesthetic point of view I'm very proud of myself, and it hurts when people make comments like "oh she thinks she's so great".
I get people commenting on statuses on Facebook to say when I've lost more weight saying that being thin isn't better than being "curvy". I mean, why do that when someone's obviously proud of what they're achieved! And I'm curvy in the ACTUAL sense rather than the "just another word for being fat" sense.0 -
I hadn't realised until this post, but I have been more confident and I've only lost about 8lbs so far. But the added confidence has made me feel a lot more relaxed talking to people. I am now making friends with people in my gym classes, whereas before I wouldn't really talk to anyone before.
hehe, this, exactly. Instead of looking away and actively trying not to meet anyone's eyes in the gym, I now smile and nod (with earbuds in); and sometimes I try to chat to the obvious newbies, kind of encourage them a bit. Although honestly, I'm kinda afraid of scaring them off. I know I would have run screaming from some chatty gym-gal a year or two ago!0 -
Only when I have my hair purple & decide I'm dancing my way through the supermarket.0
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Yes people treat differently..........also the confidence in ourself increases.0
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very much so especially from girls. Is stupid really as im the same guy inside but im not complaining either.
I notice it as well from myself. Though I am still a bit shy, takes a while for me to warm up to the opposite sex, my inner confidence exudes and that was never the case before.0 -
I don't feel like I've really lost enough weight for that to kick in. I'm still in the obese category, so I'm still "invisible."
Edited for typo.0 -
I get a bit more attention now. Sometimes I find it a bit offensive when men who previously never noticed me tell me I'm attractive. Seems a bit shallow but then I know that a lot of the time it's because I have more confidence now, I make more effort with myself and I'm a lot happier so a nicer person to be around.0
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I haven't noticed much of a difference but I may be oblivious. A couple of my close friends have told me that my confidence has increased (this is something I totally struggle with) so maybe it is happening but the skewed view of myself is prohibiting me from seeing it.0
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People treat me the same0
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Men treat me like I'm feminine now... weird, I've always been female. Women are either happy for me or *****y at me... I have lost 2 "friends" so far.0
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I haven't noticed much of a difference but I may be oblivious. A couple of my close friends have told me that my confidence has increased (this is something I totally struggle with) so maybe it is happening but the skewed view of myself is prohibiting me from seeing it.
^^^this is totally me because I get hit on alot more (from what my friends say) but I don't notice a lot of it. My friends call me Ms. Oblivious. lol0 -
I haven't noticed much of a difference but I may be oblivious. A couple of my close friends have told me that my confidence has increased (this is something I totally struggle with) so maybe it is happening but the skewed view of myself is prohibiting me from seeing it.
^^^this is totally me because I get hit on alot more (from what my friends say) but I don't notice a lot of it. My friends call me Ms. Oblivious. lol
lol; back in HS it took me quite a while and several friends being outraged on my behalf to realize I was being bullied. Which is weird because I tend to suffer from teh white kinght syndrome: I rush to help whenever I see injustice, often without asking if people WANT help.0 -
I don't feel like I've really lost enough weight for that to kick in. I'm still in the obese category, so I'm still "invisible."
Edited for typo.
I see you, dang girl you're so fine... what's your name?
Whateva...you won't even take me out for sushi!0 -
Yes and no. Some of my female colleagues are way nicer to me now, some of them are not. Male colleagues treat me the same and never ask me any questions about it. Almost all the females asked me how did I do it. It really doesn't matter though, right? We don't do this to get attention or get better treatment, etc...right?0
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Sadly, YES. (strangers anyway, particular men)
but my friends and family all treat me the same.0 -
I think they have but only because *I* am different. Before I was just a fat unhappy (with my self but happy in general) person and even though i thought i was being friendly many people say they always thought i was angry or that i disliked them. since losing some weight ive gained some confidence and have been a happier person. more friendly. more outgoing and in return people have been very positive back towards me! :-)0
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