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  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.
  • shrinkingletters
    shrinkingletters Posts: 1,008 Member
    gemdiver00 wrote: »
    if a measuring cup won't do then maybe I will continue with my issues.

    You came here looking for support, people are encouraging you to use a food scale, you refuse. There's not much more the community can do if one doesn't have an open mind.

    Good luck with your "issues".

    The funny thing is that it's actually easier and more efficient to weigh with a food scale than it is to use measuring cups.

    And less dishes and cups and spoons to wash. Win-win.
  • shrinkingletters
    shrinkingletters Posts: 1,008 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.

    It's not stupid. It works. You want to lose weight, so do what works. What's stupid is continuing doing the same thing and making the same excuses for yourself, and expecting things to change. If that's what you want, go check out the "law of attraction" thread and start on your magical vision board. OR: Someone already posted an informational clip very explicitly showing why weighing is so important. You can watch that and get with the program.
  • sprc1616
    sprc1616 Posts: 14 Member
    edited August 2015
    What makes you think that low carbers don't have to weigh their food?

    I admit this opinion is not at all evidence based and just anecdotal! My mom doesn't own a food scale but when she cut out most of her bread/sugar/pasta/rice carbs, she started dropping weight just because those foods were so calorie-heavy and they made up most of her diet.

  • morkiemama
    morkiemama Posts: 894 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.

    Weight =/= volume. They are not the same thing. Measuring using spoons, cups, etc. is NOT the same as weighing the food in grams, lbs, ounces, etc.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    Comes to a calorie counting website and says she doesn't want to count calories....makes sense....lol2.gif
  • sugaraddict4321
    sugaraddict4321 Posts: 15,876 MFP Moderator
    I know you feel like people are being really down on you, but please don't see it that way. For the vast majority of people without any medical conditions, it really is a case of eating more than you burn. Why not try an experiment? For the next two weeks, eat exactly as you have been, but weigh everything and log it. Just to compare and see how close to 1400 you really are. Maybe you're super close and you can tell us to all go jump in a lake. Maybe you're way off. There's no way to know for sure if you don't at least try weighing for a few weeks. ;)
  • SweetPeasMom55
    SweetPeasMom55 Posts: 3,502 Member
    I'm 5"2" I started off at 168 in may I am down to 150.5 I always make sure every day that I exercise enough that I have an excess of at least 500 calories. I started off with just measuring cups but I did go get a digital scale and everything became so much easier. I am 48. If you are logging everything correct and the bottom says in 5 weeks you should weigh this amount and in 5 weeks you're not even close then something is hinky with the measuring. Don't take it personal we all learn from each other and scales are just a little more accurate. And No I did not start losing til I followed everything to the letter and got a boot to the rear by a buddy on how to do it. Good Luck!
  • sprc1616
    sprc1616 Posts: 14 Member
    Many food blogs have written about the differences in weighing vs measuring ingredients - I suggest you check them out! http://www.browneyedbaker.com/volume-weight-baking-why-should-weigh-ingredients/
  • allbarrett
    allbarrett Posts: 159 Member
    Where do you think your weight came from if not your food? This is something I wonder when I see these threads (and they come up regularly). If CICO doesn't work for you...where exactly is the extra mass coming from?

    Basically, you are working with an equation. If Calories In = Calories Out, then you maintain your weight. If Calories In < Calories Out, you lose weight, if Calories In > Calories Out, then you gain. For this equation, it simply doesn't matter where the calories are coming from. So, if you aren't losing weight, you aren't eating fewer calories (the CI) than you are using to live each day (CO). Either reduce CI or increase CO. The easiest is to reduce what you are eating ("you can't outrun your diet") but ultimately how you choose to accomplish balancing the equation is up to you.
  • jpaulsims
    jpaulsims Posts: 43 Member
    edited August 2015
    You've gotten some really great advice here spoken with a tremendous amount of concern and respect. I encourage you to read this thread community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10235545/seeing-the-light-buying-a-food-scale and reaching out to the poster to hear about what brought her to the realization that a food scale was really important for her success. I know for me I was quite surprised once I got it as well and started weighing things and truly understanding portion sizes.
  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member

    This is why you weigh. It's so easy to eat more than you think you are without doing so.

    Thanks for the video. THAT was actually helpful. So the question I have further is if I'm looking at a package of oats, here in the USA there is a measuring serving size of 1/2 cup at 120 (I don't know if there is, I'm just using an example and don't feel like looking). There is also grams in parenthesis. So wouldn't it stand to reason that 1/2 cup is 120 because it's listed as such. And if I'm honest by measuring (and I do) a flat and loosely packed portion of 1/2 cup wouldn't it stand to reason that it would be 120 calories, give or take deviation error?

    While in school I worked as an intern for a company that worked on food labeling. INteresting place. They were the ones certain companies contract to to determine nutritional labels. There always were deviation error. The label is only an average of that deviation. So that is one large reason why I don't, as of yet, see the difference in weighing and measuring.

  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.
    You didn't watch the video did you?

    And no one is calling you stupid. It is a fact that humans underestimate food intake. Hell, they've done studies, and nutritionists (who deal with this for a living) underestimate their intake. You aren't lying, you aren't horrible, you aren't stupid. You're just like the majority of people trying to lose weight.
  • farfromthetree
    farfromthetree Posts: 982 Member
    You have the wrong attitude which tells me you are right, you won't lose the weight. You are being given good solid advice yet choose to close your ears and get defensive.
    But...whatev
  • tincanonastring
    tincanonastring Posts: 3,944 Member

    This is why you weigh. It's so easy to eat more than you think you are without doing so.

    Thanks for the video. THAT was actually helpful. So the question I have further is if I'm looking at a package of oats, here in the USA there is a measuring serving size of 1/2 cup at 120 (I don't know if there is, I'm just using an example and don't feel like looking). There is also grams in parenthesis. So wouldn't it stand to reason that 1/2 cup is 120 because it's listed as such. And if I'm honest by measuring (and I do) a flat and loosely packed portion of 1/2 cup wouldn't it stand to reason that it would be 120 calories, give or take deviation error?

    While in school I worked as an intern for a company that worked on food labeling. INteresting place. They were the ones certain companies contract to to determine nutritional labels. There always were deviation error. The label is only an average of that deviation. So that is one large reason why I don't, as of yet, see the difference in weighing and measuring.

    Cups are a measurement of volume, grams are a measurement of weight. If the amount of food in the cup weighs the same as the grams on the package, yes, the calories would be 120. If there are 10% more grams of oats in the cup than what the package indicates, there are actually 132 calories in the cup you measured. 20% would be 144 calories. Say you ate that every day for 30 days and were 20% off on a daily basis because you didn't notice the slight mound in the middle fo the cup; that's 720 extra calories in a month that you didn't know you were eating and that's just one ingredient in your diet.
  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member
    allbarrett wrote: »
    Where do you think your weight came from if not your food? This is something I wonder when I see these threads (and they come up regularly). If CICO doesn't work for you...where exactly is the extra mass coming from?

    There is a lot of back and forth here but I did address that already. I am a picker, a snacker, a mindless eater. The app has kept me accountable for that and I have not picked up a mindless snack in 2 weeks. I have not cheated at all. I'm quite sure I was snacking away 600-800 calories per day when you forget about that donut at breakfast and decide a cupcake after dinner is a good idea. Also, I mentioned the birth control hormones did me in. It's a horrible side effect for some people and others not at all. I'm an unfortunate few in that regard. I'm totally on board with CICO, not sure why you feel I"m not.
  • derekspiewak
    derekspiewak Posts: 31 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.

    OK, let's take a breather here and talk about a few things.
    • Weighing your food is definitely better than measuring volume. It's much more precise. Volume varies with foods, but weight always remains the same. It's super easy, too. Just set the bowl on the scale, zero it out, and then add the food. I have one at home too, and I love it.
    • You are going to need a more accurate measuring mechanism because, as you said yourself, you are short. What is a small difference to a tall person is going to have a big impact on a short person. I'm sorry, I didn't make life this way. It's unfair as hell but it is what it is. It's important for you - at least at first - to precisely measure your foods so you can actually see what your caloric intake really is.
    • Most of us suffered from some major delusions or misconceptions on the way to figuring out how to lose weight. Playing nice didn't help. Other fat people don't want us to lose weight, because it makes them feel bad. Sociopathic hucksters know how much we want to lose weight, and we always buy the nonsense that promises an easier way, so they keep selling it to us and walking away with our money. We had to face things with a cold, confrontational attitude before we could move forward. I know it makes you mad. Well, get mad, damn it! You should be mad. You're suffering and there's a predictable, workable way out.
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    allbarrett wrote: »
    Where do you think your weight came from if not your food? This is something I wonder when I see these threads (and they come up regularly). If CICO doesn't work for you...where exactly is the extra mass coming from?

    There is a lot of back and forth here but I did address that already. I am a picker, a snacker, a mindless eater. The app has kept me accountable for that and I have not picked up a mindless snack in 2 weeks. I have not cheated at all. I'm quite sure I was snacking away 600-800 calories per day when you forget about that donut at breakfast and decide a cupcake after dinner is a good idea. Also, I mentioned the birth control hormones did me in. It's a horrible side effect for some people and others not at all. I'm an unfortunate few in that regard. I'm totally on board with CICO, not sure why you feel I"m not.

    Well then, since you know you have cut out 600-800 calories per day, perhaps you need to have more reasonable expectations about how fast the weight loss will be and just wait another two weeks to see where you're at. Then you can reassess.
  • mousie1973
    mousie1973 Posts: 438 Member
    They are not assuming you are lying... they are trying to give you tips on how to fix the "issue". It is very easy to "over estimate" even when measuring... and yes... those unweighed tomatoes can have an effect... because it is still extra calories... also what a "medium" tomato to you might be a large tomato
  • Maxematics
    Maxematics Posts: 2,287 Member
    People aren't being irrationally hardball though. You're upset because they aren't telling you what you want to hear. We're growing frustrated because we're giving advice and everything is being rejected. You somehow think that you defy scientific fact.

    Weighing food does not take long and helps so much. Example: Today I had Chicken Jerky. One serving size is 6 pieces (28g), I took 3 pieces, so you'd assume that's 14g right? Wrong. It was 17. That added 10 extra calories. Small, but it matters. If that was one small error, imagine what happens when you measure cups? A 10 calorie difference becomes 100 calories easily. If that happens several times a day, well, then that's several hundred calories over your calorie limit. You don't have to weigh food forever, but if you want to lose weight, then yes you should. You'll get better at eyeballing with experience, but if nothing else works for you why are you so willing to accept you have "issues" and something is "wrong" with you in the hopes that you will possibly be given some medication instead of trying to actually use a food scale? It's like you don't want to put in effort and that's why people in this thread may not seem so nice to you.
  • xcalygrl
    xcalygrl Posts: 1,897 Member
    @derek... no I'm not part of any movement and I don't believe it either. I already said I want to lose weight because I'm feeling it in my joints, among other raesons. What I DID say is that medical doctors don't pay much attention for me because there is nothing for them to treat. High TSH? here's a pill. High aic? here's a pill. What does a medical doctor do for someone with normal labs? Not much.

    I don't mean to argue but some people are being irrationally hardball and I don't appreciate that. There is not one way to do things and it's stupid, literally stupid, to say measuring 1/2 cup of oats is vastly different than weighing it. I'm not a stupid person. IT's not like I"m packing them down in tight. So when I say I measure the food I'm looking for an honest discussion on why this is so bad vs weighing. I don't see it. Sorry, I don't and being nasty instead if informational is not helping me or anyone else who may be reading and not commenting.

    Watch this OP:
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVjWPclrWVY
  • senecarr
    senecarr Posts: 5,377 Member
    @ Shrinkingletters... Mmmm, I get what you are saying but 2 medium tomatoes are 2 medium tomatoes. It's not like I'm taking a 1/2 loaf of bread and calling it a slice or a 1/2 lb pasta and calling it a serving. There IS a difference. And don't forget that I have been speed walking for years now and also this summer added in biking. I'm not sitting on my butt. Any grams miscalculated in my lunch, for example, were burned taking the bike off the rack. Part of the reason I want to lose the weight is because I feel it in my joints and it's slowing me down. And there is nothing saying that I didn't underestimate either. I'm not making excuses although it may sound like it, I get frustrated when I feel people aren't HEARING me.

    How much does a medium tomato weigh? When does it weight enough to be a big tomato? When does it weigh so little that it is a small tomato. If a medium tomato was 100 grams, and a large was 200 grams, and you have a 125 gram tomato, does it have the same calories as a medium tomato that is 100 grams? It all adds up. For vegetables, the calories per gram is low and it isn't as important, but start eyeballing nearly any kind of meat or fat, and a 10 grams here or there is almost a 100 calories different.
  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member
    "Example: Today I had Chicken Jerky. One serving size is 6 pieces (28g), I took 3 pieces, so you'd assume that's 14g right? Wrong. It was 17. That added 10 extra calories"

    Ok, I guess this is part of my "issue" in understanding this and maybe I'm starting to see why you all don't understand me. I don't eat processed food out of a box like that so I have less to go on and it would indeed be highly tedious and not as accurate as you make it seem. For me it more a matter of here's my chicken and here's my jerk spices and oil for the marinade and then to "guesstimate" how much marinade is per chicken. As it is I have to add recipes to the app then try and portion it out myself. It's only a guess unless I literally portion the pot out in cups and weigh it. even then, what really do I have to go on. If I make a pot of lentil soup for, example, I have the ingredients in there and try to estimate out that 4 people are eating and we each had a bowl of approximate size so the calories= Xingredient+Yingedient+Zingedient/4.

    Overestimating on whole food fruits and veggies especially is of minimal consequence IMO as its' quite hard to overeat high fiber foods like fruit and low calorie foods like veggies. Weight Watchers gives true veggies away as freebies, in fact.
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    "Example: Today I had Chicken Jerky. One serving size is 6 pieces (28g), I took 3 pieces, so you'd assume that's 14g right? Wrong. It was 17. That added 10 extra calories"

    Ok, I guess this is part of my "issue" in understanding this and maybe I'm starting to see why you all don't understand me. I don't eat processed food out of a box like that so I have less to go on and it would indeed be highly tedious and not as accurate as you make it seem. For me it more a matter of here's my chicken and here's my jerk spices and oil for the marinade and then to "guesstimate" how much marinade is per chicken. As it is I have to add recipes to the app then try and portion it out myself. It's only a guess unless I literally portion the pot out in cups and weigh it. even then, what really do I have to go on. If I make a pot of lentil soup for, example, I have the ingredients in there and try to estimate out that 4 people are eating and we each had a bowl of approximate size so the calories= Xingredient+Yingedient+Zingedient/4.

    Overestimating on whole food fruits and veggies especially is of minimal consequence IMO as its' quite hard to overeat high fiber foods like fruit and low calorie foods like veggies. Weight Watchers gives true veggies away as freebies, in fact.

    Ok. I would eat chicken breasts, and I was told it was about 4oz in a serving (near the size of a deck of cards). Chicken breasts are huge, so clearly they were at least 1.5 times that size. Nope; they range from 8-10oz per breast.
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    "Example: Today I had Chicken Jerky. One serving size is 6 pieces (28g), I took 3 pieces, so you'd assume that's 14g right? Wrong. It was 17. That added 10 extra calories"

    Ok, I guess this is part of my "issue" in understanding this and maybe I'm starting to see why you all don't understand me. I don't eat processed food out of a box like that so I have less to go on and it would indeed be highly tedious and not as accurate as you make it seem. For me it more a matter of here's my chicken and here's my jerk spices and oil for the marinade and then to "guesstimate" how much marinade is per chicken. As it is I have to add recipes to the app then try and portion it out myself. It's only a guess unless I literally portion the pot out in cups and weigh it. even then, what really do I have to go on. If I make a pot of lentil soup for, example, I have the ingredients in there and try to estimate out that 4 people are eating and we each had a bowl of approximate size so the calories= Xingredient+Yingedient+Zingedient/4.

    Overestimating on whole food fruits and veggies especially is of minimal consequence IMO as its' quite hard to overeat high fiber foods like fruit and low calorie foods like veggies. Weight Watchers gives true veggies away as freebies, in fact.

    Okay, well I ate some individually wrapped sweet potatos some time ago. They were all labeled as 77 grams. When I weighed them, they weighed between 72 and 137 grams. A difference of 66 calories.

    Here is the deal, either you are going to start listening, or you aren't. We will be here when you are ready to listen. That's the bottom line.
  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member
    auddii wrote: »
    Ok. I would eat chicken breasts, and I was told it was about 4oz in a serving (near the size of a deck of cards). Chicken breasts are huge, so clearly they were at least 1.5 times that size. Nope; they range from 8-10oz per breast.

    That's true. So a serving of chicken breast is not necessarily a whole chicken breast because our chickens are bred to be large. But if you go with the deck of cards size then clearly you can see the difference and cut the breast to size.
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    auddii wrote: »
    Ok. I would eat chicken breasts, and I was told it was about 4oz in a serving (near the size of a deck of cards). Chicken breasts are huge, so clearly they were at least 1.5 times that size. Nope; they range from 8-10oz per breast.

    That's true. So a serving of chicken breast is not necessarily a whole chicken breast because our chickens are bred to be large. But if you go with the deck of cards size then clearly you can see the difference and cut the breast to size.

    The point was, I was still underestimating.
  • Itsonlymeagain
    Itsonlymeagain Posts: 18 Member
    Hornsby wrote: »
    Here is the deal, either you are going to start listening, or you aren't. We will be here when you are ready to listen. That's the bottom line.

    sooo. can you give me advice on how to portion out family sized cooking? It's obvious that I don't know how and to be completely honest I get what you are saying about the potatoes but that doesn't solve recipes. How do you determine calorie content of recipes? Even if you weigh each ingredient, as you all are suggesting, how do you determine portion size and calories per portion?
  • auddii
    auddii Posts: 15,357 Member
    Hornsby wrote: »
    Here is the deal, either you are going to start listening, or you aren't. We will be here when you are ready to listen. That's the bottom line.

    sooo. can you give me advice on how to portion out family sized cooking? It's obvious that I don't know how and to be completely honest I get what you are saying about the potatoes but that doesn't solve recipes. How do you determine calorie content of recipes? Even if you weigh each ingredient, as you all are suggesting, how do you determine portion size and calories per portion?

    It's super easy if you weigh things. Weigh the ingredients that go into the dish and log it as a recipe. Weigh the resulting dish (minus the weight of the pan), which gives you total weight (say 900grams). Enter 900 as the number of servings, then weigh out how much you put on your plate (say 150g). Log 150 servings. Done. Then, it doesn't matter how large your family's servings are, plus if there are leftovers, you know exactly how much to log when you eat some more the next time (just weigh it).
  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    auddii wrote: »
    Hornsby wrote: »
    Here is the deal, either you are going to start listening, or you aren't. We will be here when you are ready to listen. That's the bottom line.

    sooo. can you give me advice on how to portion out family sized cooking? It's obvious that I don't know how and to be completely honest I get what you are saying about the potatoes but that doesn't solve recipes. How do you determine calorie content of recipes? Even if you weigh each ingredient, as you all are suggesting, how do you determine portion size and calories per portion?

    It's super easy if you weigh things. Weigh the ingredients that go into the dish and log it as a recipe. Weigh the resulting dish (minus the weight of the pan), which gives you total weight (say 900grams). Enter 900 as the number of servings, then weigh out how much you put on your plate (say 150g). Log 150 servings. Done. Then, it doesn't matter how large your family's servings are, plus if there are leftovers, you know exactly how much to log when you eat some more the next time (just weigh it).

    What she said^^ Literally will add probably 2 minutes total to your entire routine