Hubby does not notice

demoiselle2014

moyer566 wrote: »

to be honest, since I've started being accountable and tracking I've lost 20lbs, but total I've lost closer to 30. no one has said one word about it to me. no one. not friends, work buds, fiancé, family
it makes me sad but I keep going because it is about me. and I get happy as I see the scale numbers go down down down

In many circles it's considered really impolite to comment on another person's weight, no matter what direction you are going. Weight loss could be involuntary due to depression or illness, for example, so if you haven't been mentioning your fitness and diet goals to others, they may feel like it is uncouth to comment.

yusaku02

When I lost weight I didn't notice a change in myself until about 30 pounds lost so I wouldn't have expected others to notice either. Give him some more time.

_lyndseybrooke_

Like others have said, he sees you every single day. It's easier to notice that someone you only see every few days/weeks/months has lost weight because the change seems more drastic.

Also, men just aren't as attention to detail as women at work might be.

It could be that he has noticed and hasn't said anything for a number of reasons (not wanting you to think he thought you were fat before, a history of you getting upset when he makes a comment about your weight, etc.).

Or it could be that we're going to notice a 15 lb loss when we look at ourselves in the mirror before another person will. I'm not saying 15 lbs isn't an accomplishment, but it often takes more than that for people that aren't as critical of our bodies as we are to notice.

There's clearly a communication issue going on if you're coming to us about this rather than approaching your husband about it directly. What's so hard about saying, "I lost 15 lbs. Have you noticed?" in a casual way.

More importantly, are you losing this weight for you or for your husband? Very few people have commented on my almost 40 lb weight loss without me bringing it up first, but that doesn't bother me at all. I lost the weight for me. I can clearly see a difference, and that's all I care about. As for my husband, we're very open about what's going on in each other's lives, so he knew that I was trying to lose weight. The lines of communication were already open, but I didn't expect him to mention it on a regular basis. Now we freely compliment each other's bodies and stroke each other's egos like total bros.

R1rainbows

It might be because he sees you everyday. Changes over time are harder to notice when you are always around each other don't give up, he'll come around!