Would you have said anything?

numinousnymph

I was just at the grocery store and wanted to share a conversation I heard between the customer in front of me in line and the cashier. I was right behind this woman who was checking out. The cashier seemed to know her, and asked her if she'd lost weight. The woman said yes, she'd lost about 12 lbs. The cashier, who looked to be at least 60 or 70 lbs overweight, asked her how she'd lost the weight. The woman replied, "Herbalife", and explained that she just started selling it. The cashier stated that she tried Herbalife years ago, but it didn't work. The woman said, basically, that Herbalife didn't work for her the first 3 times (!!!) she tried it, but it's working now. Something's changed in the formula, perhaps. The cashier seemed very interested and asked her for more information. While I checked out, the woman stood off to the side and started writing down information and going through her phone. I wanted to say something to the cashier -- and really to the two of them -- at the very least that it's also about managing your calorie intake. Or, I thought about saying to at least create a food log and try something like this website. I wanted to say that I've lost 70 lbs using that method. But, the woman was still there after I was all checked out and paid for, and I didn't want to seem rude, so I ended up just walking away, not uttering a word. But I just kept thinking "save your money" towards the cashier and kinda sad that they were both sort of being misguided. Maybe I was reading too much into it, I don't know.

Would anyone have said anything if you were in my position? Just curious.

annette_15

I would want to say something for sure, but with it being two strangers, its really none of my business so I'd keep my mouth shut. Now if I knew them.. Id have a lot to say lol

LKArgh

Absolutely not. Giving advice when not asked about it, it is never a good idea, unless you see something really dangerous happening. We all see things going on around us that we would never do and that we know from experience to be wrong. Still, unless someone is getting hurt, or unless asked, if we start commenting on everything we consider wrong that complete strangers do, can you imagine how this would end?

tomatoey

Not at that moment, because that would create fairly public conflict or at least challenge/stress, and I hate that. Also it would cause the cashier embarrassment, because she was super eager about it right then, so you'd be saying, "you're gullible".

Also, I mean, she is open to quick fixes. Explaining about monitoring calories is kind of a longer conversation. And you'd have to be careful to not come off as condescending, because the point is not you expressing how right you are, it's her coming to grips with the idea.

But I probably would actually say something to the cashier next time I saw her, if she seemed like she was in a good mood & receptive & had time. *** But NB I actually know the cashiers at my local grocery stores on a small talky basis, probably would be less likely to do that if a total stranger.

Sued0nim

Did she ask you for your opinion?

No?

Then no

tomatoey

aggelikik wrote: »

Absolutely not. Giving advice when not asked about it, it is never a good idea, unless you see something really dangerous happening. We all see things going on around us that we would never do and that we know from experience to be wrong. Still, unless someone is getting hurt, or unless asked, if we start commenting on everything we consider wrong that complete strangers do, can you imagine how this would end?

Everyone living well and safely? jk

Paul699

I would have wanted to say "errrm, excuse me, but im waiting to be served here, if you want to talk about personal matters please do so out of work time" but thats just me apart from that, no i would not have said anything, people believe what they want to believe, and you offering an opinion would not have went down well.

ncboiler89

No.

stevencloser

Not worth the effort.

DeguelloTex

People come here and ask for opinions and still get mad when they don't hear what they want to hear.

I doubt essentially calling the customer a huckster and the cashier a gullible rube would have convinced either of the error of their ways.

jennifer_417

Nope.

Alluminati

No

SimoneBee12

Paul699 wrote: »

I would have wanted to say "errrm, excuse me, but im waiting to be served here, if you want to talk about personal matters please do so out of work time" but thats just me

I was a cashier for 4 years and if you said that to me (or most of my coworkers) you would be served so slowly, just to waste your time even more. And we'd probably squash your bread or bananas or something.

After spending hours serving hundreds of customers that don't even acknowledge you, sometimes you just need a quick chat. Plus it's not like the OP wasn't served. She was.

I know it sounds petty. But we really hate those customers. So glad I don't deal with it anymore.

thankyou4thevenom

Nope.

Kalikel

Nope. They don't want to be told anything about calorie deficits. They just want to discuss their trendy diet. There is nothing wrong with that. Lots of people lose weight on trendy diets.

But when my refrigerator went kaplooey and I was buying fridge stuff and a cooler, the cashier asked if I was having a picnic and I told her why I was buying it all and how Best Buy said it would be five days, so I was going to try to find a place that delivered faster, but until then, I need a cooler...the bag boy told me where he got his and how they delivered the same day. I went there and they delivered the same day. So, I appreciated the tip in a BIG way.

People who are adrift can use a life preserver. People on a ship don't really want one, KWIM?

ncboiler89

SimoneBee12 wrote: »

Paul699 wrote: »

I would have wanted to say "errrm, excuse me, but im waiting to be served here, if you want to talk about personal matters please do so out of work time" but thats just me

I was a cashier for 4 years and if you said that to me (or most of my coworkers) you would be served so slowly, just to waste your time even more. And we'd probably squash your bread or bananas or something.

After spending hours serving hundreds of customers that don't even acknowledge you, sometimes you just need a quick chat. Plus it's not like the OP wasn't served. She was.

I know it sounds petty. But we really hate those customers. So glad I don't deal with it anymore.

So are all cashiers passive aggressive?

DeguelloTex

ncboiler89 wrote: »

SimoneBee12 wrote: »

Paul699 wrote: »

I would have wanted to say "errrm, excuse me, but im waiting to be served here, if you want to talk about personal matters please do so out of work time" but thats just me

I was a cashier for 4 years and if you said that to me (or most of my coworkers) you would be served so slowly, just to waste your time even more. And we'd probably squash your bread or bananas or something.

After spending hours serving hundreds of customers that don't even acknowledge you, sometimes you just need a quick chat. Plus it's not like the OP wasn't served. She was.

I know it sounds petty. But we really hate those customers. So glad I don't deal with it anymore.

So are all cashiers passive aggressive?

Apparently just "most." At least at that particular store.

crazyjerseygirl

Nope. Would have not worked. People have to find their own way or it never works.

Love2Rappel

crazyjerseygirl wrote: »

Nope. Would have not worked. People have to find their own way or it never works.

AMEN

soapsandropes

Not your circus, not your monkeys.