Why is it always about fellas?

Timelordlady85

If it ain't broke, don't fix it lol

MyChocolateDiet

Just go and don't do anything that burns your bridges. That includes indulging in the crush, divulging the crush, or crushing your boss. If your boss is as cool as you think he is and you leave as gracefully as possible not crossing any boundaries he may be open to re-hiring you if as ppl here have hinted the new environment doesn't justify the perks.

I've been re-hired in the past after thinking the grass was greener only to find it was smelly as fertilizer after all. It can happen.

Owlie45

Your thoughts aren't all that matter. What does your SO think about you wanting to stay because of your boss?
Change sucks but if you can be going up you should do it.

MyChocolateDiet wrote: »

Just go and don't do anything that burns your bridges. That includes indulging in the crush, divulging the crush, or crushing your boss. If your boss is as cool as you think he is and you leave as gracefully as possible not crossing any boundaries he may be open to re-hiring you if as ppl here have hinted the new environment doesn't justify the perks.

I've been re-hired in the past after thinking the grass was greener only to find it was smelly as fertilizer after all. It can happen.

Yes

grangerka

Thanks everybody for the advice. Here it is - Monday again - I'm feeling much better and (almost) ready to make a decision

Timshel_

grangerka wrote: »

Does it always really come down to a man?!

This is why men have rule the world. Certain natural and biological (and social) mandates enforce this.

SuperSnoopy

But is that correct, should it be like that in this day and age?

CJisinShape

grangerka wrote: »

fitmap73 wrote: »

Take the new job. You're married and already too emotionally attached to your boss. It's time to go, and be happy you've got a great new offer.

That's what my rational side is telling me to do! screaming even.

Because you don't want your marriage to suffer, which may already be the cae because you are spending a part of your emotional energy on this guy, which means hubby isn't getting his rightful share.

Soopatt

I would go to the new job if I were in your shoes - not because I would find it easy to walk away from a great working relationship but because I think you are hinging too much on that. What if your current boss goes somewhere else or gets promoted and you no longer work together? Then you gave up a great opportunity for something that you have no idea would last. Also, ask yourself, would he (your boss) give up a great career move for you? I am going with no.

Seeing as gender is already in this discussion, I think it is far more likely that a women will hitch her wagon to a man than vice versa. I think that is a pity.

You had a great season, but move on and make great new connections. Back yourself that you can get on with anyone.

There is no judgment in this. I have wanted to jump the bones of many a boss of mine and I don't think its an issue if it stays in your head - but I moved on when the right opportunities came along. I separated fantasy from reality.

Mr_Stabbems

Soopatt wrote: »

I would go to the new job if I were in your shoes - not because I would find it easy to walk away from a great working relationship but because I think you are hinging too much on that. What if your current boss goes somewhere else or gets promoted and you no longer work together? Then you gave up a great opportunity for something that you have no idea would last. Also, ask yourself, would he (your boss) give up a great career move for you? I am going with no.

Seeing as gender is already in this discussion, I think it is far more likely that a women will hitch her wagon to a man than vice versa. I think that is a pity.

You had a great season, but move on and make great new connections. Back yourself that you can get on with anyone.

There is no judgment in this. I have wanted to jump the bones of many a boss of mine and I don't think its an issue if it stays in your head - but I moved on when the right opportunities came along. I separated fantasy from reality.

Good points, good dress/costume.

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Timshel_

SuperSnoopy wrote: »

But is that correct, should it be like that in this day and age?

That is an individual choice really.

esorcel

CJisinShape wrote: »

grangerka wrote: »

fitmap73 wrote: »

Take the new job. You're married and already too emotionally attached to your boss. It's time to go, and be happy you've got a great new offer.

That's what my rational side is telling me to do! screaming even.

Because you don't want your marriage to suffer, which may already be the cae because you are spending a part of your emotional energy on this guy, which means hubby isn't getting his rightful share.

I agree 100%. When I find that I am starting to feel more attracted to another man, I try to change something (and encourage my husband to do the same) in my marriage to help keep my focus and energy there. Example: steamy text messages, more dates, romantic nights, or just simply staying up together to watch T.V. ANYTHING that may have been lacking. Feelings of lust don't disappear immediately, but once the romance in your marriage deepens, you'll eventually think of no one else in the same way. I've realized that once your mind starts drifting in a different directions, so does your partner's. There are these subliminal messages that are communicated between the two of you, although neither one of you may realize that.

I recommend analyzing the benefits to your family if you were change your job, or decide to stay with your current one.