(Men) Does weight matter?
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lookin4gains wrote: »I'm going to be brutally honest in here and I may upset a few people. But if your asking for opinions, I'll share how I feel and not just say what I think would make everyone happy. I'm addicted to nutrition and exercise. Physically I am turned off by people who are obese. I understand for most people the gym and nutrition is not a priority. And thats fine. Obesity is just not something I am attracted to and I have no urge to pursue someone if they are. I feel the same way about smokers, that also is a massive turn off for me. I work in the medical field and my opinions are biased because of all the health issues I see related to obesity and smoking. It is shallow, but I know myself and if I were in a relationship I wouldn't understand. I've always dedicated a large portion of my daily life to exercise and diet. It's something I view as easy, so to me I see it as laziness. I've been with overweight women before and the feel of their bodies is very unappealing to me, it's just not something I enjoy. I don't look down on obesity, or smoking. That has no affect on their personality and beauty as a person, but for me to pursue a women there must be that physical attraction. And it's just not there with obesity. I apologize if anyone feels offended, but its just how I view things.
Pretty much this I'd add excessive alcohol/drug abuse to this list as well.
I agree with the drugs and excess alcohol statement. Inviting that kind of dysfunction into your life is akin to walking backwards across an interstate dressed in nothing more than a diaper and a pacifier.0 -
I am 6ft and overweight. But if I told you my weight you probably would not believe me. We all carry so differently. I'm not going to give numbers but yes, men will date overweight women. I attract men often and I think it's the way I carry myself. I like to look nice and not sloppy at all. When I walk into a room I am confident and people sense that. I have lost 55 lbs this past year and still have a ways to go. I work out at the gym 5-6 days a week and eat healthy. I wear tight yoga pants and tight tops when working out. It makes me feel amazing to show my curves and know I'm working on my body.
I think if a man sees you are working on taking care of yourself then he would be attracted to you if are overweight. The weight can be removed, its you as a person that someone will want to stay with. And finding a man that will be with a woman through her journey is awesome! They are out there!!!0 -
I am 6ft and overweight. But if I told you my weight you probably would not believe me. We all carry so differently. I'm not going to give numbers but yes, men will date overweight women. I attract men often and I think it's the way I carry myself. I like to look nice and not sloppy at all. When I walk into a room I am confident and people sense that. I have lost 55 lbs this past year and still have a ways to go. I work out at the gym 5-6 days a week and eat healthy. I wear tight yoga pants and tight tops when working out. It makes me feel amazing to show my curves and know I'm working on my body.
I think if a man sees you are working on taking care of yourself then he would be attracted to you if are overweight. The weight can be removed, its you as a person that someone will want to stay with. And finding a man that will be with a woman through her journey is awesome! They are out there!!!
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Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!0 -
softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
I love this. I knew it had to be the case! :drinker:
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softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.0 -
BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.
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BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Yr definitely onto something here.
To condense the whole thing: It's complicated. On average, in the USA, you get more offers by looking fit. But there are a lot of factors at play besides just people's size, even just in the initial attraction stage. I don't know how to explain "chemistry" which either is or is not there, and in my world is not dependent on size, or gender either for that matter. And whether that chemistry is present or not, that really is the final word IMHO. It's kind of a mystery, to be honest.0 -
I am not saying that attraction doesn't play a role. It does. However, I don't agree with the societal message that promotes the idea, that ladies have to be a certain way physically, in order to be accepted and loved in life. And there are many men that do nothing more than treat ladies as sex objects, reveling in the high physical standards they have set for themselves, as if they were looking to buy a race horse, all the while turning a blind eye to their own imperfections.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.
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BasicGreatGuy wrote: »
I am not saying that attraction doesn't play a role. It does. However, I don't agree with the societal message that promotes the idea, that ladies have to be a certain way physically, in order to be accepted and loved in life. And there are many men that do nothing more than treat ladies as sex objects, reveling in the high physical standards they have set for themselves, as if they were looking to buy a race horse, all the while turning a blind eye to their own imperfections.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.
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Ah yes. The guy with the beer gut and cheetos dust on his computer keys who thinks he deserves a supermodel. I know what you mean lol.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »
I am not saying that attraction doesn't play a role. It does. However, I don't agree with the societal message that promotes the idea, that ladies have to be a certain way physically, in order to be accepted and loved in life. And there are many men that do nothing more than treat ladies as sex objects, reveling in the high physical standards they have set for themselves, as if they were looking to buy a race horse, all the while turning a blind eye to their own imperfections.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.0 -
BasicGreatGuy wrote: »
I am not saying that attraction doesn't play a role. It does. However, I don't agree with the societal message that promotes the idea, that ladies have to be a certain way physically, in order to be accepted and loved in life. And there are many men that do nothing more than treat ladies as sex objects, reveling in the high physical standards they have set for themselves, as if they were looking to buy a race horse, all the while turning a blind eye to their own imperfections.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.
I'd have to blame the porn industry for that mate, porn *kitten* up your subconscious. Makes most men these days have UN-realistic expectations from women.
Directly related to why they see them as sex objects.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
Highly recommended to check that link.
P.S - I've stopped watching it 6 months back0 -
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Seen it, and I ❤️ that TED talk.
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Watching this TED talk now with hubby. omg this is interesting.0
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One of my good friends swears watching porn has ruined his ability to get fully erect when with his gf.0
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BasicGreatGuy wrote: »
I am not saying that attraction doesn't play a role. It does. However, I don't agree with the societal message that promotes the idea, that ladies have to be a certain way physically, in order to be accepted and loved in life. And there are many men that do nothing more than treat ladies as sex objects, reveling in the high physical standards they have set for themselves, as if they were looking to buy a race horse, all the while turning a blind eye to their own imperfections.BasicGreatGuy wrote: »softblondechick wrote: »Quick answer, a 5'9" 130 pound woman is constantly asked out by men. At the store, the gym, sitting at Subway eating a sandwich.
A 5'9", 230 pound woman, spends weekends with her cat. She can count the number of dates she has had in the last five years on one hand.
I know this, because I have been both of those women!
And the men that would be embarrassed to know that the lady they once wouldn't give the time of day, is the same lady that they now want to get to know...
If a man can't truly see the woman before him, he is lost inside himself.
It is amazing the amount of pressure that so many ladies feel in one breath, all from a society that touts "til death do us part" marriages as something to aspire to (which I agree with) and in another breath, treats her as nothing more than eye candy.
Men are visual creatures - we are biologically created like this.
I'd have to blame the porn industry for that mate, porn *kitten* up your subconscious. Makes most men these days have UN-realistic expectations from women.
Directly related to why they see them as sex objects.https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wSF82AwSDiU
Highly recommended to check that link.
P.S - I've stopped watching it 6 months back
Wow, interesting, scary, true, sad, all the above. All men should see this lecture. If men only knew what porn was really doing to them and their relationships.0 -
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder... it's really not what's on the outside that counts, it's whats on the inside... and i don't care if you are drop dead gorgeous, handsome or whatever, imho, if you have an ugly attitude, then you are ugly.. if an over weight person carries themselves right, and dresses well and can still be sexy and attractive and they are happy with the way they look , I say that's a big bonus if he/she has a heart of gold and not have a ugly heart!!!! cause in this day and age, there is so much ugliness going around with the way this world is going right now!!!!0
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And, of course, with porn, there cannot be chemistry because it's not a situation of 2 people being together at all. bleh. That chemistry gives you the initial attraction and then after that IMHO it's a holistic approach. The entire individual, body and mind. Let's put it this way, I know lots and lots of happily married ppl who are fat. They obviously found each other and had the chemistry and attraction. Sometimes both partners are fat, sometimes just one. It didn't stop any of them and it didn't stop my husband either lol. Now if you are talking about ppl who are so big that they have mobility issues, cannot fit in to drive a car or whatever, then that's getting into actual disability, and many people are not equipped to handle that in a relationship. However that's probably not what OP was talking about... I think?
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