Am I fat?
kg00105
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Hi guys! So, this is me...160lbs and 6 foot 2 http://s48.photobucket.com/user/kg00105/library/Mobile Uploads?sort=3&page=1
I grew up being the 'fat kid' at school and always struggled with my weight. Whilst I have lost alot and my friends call me skinny, I still see myself as fat. In particular, the 'love handles(?) I still possess. These seem enormous to me and I cannot look beyond them in the mirror. As a result, I avoid public beaches/swimming pools through embarrasment. What should I do as I am concerned an eating disorder may develop?
I grew up being the 'fat kid' at school and always struggled with my weight. Whilst I have lost alot and my friends call me skinny, I still see myself as fat. In particular, the 'love handles(?) I still possess. These seem enormous to me and I cannot look beyond them in the mirror. As a result, I avoid public beaches/swimming pools through embarrasment. What should I do as I am concerned an eating disorder may develop?
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Nope, you are not fat. My suggestion would be for you to work on building muscle. Eat more and lift heavy weights. Check out the Gaining Weight section of the forums. The people there will be able to help you work through upping your calories in order to help build muscle.0
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You are at the low end of normal weight for your height and maybe leaning more towards under weight. Sounds like you have body dysmorphia. Please seek help for this and not on a weight loss community page.0
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Nope, you are not fat. My suggestion would be for you to work on building muscle. Eat more and lift heavy weights. Check out the Gaining Weight section of the forums. The people there will be able to help you work through upping your calories in order to help build muscle.
This.
Not fat at all.
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Nope, you are not fat. My suggestion would be for you to work on building muscle. Eat more and lift heavy weights. Check out the Gaining Weight section of the forums. The people there will be able to help you work through upping your calories in order to help build muscle.
Holy crap, you are one ripped doggie...
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You need to gain muscle, not lose weight.
Eat more. And lift.0 -
Hi buddy, no your definitely not fat. Please go and talk to someone, you need to make sure you have a healthy view of your body.0
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Cheers guys! If I were to see a doctor, what sorts of things would they likely recommend?0
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Asking a bunch of internet randos to gawk at your photos and tell you if you look fat will not end well.
Weigh yourself and calculate your BMI (20.5, dead normal range, BTW)
Get some calipers or tape and use those to determine your body fat percentage.
Research body recomp.
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And my hubby gets the same so-called "love handles" when he gets soft. So I wouldn't go so far as call it dysmorphia. He called them "love handles," too. I'm like, "Dooood, that's skin. With a tiny bit of fat." But he doesn't like how it bulges in his clothes.
Eat more. Lift. It all smooths out super quickly. You need more meat on your bones, not less, for them too look the way you want.0 -
HollandOats wrote: »Nope, you are not fat. My suggestion would be for you to work on building muscle. Eat more and lift heavy weights. Check out the Gaining Weight section of the forums. The people there will be able to help you work through upping your calories in order to help build muscle.
Holy crap, you are one ripped doggie...
My secret is 4 cups of kibble and 20 hours of sleep per day.0 -
You have a distorted perception of yourself. I see a tall skinny guy. Slight area of fat in the love handle area but it is nothing abnormal or unusual looking that should shame you into covering up or provoke self loathing. It is just an area where some guys carry fat that is hard to lose. No different than a thin woman with a little bit of curve on her tummy. I would hope you would think it ridiculous if she denied herself the fun at the pool because of some misguided notion that people actually noticed or cared. There are 300 pound guys at the beach and they are having fun. And no one cares. So, you might need to get some help with your self esteem and your paranoia about other people judging you for things that are actually in your own mind and not theirs. They are thinking about themselves, not you.
If you want to improve your look, I wouldn't advise weight loss but instead building muscle. Do some weight training and you can look really buff and muscular.0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.0
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No, you're not fat.
The area you're concerned about is hardly noticeable, at all, one would need to be told to look there carefully to pick up on it and even then it's very far from "enormous". You have a perfectly normal looking body (although possibly yes towards the low end of normal, which may or may not be healthy for you, I don't think any of us can say).
Only on a weight loss / fitness website that is focused on particular aesthetic standards (which are not held by the majority of people) would anyone even suggest there is room for improvement.
If you did want to "do something" about the areas that concern you, the advice by @jemhh is helpful.
I do think your reaction to body changes is also kind of common, in that people who've lost weight sometimes do fixate on body parts during/after weight loss. If you are distressed, and need help adjusting your body image, I think some help from a therapist could be useful. Objectively speaking, your "love handles" are really not at all noticeable.0 -
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Hit the gym
Lift heavy things and put them down again
Eat at or above your TDEE0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
^this right here. Workout, lift weights.0 -
Not fat but I understand...sometimes when I look in the mirror I "see" fat but at a BMI of 19.6 I'm pretty sure I'm not.
I'm "skinny fat" and it looks like you may be as well.0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
You seem to be offended on behalf of the OP and I'm not sure why. "Skinny fat" is not a derogatory term or indicative of an unusual aesthetic standard. I don't see anything wrong with what Hornsby wrote.0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
Hope that wasn't a dig, since we are on a fitness website... although, I wouldn't agree that it is only people who frequent websites. I would extend that to just fit people in general. Most fit people know the term regardless of the websites they are on.
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If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
No
What you have is a young man, at a healthy weight, who has lost a lot of weight and is still uncomfortable and under confident in his body
The psychological, if not physical, solution to that is to get fit and strong...the way to do that is to follow a progressive resistance routine..the side effect is confidence and yes muscular development
Instead what you have done, from what I can see, is add what I believe you imagine to be a politically correct and pseudo-sympathetic response, offering nothing of help to the OP in an attempt to gain some kind of upper hand in a battle that nobody else is fighting
There's nowt as odd as folk0 -
You were probably never "fat," you just hadn't grown into your weight yet!Hi guys! So, this is me...160lbs and 6 foot 2 http://s48.photobucket.com/user/kg00105/library/Mobile Uploads?sort=3&page=1
I grew up being the 'fat kid' at school and always struggled with my weight. Whilst I have lost alot and my friends call me skinny, I still see myself as fat. In particular, the 'love handles(?) I still possess. These seem enormous to me and I cannot look beyond them in the mirror. As a result, I avoid public beaches/swimming pools through embarrasment. What should I do as I am concerned an eating disorder may develop?
Google 'what is proper BMI?' for guidelines for proper weight for your gender, age, height. Then you can realistically work at increasing muscle, maybe even getting the help of a certified trainer at a gym/health club.
And accept yourself for who God made you to be: a tall, handsome young man.
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If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
I believe this is called, answering the question honestly.0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
You seem to be offended on behalf of the OP and I'm not sure why. "Skinny fat" is not a derogatory term or indicative of an unusual aesthetic standard. I don't see anything wrong with what Hornsby wrote.
I'm just concerned that if he does have significant distress, suggesting that he hold himself to standards held by a small subset of the general population might make things worse. because really, it's not a universal standard, far from it.If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
Hope that wasn't a dig, since we are on a fitness website... although, I wouldn't agree that it is only people who frequent websites. I would extend that to just fit people in general. Most fit people know the term regardless of the websites they are on.
Nope, not a dig at all. I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with the standard itself, if the people applying it to themselves have a basically ok body image. It's more just that if someone has some possibly hurtful ways of thinking about themselves already, not sure it's helpful for that0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
No
What you have is a young man, at a healthy weight, who has lost a lot of weight and is still uncomfortable and under confident in his body
The psychological, if not physical, solution to that is to get fit and strong...the way to do that is to follow a progressive resistance routine..the side effect is confidence and yes muscular development
Instead what you have done, from what I can see, is add what I believe you imagine to be a politically correct and pseudo-sympathetic response, offering nothing of help to the OP in an attempt to gain some kind of upper hand in a battle that nobody else is fighting
There's nowt as odd as folk
No, it's not a "politically correct" or "pseudo-sympathetic" response. Christ on a cracker.0 -
Nope, not a dig at all. I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with the standard itself, if the people applying it to themselves have a basically ok body image. It's more just that if someone has some possibly hurtful ways of thinking about themselves already, not sure it's helpful for that
I hear you. I would say to OP, you're not fat, you are slender and just a bit out of shape (I say this as a person who is actually fat). Totally different ball game. And you absolutely look completely normal so get out to the pool already and play with the other kiddos! Waiting until you're perfect will just guarantee life passing you by.0 -
If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
You seem to be offended on behalf of the OP and I'm not sure why. "Skinny fat" is not a derogatory term or indicative of an unusual aesthetic standard. I don't see anything wrong with what Hornsby wrote.
I'm just concerned that if he does have significant distress, suggesting that he hold himself to standards held by a small subset of the general population might make things worse. because really, it's not a universal standard, far from it.If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
Hope that wasn't a dig, since we are on a fitness website... although, I wouldn't agree that it is only people who frequent websites. I would extend that to just fit people in general. Most fit people know the term regardless of the websites they are on.
Nope, not a dig at all. I don't think there's anything particularly wrong with the standard itself, if the people applying it to themselves have a basically ok body image. It's more just that if someone has some possibly hurtful ways of thinking about themselves already, not sure it's helpful for that
Understood. I guess I just don't have as much sympathy or something. I live by the "suck it up" mantra. Yes, he may have body image issues, but since I don't have any expertise in psychological issues, I'm not going to cater to those. Instead, I will tell the guy how he can fix it the way I know how, and that is to lift some stuff.
Sincerely,
A former skinny fat guy.0 -
If anything, you need to be eating more food and adding some Muscle!
Why in the world would you think you're fat?
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If you are asking the question, I am sure you don't mind honesty. You are what a lot of people would call "skinny fat". Meaning you are probably at a healthy weight, but have a relatively high BF percentage for your weight. I am assuming you lost a lot of weight without any type of strength training. If that is the case, get on a structured lifting program and build some muscle.
this is an example of a standard that is not held by the majority of people (who do not frequent fitness websites).
Hope that wasn't a dig, since we are on a fitness website... although, I wouldn't agree that it is only people who frequent websites. I would extend that to just fit people in general. Most fit people know the term regardless of the websites they are on.
Tomatoey can speak for him/her self, but my take on this is that there are "average person on the beach" beauty/fitness standards and there are "fit people in the gym" standards. The average person on the beach is overweight or obese and among those who are not, skinny fat is not all that unusual. Judging by those standards the OP is fitter and thinner than average and needs to not hold back from going out in public! He looks great!
Among fitness minded people he is a good BMI but needs to lift and muscle up a bit in order to be ideal. That isn't a critique of fitness minded people to say that at all, just a reminder to keep things in perspective.
I'm a runner and it is the same thing in my world. At a 10K race I am a little chubbier, older, and slower than the average woman with being 3 lbs in the overweight range, 43, and running a 10-11 min pace. I am not elite athlete and it would be easy to get down on myself as shamefully fat and so slow that I should hide in my house from embarrassment. That would be silly though. I don't have to fit "elite runner" standards to be a worthwhile person who can enjoy life and have fun challenging myself at the race. And compared to the typical woman my age I am fit and a good size and my health is great. So I hold my head high as I bring up the rear in that race, knowing I can still lap the "average woman" sitting on her couch.
So the OP I think just keep that in perspective. You are regular person lean and nice looking and you have nothing to feel embarrassed about on the beach. But if you want to be elite level hot bodied then you need to listen to these weightlifter guys who know about that and have a set of high standards they can help you reach. Just don't let your self worth get too drawn into being perfect.
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