Struggling to give up.....

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  • SingRunTing
    SingRunTing Posts: 2,604 Member
    I save 200-300 calories every night for a late night snack of something sweet. When you plan ahead for it, it makes it even better.
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    Kalikel wrote: »
    You have to figure out what you want!

    Do you want to include cake? It would seem, since you went out and bought it - that you do. If that's what you want, then include cake in your plans so that it doesn't become an overage and a binge. Lots of people here have said that they purposely eat small amounts of things they love because if they don't, they will binge. You won't be alone there.

    If you don't want to include cake, then you're going to need to be more disciplined and not cave in while you're trying to change your habits. It takes time. But you keep working on it and you get better at it.

    Going out for cake, though, I think it's time to sit yourself down and figure out what it is you really want. It sounds to me like you want cake. Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems that way.

    Either way, figure it out and commit to it. :)

    My mother wanted cake and I ended up eating some. But she now wants to lose weight so hopefully no more cake. I don't even like cake that much anymore unless it's battenberg
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    I can't have trigger foods around. I hide them. From myself or have my hubby or I will eat the whole thing! I don't buy sweets for me but tge others like em so its hard if im in that place bc I will eat it then im craving sweets so its better to not go there if I can.

    I just hate that I've gotten myself back into this after 4-5 years of eating properly and moderation and portion control. I move closer to family and bam! I'm back where I started :(
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    I save 200-300 calories every night for a late night snack of something sweet. When you plan ahead for it, it makes it even better.

    Sometimes I don't even crave it, it's just because it's there
  • ExRelaySprinter
    ExRelaySprinter Posts: 874 Member
    edited July 2015
    Lilith5 wrote: »
    Kalikel wrote: »
    You have to figure out what you want!

    Do you want to include cake? It would seem, since you went out and bought it - that you do. If that's what you want, then include cake in your plans so that it doesn't become an overage and a binge. Lots of people here have said that they purposely eat small amounts of things they love because if they don't, they will binge. You won't be alone there.

    If you don't want to include cake, then you're going to need to be more disciplined and not cave in while you're trying to change your habits. It takes time. But you keep working on it and you get better at it.

    Going out for cake, though, I think it's time to sit yourself down and figure out what it is you really want. It sounds to me like you want cake. Maybe I'm wrong, but it seems that way.

    Either way, figure it out and commit to it. :)

    My mother wanted cake and I ended up eating some. But she now wants to lose weight so hopefully no more cake. I don't even like cake that much anymore unless it's battenberg
    Now Battenburg is my worst kind of cake. Lol.... Give me a doughnut any day (even though it's not really a cake ;) ).
    Don't feel bad about eating sweet stuff,....i eat Chocolate or some kind of Sweets (Candy) every day.
    As long as it fits within your calorie count, no worries!

  • WBB55
    WBB55 Posts: 4,131 Member
    eat the crisps/chips. eat the cake. just weigh and log it, to make sure it fits in your overall calories for the day. don't stress about one food being "bad" and another being "good." You might be getting cravings because your daily calorie goal is too low. How tall are you? What's your goal loss rate set to?
  • allaboutthecake
    allaboutthecake Posts: 1,535 Member
    Your ticker says you have 108 lbs to lose and that you've lost 5. So, you want to give up and be at this same weight? I read your profile and you've written very powerful words. Were those words for you? Perhaps re-read what you wrote?

    And the junk food is for your niece? Does she need the junk food? You made the purchase, correct? Perhaps just toss it outside in the trash?

    At 27 years old, its time to take control of your life. Best of luck. :)
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    WBB55 wrote: »
    eat the crisps/chips. eat the cake. just weigh and log it, to make sure it fits in your overall calories for the day. don't stress about one food being "bad" and another being "good." You might be getting cravings because your daily calorie goal is too low. How tall are you? What's your goal loss rate set to?

    I'm 5ft and I want to get to 7st 10
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    Your ticker says you have 108 lbs to lose and that you've lost 5. So, you want to give up and be at this same weight? I read your profile and you've written very powerful words. Were those words for you? Perhaps re-read what you wrote?

    And the junk food is for your niece? Does she need the junk food? You made the purchase, correct? Perhaps just toss it outside in the trash?

    At 27 years old, its time to take control of your life. Best of luck. :)

    No I don't want to be at this weight :( yeah I actually had forgotten what I had wrote.
    I suppose out of sight out of mind, I'll just find somewhere to put them.
    Thanks Allaboutthecake :)
  • EmmaFitzwilliam
    EmmaFitzwilliam Posts: 482 Member
    I certainly haven't given up sweets. Now, admittedly, I don't worry about my sugar grams, or even that much about my macros, though I generally aim for the 50/30/20 carbs/fat/protein balance.

    I have a Nothing Bundt Cakes bundtlet in my refrigerator right now, and a fair bit of ice cream. And when I have 200-400 calories remaining after dinner, I might have one or the other. Or I might go a few calories over the goal (which, for a 1 pound per week weight loss, is set at a 500/day calorie deficit).

    Maintaining a healthy weight is about informed choices more than ascetic deprivation.
  • Teamhynes
    Teamhynes Posts: 31 Member
    I would do exactly what you described if I didn't find room to fit sweets into my day. I usually eek in some trail mix with M&Ms to get my crunchy sweet fix. I find it much harder to stay on the path I'm committed to if I consume any large quants of junk food. My carb cravings kick in and it's like going into carb detox all over again. Just doing small amounts means I get the best of both worlds without the constant struggle with what is really head hunger.
  • allaboutthecake
    allaboutthecake Posts: 1,535 Member
    Lilith5 wrote: »
    Your ticker says you have 108 lbs to lose and that you've lost 5. So, you want to give up and be at this same weight? I read your profile and you've written very powerful words. Were those words for you? Perhaps re-read what you wrote?

    And the junk food is for your niece? Does she need the junk food? You made the purchase, correct? Perhaps just toss it outside in the trash?

    At 27 years old, its time to take control of your life. Best of luck. :)

    No I don't want to be at this weight :( yeah I actually had forgotten what I had wrote.
    I suppose out of sight out of mind, I'll just find somewhere to put them.
    Thanks Allaboutthecake :)

    It just takes a little bit of perspective. Your welcome. :)

  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Make room in your allotment.
  • reneeconnor2015
    reneeconnor2015 Posts: 6 Member
    <<<< 4ft 111
  • reneeconnor2015
    reneeconnor2015 Posts: 6 Member
    Sorry 4ft 11
  • cbelc2
    cbelc2 Posts: 762 Member
    I would ceremoniously trash the cake. It was bought at a weak moment. Try giving up sugar and refined grains for 24 hours and see if you can get past the craving.
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    Sorry 4ft 11

    Being short has it's upsides and downsides lol
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    cbelc2 wrote: »
    I would ceremoniously trash the cake. It was bought at a weak moment. Try giving up sugar and refined grains for 24 hours and see if you can get past the craving.

    I'll try that. Thanks
  • callsitlikeiseeit
    callsitlikeiseeit Posts: 8,626 Member
    i would be miserable if i gave up sweets and beer.

    id much rather plan for them and get to eat them regularly!

    i had a cupcake earlier, which means i dont get my chocolate tonight when i go to bed, but thats the price i paid for that snack! LOL!

    (sadly, it wasn't even really worth it... oh well LOL)

    youre an adult. you control what goes in your mouth and when. start acting like an adult.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I give up nothing....
  • whmscll
    whmscll Posts: 2,254 Member
    edited July 2015
    I am on 1200 calories a day and losing .5 to 1 pound a week most weeks (some weeks I do not lose anything). I exercise 5-6 days a week and eat back many of those calories. I do not have "cheat" days or "refeeds." I have given up alcohol, cheese and most sugary treats in order to lose. I look forward to adding them back in moderation when I am at maintenance and have more calories. When I see responses like "just fit it in" and "when I have 300-400 calories left after dinner" it is clear to me that people have NO idea what it is like to be older, very short, close to your goal (I only need to lose 10 pounds) and set to 1200 calories a day to lose a very modest amount of weight per week. It is not that easy, people!
  • allaboutthecake
    allaboutthecake Posts: 1,535 Member
    OP, how are you doing? Want to give us an update :) ?
  • Lilith5
    Lilith5 Posts: 99 Member
    OP, how are you doing? Want to give us an update :) ?

    I'm down 3lb!! ☺️
  • strong_curves
    strong_curves Posts: 2,229 Member
    Lilith5 wrote: »
    OP, how are you doing? Want to give us an update :) ?

    I'm down 3lb!! ☺️

    Good for you!

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  • 218Beth
    218Beth Posts: 34 Member
    Awesome!
  • FoodFitnessTravel
    FoodFitnessTravel Posts: 294 Member
    I have reached my goal weight without cutting anything out. I get cranky if i don't eat sweets, I probably eat too many even.
    Fill up on nutritious food, like veggies, protein, healthy fats and leave a few hundred calories every day for treats. It's easy, it's just a numbers game. DO NOT skip meals just to have sweets, a sundae instead of dinner or lunch won't fill you up, it will leave you feeling sluggish and eventually crashing. I have made this mistake so many times in my life. You're gonna consume less of whatever you're craving if you're full anyway.
  • allaboutthecake
    allaboutthecake Posts: 1,535 Member
    Lilith5 wrote: »
    OP, how are you doing? Want to give us an update :) ?

    I'm down 3lb!! ☺️

    :)<3
  • clh72569
    clh72569 Posts: 280 Member
    I am a 53 year old lady and 4'11". Last Friday I ate a large piece of Costco chocolate bundt cake, brownie, and lots of delicious pot luck food. I lost 1 lb over the weekend. When I buy things that I may binge on I take a small bite and take the rest to work.
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