This lifestyle isn't for the thin-skinned.

tomii13

They say it takes 30 days to break a habit.

I've been eating healthier since October 2012. Regularly exercising since Dec/Jan 2012.

To date, I've lost approx 30 lbs.

You get the good, and you get the bad. The funny part is, that I like the bad more than the good. Why? Because I don't know how to take a compliment. But doubt/insult me and it gives me more of a drive.

So where am I going with this?

My co-worker. Long story short: 22 years old and has had about 4 plastic surgeries. Next on her list: boobs job.

So last week she goes to me: "If you like the job my surgeon does on me, I'll give you his card because you know you can exercise all you want but..." without me even suggesting that I am remotely interested! Sure I've lost a lot of boob and I'm working on toning, but hey, I'm comfortable & confident in my own skin., apparently you're not. Even if it's not as tight as yours. My pride is that I am working on it.

Today she goes: "You're looking so much thinner - in no time you'll be looking great" LOL! I just laughed it off. Soorrrryy that my progress isn't as speedy as yours my dear, but I AM already looking great and I worked hard for it! :P

I found it just too funny.

Happy week fellow MFPs!

SoDamnHungry

Without being there, I can't really be sure how it was intended to be said. But from here, it sounds like she was trying to be nice in her own, weird, plastic surgery way. At least it's not like she was suggesting that you needed plastic surgery when she had never had any.

healthytanya1

Sounds like she has to put you down just to make herself feel better. I can't stand people like that. I did get fake boobs at 18 but she's 22 and 4 surgeries. Holy **** she must be insecure or maybe she has too much money.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

She's just immature. Write her off and ignore her. Nod politely and be nice at work, but her opinions are worth very little to you. Take it for what it is, stupidity and self-absorption.

askeates

Sounds to me like she doesn't understand or truely value hard work. If she prefers surgery, good on her, personally (like you) I prefer the old fashioned way and avoiding the knife at all costs!

Congratulations on your success to date! :drinker:

RobynLB83

Meh, she's 22, probably a little clueless about how her statements sound coming out of her mouth, but I doubt she means any harm. Try to take the positive, and don't read any more into it than that.

A lot of women ( I say women because it's a trait more commonly socialized into women) are super sensitive as to how their statements affect others-- but some aren't. I'm sometimes in the second camp, and trust me, we're just clueless foot in mouth idiots sometimes.

tomii13

I don't mean to bash her or anything in any way. I just find it funny. I have nothing against plastic surgery. It's just not for me. And yes, I know her, and I know she's insecure, but I think SoDamnHungry has a point about her trying to be nice in her own weird plastic surgery way.

I don't let it get to me. I really find it funny.

And thanks for the support :P

salladeve

I would have to hear her and see her when she was saying that to you, but in a way she could be trying to compliment you on your progress. She may not understand why you go to all that hard work, when hey, here's my surgeons number, but good job anyway :ohwell:

VitaBailey

I get the feeling your co-workers is the kind of person who gives backhanded compliments no matter what she is commenting on. It speaks to her character. I'm glad you are letting it roll off of your back. It sounds like you have yourself together. Nice stats. :-)

tomii13

Meh, she's 22, probably a little clueless about how her statements sound coming out of her mouth, but I doubt she means any harm. Try to take the positive, and don't read any more into it than that.

A lot of women ( I say women because it's a trait more commonly socialized into women) are super sensitive as to how their statements affect others-- but some aren't. I'm sometimes in the second camp, and trust me, we're just clueless foot in mouth idiots sometimes.

Right with ya in that camp. I'm one of the worst offenders. lol

Jroz87

:laugh: I LOVE your reaction to her.

I would be the same way. You KNOW you look good and that's all that matters.

She obviously has a messed-up view on what is truly beautiful. Nothing is better looking than a natural beauty! And on the plus side...your beauty will last and you will age gracefully...her fake boobs and nose (or whatever she has) will eventually give way leaving her looking like Joan Rivers!

Who's better looking...Joan River's or Jillian Michales!

She is reeeeally young and obviously miss-lead, so all you can do is smile...Kill 'em with kindness and show her what's beautiful by staying fit and being happy!

Nothing is more beautiful than a smile (espeically when you're in good shape)

You Rock! :drinker:

tomii13

I would have to hear her and see her when she was saying that to you, but in a way she could be trying to compliment you on your progress. She may not understand why you go to all that hard work, when hey, here's my surgeons number, but good job anyway :ohwell:

Yep. I agree. And it wasn't in a bad tone at all. And even if it was, that's okay. I can take it.

I get the feeling your co-workers is the kind of person who gives backhanded compliments no matter what she is commenting on. It speaks to her character. I'm glad you are letting it roll off of your back. It sounds like you have yourself together. Nice stats. :-)

Thank you!

AbnormalYak

Her comments say something about her - her priorities, her attitude, her social skills (or lack of them). They don't say anything about you. Let them fall off you like the nothings they are.

celtbell3

Joan Rivers - need I say more? LOL

soldier4242

Hey maybe she is actually just trying to say something nice but she is tripping over her own words because of the previous exchange the two you already had. It is entirely possible that she is actually trying just say something nice and she is in one of those situations where she can't win no matter what she says because if the words don't come out exactly right then you are going to insert the worst possible meaning. I can't say for sure because all I have to go on in this one thread post but I felt that someone should mention this possibility.

lithezebra

I think that that she probably meant well. What she said is likely a reflection of her own distorted self esteem, not anything about you. Your response was good, and kind.

tomii13

:laugh: I LOVE your reaction to her.

I would be the same way. You KNOW you look good and that's all that matters.

She obviously has a messed-up view on what is truly beautiful. Nothing is better looking than a natural beauty! And on the plus side...your beauty will last and you will age gracefully...her fake boobs and nose (or whatever she has) will eventually give way leaving her looking like Joan Rivers!

Who's better looking...Joan River's or Jillian Michales!

She is reeeeally young and obviously miss-lead, so all you can do is smile...Kill 'em with kindness and show her what's beautiful by staying fit and being happy!

Nothing is more beautiful than a smile (espeically when you're in good shape)

You Rock! :drinker:

Exactly. And thank you right back atcha!

I think that that she probably meant well. What she said is likely a reflection of her own distorted self esteem, not anything about you. Your response was good, and kind.

I think you said it best. It was no harm on either side.

meredith1123

Who knows what she really meant - whether she was being facetious or possibly just trying to be nice in her own way. Is she blonde?
Maybe she was just being quirky and meant no harm. Sometimes we say things that come across 'vain like' but we dont really mean them to be. You know her better than any of us though so if she truly meant it in a harsh/mean/criticizing way then screw her. LOL
On a side note, i've lost a TON OF WEIGHT in my life and i'm not getting the girls fixed either!! It was my fault i got fat. I'll keep what ive destroyed in its natural facet.

tomii13

Hey maybe she is actually just trying to say something nice but she is tripping over her own words because of the previous exchange the two you already had. It is entirely possible that she is actually trying just say something nice and she is in one of those situations where she can't win no matter what she says because if the words don't come out exactly right then you are going to insert the worst possible meaning. I can't say for sure because all I have to go on in this one thread post but I felt that someone should mention this possibility.

She knows I can take criticism well and probably why she even says those things to me. I really wasn't complaining or anything, just sharing my experiences. I know comments like that can do harm to others, but it shouldn't. I've told her I'm not interested in plastic surgery she just keeps pushing the idea my way which is why I said it isn't for the thin-skinned.

babydiego87

Lol it seems like she means well but isn't paying attention on how she is wording things. I wouldn't say it's malacious at all.

tomii13

Who knows what she really meant - whether she was being facetious or possibly just trying to be nice in her own way. Is she blonde?
Maybe she was just being quirky and meant no harm. Sometimes we say things that come across 'vain like' but we dont really mean them to be. You know her better than any of us though so if she truly meant it in a harsh/mean/criticizing way then screw her. LOL
On a side note, i've lost a TON OF WEIGHT in my life and i'm not getting the girls fixed either!! It was my fault i got fat. I'll keep what ive destroyed in its natural facet.

haha. Love your post comment. Nice to see someone who will keep them natural after the weight loss. woo!

And she's not blonde. lol. But does have a self esteem/image issue.

oh well.