Are you honest about how much you currently weigh / did way weigh with your partner?

Peaceandwater

I had to declare my weight in front of my guy when we got fishing licenses (apparently they need to know how much you weigh to let you go fishing). I quickly subtracted 15 pounds from the real number, which is the weight I "look". Well, at least I think I look 15 pounds lighter than I am... ;-)

opalle

Nope, never told him my weight, not even when I was at a healthy weight and was 20 lbs lighter. I think I'd rather eat a bucket of nails than let him know my weight at my heaviest. I have another 15 lbs to go before I'm lighter than him again. Maybe then, if he asked, I might tell him what I weigh.

melissakunimitsu9232

xX_PhoenixRising_Xx wrote: »

My husband knew at my highest and he knows now - I'm 70kg lighter than I started and maintaining. The further I got from my start weight the less I minded other people knowing where I started . I'm pretty open about my weight these days.

Well done on losing 70kgs then maintains the loss. It's where I'm hoping to be in however long it takes. I'm looking to loose it slowly by lifestyle changes I can keep up. I guess once I've lost enough to not feel threatened by the end goal I'll more than likely fess up.

jmac4263

My BF is my workout partner. We know daily what each other weigh, we confess when we eat bad, we gym together and help each other out with spots, we cook and change our diet together. Wouldnt have it any other way! Nothing to be ashamed of he does however poke at me some times when one of "my fat" photos show up some where but its not him being mean we both do it to each other!

kellyship17

My BF knows when I lose (we celebrate) and when I gain (he reminds me to keep things in perspective) and when I'm stuck in a plateau, like I am right now. He's very supportive of my healthy life style changes, and while he doesn't run with me, he's very into our nice long weekly walks. It's personal preference whether you tell him. My BF probably knows more than he wants to

melissakunimitsu9232

Peaceandwater wrote: »

I had to declare my weight in front of my guy when we got fishing licenses (apparently they need to know how much you weigh to let you go fishing). I quickly subtracted 15 pounds from the real number, which is the weight I "look". Well, at least I think I look 15 pounds lighter than I am... ;-)

yusaku02

My girlfriend and I are both honest about our weight whenever the subject comes up. It's just a number.

jaga13

I'm not dishonest, but I don't bring it up. That's not my style. Why would he need to know how much I weigh? He's lean, but I have no idea how much HE weighs. It's a number that isn't remotely relevant: he's a foot taller than me. Me telling him how much I weigh would probably go over his head...I mean unless he really wants to google BMI ranges for my height, but I'm pretty sure he has better things to do!

I will say that I've lost weight slowly over a long period of time, so I didn't think he noticed (since he obviously sees me every day), whereas people who see me less frequently have commented. So I did tell him once that I was happy I had lost X lbs, and he congratulated me, and then we moved the F on with our lives.

He is my partner, but that doesn't mean we need to be completely up each others' *kitten* all the time. I never had a heart to heart with him, never said "sweety, I'm on MFP and counting my calories and I need your support." Nope. I bought a food scale and started using it. I'm sure he's seen me do it. I'm not hiding it. But I don't exclaim "honey, I'm using a food processor right now! Let's talk about it!" and I view the food scale exactly the same: just another kitchen tool that he has no idea how to use and doesn't care. ONCE he saw me fidgetting with items in the freezer and asked what I was doing. I explained I was trying to get to the barcode on a big frozen pizza box because I have this app that will scan it to keep track of what I eat. He said "that sounds horrible" and then promptly helped me with that box. I didn't mind the sarcasm. When I need to do something, I just do it.

He has always supported my workouts...we take turns with the kids in the early morning so the other one can workout. That's been going on way before I started losing weight. Again, we don't find the need to have a heart to heart about it. If I want to spend an hour running on a Sunday, he's cool with watching the kids. I don't tell him how many miles I ran. He doesn't share that info with me. It's not a secret, it just isn't relevant and neither of us cares that much about the other's workouts. Just like I don't want to know what he does in the bathroom, but that's a whole 'nother topic.

Sorry for the long diatribe here!

SavannahStClair

I'm honest with my hubby about my weight but he really does not care at all. I imagine he likely doesn't remember the conversations about the number of how much I weigh or have lost... He has always thought that I looked fine, so I think as long as my weight didn't get to a point where I was really unhealthy that everything would have continued to be just fine. However, I respect anyone's decision to not tell their partner the exact number because I know that if I had started larger that I might not have been so forthcoming. It can be difficult to disclose, but at least you're doing something about it.

gramarye

I don't remember if my ex-husband and I talked about it, but he certainly knew how much I weighed. And we've talked about our respective weights since getting divorced.

I was oblique with my boyfriend for a while; he's known me since before I started losing weight, but he's not very good at gauging how much one weighs. We'd been dating for a while before he knew how much weight I'd lost, and now I'm pretty open about my weight, my calorie goals, and what I accomplish because being open helps me also feel accountable.

Need2Exerc1se

Yeah, I told him when I decided to lose weight. He didn't believe me so I even made him look at the scale. LOL

lithezebra

It isn't a matter of honesty. My weight doesn't seem like a very interesting topic of conversation, so I don't talk about it.

jaga13

lithezebra wrote: »

It isn't a matter of honesty. My weight doesn't seem like a very interesting topic of conversation, so I don't talk about it.

WORD

WickedPineapple

I tell Mr. Pineapple just about everything, and we talk quite a lot about health and fitness these days, so yes, he knows. I'll tell him whenever I lose weight and sometimes he'll ask what I'm down to. He'll usually forget that # though. He'll tell me his occasionally if he's lost or gained weight.

opalle

opalle wrote: »

Nope, never told him my weight, not even when I was at a healthy weight and was 20 lbs lighter. I think I'd rather eat a bucket of nails than let him know my weight at my heaviest. I have another 15 lbs to go before I'm lighter than him again. Maybe then, if he asked, I might tell him what I weigh.

Oops, that should say 20 lbs lighter than him. I wish I was 20 lbs away from being at a healthy weight, but not quite there yet.

shadow2soul

I'm the weirdo that isn't phased by that question. Friends or strangers, I don't care, if they ask I will tell. The only time I didn't have an accurate answer was when I didn't have a scale and was gaining weight. Although I would still say "my best guess is XXX lbs.".
My husband has never directly asked. However after my first pregnancy I did freak out about a 260lb gain. I told him and told him I NEVER wanted to see that again. I talk to him about my struggles with losing. I'm always happy to announce a new low to him and he has been very supportive. He decided he wanted to lose weight too a few months after I started and tells me when he sees a loss or gain. We help each other.

jaga13

shadow2soul wrote: »

I'm the weirdo that isn't phased by that question. Friends or strangers, I don't care, if they ask I will tell. The only time I didn't have an accurate answer was when I didn't have a scale and was gaining weight. Although I would still say "my best guess is XXX lbs.".
My husband has never directly asked. However after my first pregnancy I did freak out about a 260lb gain. I told him and told him I NEVER wanted to see that again. I talk to him about my struggles with losing. I'm always happy to announce a new low to him and he has been very supportive. He decided he wanted to lose weight too a few months after I started and tells me when he sees a loss or gain. We help each other.

No one - family, friends, or strangers, has ever asked me. I've never asked someone else what they weigh, either.

AmberDawn1222

I didn't tell him until I had lost some. My hubby is a skinny Minnie so I just wanted to weigh less than him when I told him lol

kimlight2

My husband and I don't really talk about how much we weigh. We are both trying to lose weight in our own ways and we share when we have a good loss but never said what the actual number is. I know he is obese, and he was very embarrassed at a recent doctors appointment when he had to tell her what he thought he weighed. If he ever asked I don't think I would have an issue giving him all my numbers because I am not as big as I was a year ago and I know he loves me no matter what I weigh.

unrelentingminx

I tell my other half about how much I've lost and even if I've put some back on but I doubt he has a clue what my actual weight is or would guess anywhere near.
[As an aside, until recently he thought that the average UK ladies dress size was a 12 and thought he was dating a bigger than average lady (wrong on both counts since the UK average is 14/16 and I was a 16 and am now a 14) so he's generally clueless when it comes to estimating weights and sizes.]

acoustophoresis

Not in the slightest. But sometimes he sees the number on my "if every day were like today..." screen, and I let him believe I weigh that much. He knows how much I've lost, though. I trumpet that around the apartment every time I hit a milestone.

I don't know how much he weighs either, actually. He's a chef and we talk about food more than weight.

ClarityPeace

My husband would probably love if I were shy about my weight; I jump on the scale each morning then crow it in his ear like a rooster!

lithezebra

acoustophoresis wrote: »

I don't know how much he weighs either, actually. He's a chef and we talk about food more than weight.

I love talking about food. I'm always coming up with some new thing to cook that I'm overly excited about.

dubird

Why wouldn't I be? I mean, we've seen each other naked, it's not like I could hide the fact that I was overweight. Plus, by knowing how much we each weight, we can celebrate when weight is lost. I dunno, it never really bothered me for anyone to know, much less my husband. Those kinds of details I don't share with everyone, but not because I'm embarrassed by it, I just don't want embarrasses others. If someone asks, I'll tell them, no biggie.

ohmscheeks

Erm, I will tell anyone how much I weigh...