True Confessions - Don't Judge

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  • trinty425
    trinty425 Posts: 108 Member
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)
  • branflakes1980
    branflakes1980 Posts: 2,516 Member
    I confess I just signed my first born up for drivers ed, and I sobbed like a baby for 35 minutes. . .
  • Shyness40
    Shyness40 Posts: 3,430 Member
    I confess I just signed my first born up for drivers ed, and I sobbed like a baby for 35 minutes. . .

    *hugs* Mine is 9, but I can't imagine. Time sure does fly.
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Sounds a little passive aggressive to me but who am I to judge. I'm nobody.
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

  • Shyness40
    Shyness40 Posts: 3,430 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    Pffft. Men are all sensitive and caring and helpful. your cues must suck! :wink:
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    My wife cleans the upstairs. I clean the downstairs. My wife is OCD. Notices anything out of place. So, sometimes when I don't feel like a thorough cleaning, I'll pull a chair a little out of place where the vacuum plugs in. When she sees the chair out of place (and moves it back) she assumes I vacuumed.

    But she doesn't notice the lack of vacuum tracks?

    I still vacuum, just not as thoroughly as she does. I make sure I get right in front of the couch and places she will see, but I don't go in the weight room or on the other side of the pool table.

  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    Maybe that's why I'm single, because my opinion should matter. Maybe I'm just naïve.
  • wmccarter33
    wmccarter33 Posts: 41 Member
    jh5377 wrote: »
    I confess my husband and i are swinging with our friends most weekends and absolutely
    Loving it! All first time for us all

    Where do you live
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!
  • Shyness40
    Shyness40 Posts: 3,430 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.
  • CupcakesMom2
    CupcakesMom2 Posts: 154 Member
    I have eaten cream cheese by the spoonful and wanted more.
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.
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  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I want to do something to you.. wait..i reread..you said "for" you. my bad ;)
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    lauranorr wrote: »
    My four year old son has been sick and miserable since saturday and I can't stand it anymore. He's sooooooo mean and crabby. He told me I have a fat tummy when i was working out. I confess I wanted to pick him up and toss him out the window for a second :wink:

    LOL. Aww...hope he feels better soon.
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.

    If I'd see you out there building an engine I'd offer to help in anyway I can. Even if it's just passing you a tool, EVEN if I didn't want to.

    I think we hi-jacked this thread enough though. Sorry gang, carry on with your confessions.
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.

    If I'd see you out there building an engine I'd offer to help in anyway I can. Even if it's just passing you a tool, EVEN if I didn't want to.

    I think we hi-jacked this thread enough though. Sorry gang, carry on with your confessions.

    I agree, moving on.
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.

    If I'd see you out there building an engine I'd offer to help in anyway I can. Even if it's just passing you a tool, EVEN if I didn't want to.

    I think we hi-jacked this thread enough though. Sorry gang, carry on with your confessions.

    I confess i like your thinking! and agree with it. and i'm a dude.
  • T0M_K
    T0M_K Posts: 7,526 Member
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.

    If I'd see you out there building an engine I'd offer to help in anyway I can. Even if it's just passing you a tool, EVEN if I didn't want to.

    I think we hi-jacked this thread enough though. Sorry gang, carry on with your confessions.

    I confess i like your thinking! and agree with it. and i'm a dude.

    and i confess it could lead to garage sex.
  • wilsoncl6
    wilsoncl6 Posts: 1,280 Member
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    lauranorr wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    It doesn't matter what he feels (in this circumstance of course). What matters is what I want done PERIOD. B)
    Tomk652015 wrote: »
    wilsoncl6 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    Shyness40 wrote: »
    J_Surita3 wrote: »
    trinty425 wrote: »
    I have a hard time asking people for help when I want it (and even when I need it). Then later feel angry/hurt/disappointed when no one helped me or offered to help me. (Example: I'm working on painting the trim and doors in a house we recently moved into....my husband, brother, and 2 children just walk around / over me and never help or offer to help.)

    Ask for what you want, men can't take hints. Subtle hints don't work, strong hints don't work, obvious hints don't work. In fact, don't even ask, just TELL him what you want.

    Yeah, but if her husband is like mine, you will tell him what you want and then get to hear him b**ch about doing it so sometimes it's better just to do it yourself unless you're looking to hear the whining.

    Punch him in the throat B) lol

    I like you're way of thinking. LOL

    lol, no but in all honesty, even if they whine and complain, too bad. Get it done dude. I'll take care of you later. It's better then ME whining and complaining that I get no help when I haven't even asked for any. Of course I should NOT have to ask but whatever works. Oh and wear earplugs block his whineyass out. :p

    LOL, you'd be like living with my Mother. What if he doesn't feel that what you want to get done needs to be done or done in the time frame that you think it should be?

    hahahahaha....silly..your assuming your opinion matters....thats cute.

    EXACTLY!

    The way I think about it is...I don't want anyone to do anything for me that they don't want to do so if I have to ask and hear you fuss I'd rather just do it myself. That's just me though. I want someone to do something for me because they want to, not because they feel like they have to.

    I feel this way to a certain degree but if there is something to be done in OUR house, where we BOTH live, IDGAF if you want to or not. You're not sitting and watching TV while I throw up drywall, cut grass or paint walls. That's NOT happening. But that's just me.

    Not just you. No way, no how, aint gonna happen.

    To me, it depends on who's idea it was to do what it is that's being done. If I decided one day to rebuild the engine in my car, I wouldn't expect you to come out and help or demand that you do instead of sitting on the couch watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills reruns. Using the painting as an example, if the paint color was fine with no issues and you got the wild hair to change it, I might help or I might not but don't demand that I help with a project that you took upon yourself to take on because "you" felt like it needed to be done. Of course, that's outside of regular maintenance issues, cutting grass and the like, things that just have to be done.

    If I'd see you out there building an engine I'd offer to help in anyway I can. Even if it's just passing you a tool, EVEN if I didn't want to.

    I think we hi-jacked this thread enough though. Sorry gang, carry on with your confessions.

    I confess i like your thinking! and agree with it. and i'm a dude.

    and i confess it could lead to garage sex.

    And I confess, I think you're just trying to get laid. I could be wrong though, but maybe not.