SO, when does the self confidence come?
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bighey75
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Over the last 10 months I've dropped 90lbs (5'10" 255lbs to 165lbs) though diet and regular exercise. I read a bunch of posts where people say they gain a ton of confidence. I, for whatever reason - have none. Don't get me wrong, I physically feel a ton better, I just don't have the overall confidence that others seem to gain along the way in the journey to being healthy.
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If you had confidence, what would you be doing differently?0
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I didn't really have to gain confidence. I'm confident that in confident enough.
I do get treated better by strangers, though.0 -
Honestly, I had more confidence when I was heavier. I think it may have been because I wasn't overly concerned with my size and looks and now I am more so concerned and never satisfied.0
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Maybe your brain has not caught up with your new look. Congrats on the weight loss, however!!0
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Confidentially speaking...sometimes the confidence comes by giving others confidence. How about posting your success story in that forum? The feedback you will get may help. I for one congratulate you.0
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I can't answer that bc I've only lost 24lbs and am still so self conscious. I just wanted to say congrats on the weight loss!! That's amazing, I hope you can learn to be proud and confident in your new (and much smaller) body :-)0
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It's going to be different for every person and is still heavily reliant on factors outside of the weight loss itself.
Working on the way that you think about yourself will go a long way. Parts of it will just "happen", other parts you'll need to catch yourself when you start to think self-deprecating thoughts.0 -
You have to stop and think a minute.. where would you be if you did nothing at all? only when you love yourself and realize how far you've come will you gain self confidence. sometimes we get caught up in the daily grind that its hard to see the big picture. you have to take time to reflect on your accomplishments and whatever you do don't compare yourself to other people.. there is always gonna be someone stronger, skinner, faster, etc. love who you are and own that *kitten* everyday0
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I think that confidence comes from somewhere else not related to weight loss. It can most certainly help but I was at my most self confident at my heaviest. Actually that's not true, my self esteem is at a plateau but I became most at peace with myself at my biggest. Self acceptance is hard and takes work, much harder than getting the number on the scale to come down I think.
Posting in the successes is good advice and it may sound a bit naff but self affirmations are good too, really look at yourself in the mirror, look at all the good stuff you've achieved, try to change the internal dialogue you have with yourself.0 -
girlviernes wrote: »If you had confidence, what would you be doing differently?
I suppose I never really had it. I'd been overweight for 20 years. My younger siblings always sort of made fun of me, just little shots here and there about my weight, they still do, but now its more like "dude, eat a cheeseburger".
I suppose I sort of had this expectation from reading others experiences, and in this area, it's been a complete let down thus far.
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wolfsbayne wrote: »Honestly, I had more confidence when I was heavier. I think it may have been because I wasn't overly concerned with my size and looks and now I am more so concerned and never satisfied.
Same here.0 -
It's something you build separately. Self confidence doesn't come from weight loss.0
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queenliz99 wrote: »Maybe your brain has not caught up with your new look. Congrats on the weight loss, however!!
Cosigned!
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queenliz99 wrote: »Maybe your brain has not caught up with your new look. Congrats on the weight loss, however!!
Evident in my shopping for new shirts the other day... STILL looking at stuff thats too big. I went to the the next size down and viola! It fit.
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girlviernes wrote: »If you had confidence, what would you be doing differently?
I suppose I never really had it. I'd been overweight for 20 years. My younger siblings always sort of made fun of me, just little shots here and there about my weight, they still do, but now its more like "dude, eat a cheeseburger".
I suppose I sort of had this expectation from reading others experiences, and in this area, it's been a complete let down thus far.
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It is a strange thing. For me it is taking time.
I have a new group of friends at the gym and bike trail. I definitely get treated very much differently by women.
Buying an entirely new wardrobe and getting clothes I like, instead of ones that minimize fat...
Let yourself emerge. But be patient.
Congratulations on your great weight loss!!
Awesome job!!
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People have already said it, but I agree. It comes from within. Deciding that your opinion is the only one that counts is what worked for me. I've been skinny and I've been fat. Realizing that I've been a pretty cool person either way was the hard part. It's OK to like yourself and be proud of your accomplishments!0
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I'm still waiting for my confidence to emerge.0
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Bighey. Confident or not.....congratulations on the weightloss!0
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