am I losing weight for the wrong reason?

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  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    azulvioleta6 wrote: »
    Are you doing this for a specific person or to be/feel more attractive in general?


    Excellent question.
  • 4rtistry
    4rtistry Posts: 33 Member
    From the sound of it, you want to lose weight because you believe it will make you feel happier. That's an excellent reason, in my opinion. Your appearance shouldn't be your only source of self-satisfaction, but it's deluded to pretend that it isn't a factor in same. Just be healthy about it and do it the right way and you'll be fine.
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    callsitlikeiseeit wrote: »
    ive been 100 pounds, and ive been 250 pounds. until you learn to love yourself for YOURSELF.... nothing will make you happy. no matter what weight you are.

    Love this!
    rabbitjb wrote: »
    There's only one person who can answer that

    So are you?

    and this!
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Lose the weight. If it makes you happier, great (healthy always makes me happier), if it doesn't, you can always gain it back.
  • vixtris
    vixtris Posts: 688 Member
    edited June 2015
    I think your weight has nothing to do with not being in a serious relationship. Be yourself around others, and you will come along someone that will click with you. However, there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to change yourself. If you feel uncomfortable, or feel like you could improve yourself, then by all means do so! But do it for yourself, and your own happiness, not only to score a boyfriend (thats just a nice benefit lol)
  • MysticRealm
    MysticRealm Posts: 1,264 Member
    I'm currently a size 6/7 and I'm not happy with my weight and am strictly losing it for vanity reasons. Lose weight for you and whatever reason you want.
  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    why i lost weight, i wasn't happy with what i saw in the mirror...i dont think its being vain at all.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    If it's your reason, then it's not a bad one. :)

    "I want to be more attractive" is 100% normal and probably starts more weight loss journeys than not. :)
  • Chezzie84
    Chezzie84 Posts: 873 Member
    edited June 2015
    emilywalker298 wrote: »
    jemhh wrote: »
    I'm not entirely sure I understand your post. When you say "unhappy in my personal life" are you referring to not being in a relationship? So you are asking if it is wrong to lose weight in order to attract a mate?

    (FWIW, I don't think that there is anything wrong with a little vanity. But I'm not sure if that is really your question.)

    Essentialy yes am asking if it's wrong that I feel I have too pose weight in order to be more liked... I know it seems very sad
    emilywalker298 wrote: »
    Chezzie84 wrote: »
    If you are happy with yourself and not with your personal life, that is what you need to change.
    Losing weight will not make you happier with your personal life.
    Not being in a relationship is not a crime, I didn't meet my otherhalf until I was 26.

    My advise to you is if the reason you are unhappy is that you are lonely (I just reading between the lines, sorry if this is not the case) then get yourself out there, do something that you enjoy and go meet people.

    So do you not think that it's all about your outwards appearance? It's hard I just see so many people around me happier, not to mention I've been told before in the past I am Fat, is it just a mental block I have? Thanks for the reply :)

    Sorry for not responding, I have been asleep.
    You said you were happy with yourself but not with your personal life.
    I think this is where I got confused.
    I was merely suggesting that if you are happy with your body and with who you are why change it just so other people will like you?
    The people you need in your life are those who like you, for you. Not your weight, the clothes you wear etc etc

    Maybe I misunderstood.
    In answer to your original question... We are all here to change the way we look and feel about ourselves, whether we fall into the lose or gain category. Is it vain? Most definitely. Is it wrong? Absolutely not.
    Because the most important person in all our lives that should love us, is ourselves.

    Maybe you should think about and physically write down all the reasons you want to change yourself and then decide if its what you want or what you think others want.

    Good Luck xx


  • MeiannaLee
    MeiannaLee Posts: 338 Member
    Chezzie84 wrote: »
    If you are happy with yourself and not with your personal life, that is what you need to change.
    Losing weight will not make you happier with your personal life.
    Not being in a relationship is not a crime, I didn't meet my otherhalf until I was 26.

    My advise to you is if the reason you are unhappy is that you are lonely (I just reading between the lines, sorry if this is not the case) then get yourself out there, do something that you enjoy and go meet people.

    I second this. I lost over 30 pounds and I still have really low self esteem and a lot of issues orz.

    Before losing weight I would suggest taking care of your personal issues first then your weight. Because once you hit that goal weight of yours and your still like "wait im skinny now but why does my life still suck" your gonna want to lose even more weight to make yourself feel better or simply because it wasnt enought the first time to solve all your problems.
  • TimothyFish
    TimothyFish Posts: 4,925 Member
    I see nothing wrong with trying to lose weight to improve your chances of attracting a mate. Appearance shouldn't be the only thing that attracts people to each other, but it is certainly part of the equation.
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