Bad experience at the gym and feeling discouraged

nicoleexo2015

I like going to the gym and working out. I just dislike the attitudes of some people there and the competitive environment. I usually go to the gym late at night to avoid the crowds and it's usually the same people At my local gym. But lately there is a new group of people because a special price going on for new members. For example, a group of women would talk about everyone in the gym and very loudly. As if it is beauty contest in the gym. They even talked about me. When I work out I do sweat if I'm on the same fitness equipment for hour. I work out because I want to lose weight and I know I am fat. It gets very discouraging to have people judge you and you're trying so hard. I do have very low self esteem and things like this bother me probably more than most people.

jesusarolon

I have heard great things about Curves. Do you have one in your area?

livingleanlivingclean

Please remember that their bullying is a reflection of them and not you. I would complain to management if you hear them again, as I believe you have the right to be in a pleasant environment.

You should be proud of your efforts - you are obviously working hard and making an effort to change. Please don't be discouraged by these women!

mamasmaltz3

I would report them also. I'm sure you won't be the only one complaining. Nobody needs to put up with that.

Alatariel75

I'd be having a word to management if this is an ongoing thing. It's in the management's best interests to have people feeling comfortable in their gym.

leeyuhsee

Ugh. They sound creepy. What sort of decent human being does that?
I'm sorry it made you feel bad. You have every right to get angry/complain!

SillyCat1975

livingleanlivingclean wrote: »

Please remember that their bullying is a reflection of them and not you. I would complain to management if you hear them again, as I believe you have the right to be in a pleasant environment.

You should be proud of your efforts - you are obviously working hard and making an effort to change. Please don't be discouraged by these women!

This!

blossomholly

That's disgraceful, no one has the right to do that to you or others,you should defiantly report them or change gyms when your contract ends.

eeeekie

report them. They are making the gym environment uncomfortable for you.

Numb5kull

Just be grateful that the things you want to improve about yourself are a work in progress. They need improvement on the inside, which is a far less likely achievement to ever be realized.

Just keep doing you.

alyhuggan

People judging others in the gym is the exact opposite of what they should be doing. These people are obviously insecure about themselves (hence the need to openly judge others, most likely speaking loudly so you hear them.)

Just report them. Besides, they are probably going to have quit the gym within a month after they get their "beach bodies" along side their detox programmes they spent stupid amounts of money on!

ariloz02

I agree with talking to management but remember you're there for YOU!!! Be proud!!!

samantha0131

Aww hunny!! I'm sorry, I felt the same way went I went to the gym! I felt like the fat one and everyone is looking at me wondering why I am here, even tho it is obvious!
Remember one thing!!!
Weight is a number and it can come off, but bad attitudes and manners don't change!! There is always going to be those people who love to judge other people and it sucks!!
I have a hate/love relationship with the gym, I like what they have but i always hated feeling like I was being judge, so I go on walks now and been working it off.
I know I shouldn't care either but we do, so now I just keep to myself and do my own thing.
I even do workouts at home (YouTube) and participate in a lot of online activities so I interact with People who motivate me and I can help motivate them!!
You're doing great!! You're trying every day!! Keep having faith in yourself, we will show the world we can do this! Hugs!!!

heidyballer

Wow! Shame on them! That is truly discusting. Please know that I am sooo proud of you.

lewispwest

I'd be judging them that they are standing around talking crap about people rather than sorting themselves out. Then again you can lose the weight, they'll always be b!tches!

Emmatyan

I just always remember my mother. She is overweight and doesn't take any care about her appearance at all, but she's always so eager to judge the slightest flaws in other people.
People are there in the gym to work as hard as they can and sweat, and if they don't, it means they are wasting time there.

snowflake954

Take your phone along a couple of times and record their comments. Then play it for management. Usually there is an employee of the gym around---haven't they been listening to this group? You have every right to train in peace. Best.

mwyvr

Report them.

If that doesn't give you enough satisfaction, walk up to them and tell them to go **** themselves.

But I'd try reporting them first. You deserve to be there as much as anyone... and you know that. Frankly if you can ignore them or laugh at them that would be stronger medicine for you. Double down and do your own thing. They'll disappear soon enough.

Karen_can_do_this

What a pack of evil biatches

unrelentingminx

Wear your sweat with pride. It's proof that you are working hard to mould your body into something new. If these women after their 'workout' barely have a hair out of place or a smudge in their makeup then they are wasting their time and money being there. Don't waste yours by being putting off doing your thing because of their narrow-mindedness.

Onyx1303

Be proud of your sweat, you earned it!!!!! But yeah I would definitely report them as well absolutely disgraceful, they should be getting their buts moving instead of standing and gossiping.