unsuccessful day

pointkoala

Today I had such a terrible day for calories.

I ate six chocolate granola bars before lunch
I snacked on crackers in the afternoon
And I made a bowl of pasta for dinner with cheese sauce

All on top of my normal food.

I felt so out of control. Since I started at the beginning of July, I only made one other mistake and ate ice cream (veg).

I don't know what came over me. Definitely a ton of stress. Also pmsing

I can and will do better tomorrow.

pds06

I did too. But tomorrow's another day. I have to work on getting the crap out of the house and bringing good stuff in. planning better too. Good luck tomorrow.

ToshaLyn

I absolutely know those feels. Sometimes I feel like I'm not me when I'm binge eating, like it's an outer body experience. Lol. Silly, I know.

You can and will succeed! Don't dwell on the past. Look forward to a great day tomorrow!

arditarose

Wow. That's kind of a lot. Maybe if you allot for ice cream more often you'll feel less restricted and won't do this. Get back at it tomorrow, we all hit bumps in the road.

pointkoala

arditarose wrote: »

Wow. That's kind of a lot. Maybe if you allot for ice cream more often you'll feel less restricted and won't do this. Get back at it tomorrow, we all hit bumps in the road.

Thanks for judging, just what I needed

arditarose

pointkoala wrote: »

arditarose wrote: »

Wow. That's kind of a lot. Maybe if you allot for ice cream more often you'll feel less restricted and won't do this. Get back at it tomorrow, we all hit bumps in the road.

Thanks for judging, just what I needed

I wasn't judging. I said we all have bumps in the road. And suggested maybe not being so restrictive so maybe you won't want to binge. I shouldn't have pointed out that it was a lot though, that was unnecessary.

arditarose

If I go over by a lot I take a look at my data and see how where it puts me for the week. Since you're generally in a deficit if you have a really bad day, it could maybe put you at maintenance for the week. Sometimes you'll just be at a smaller deficit and might lose a bit.

Cortneyrenee04

Ice cream is never a mistake

Just take today as a lesson. Next time, think to yourself: am I really hungry? Why am I eating my sixth granola bar?

You're in control of every choice. As a binge eater, I've had to talk myself down from my binges that way. It's a powerful feeling when you can walk away from a binge.

Also, don't expect perfection because it just doesn't work that way! We all mess up. (I mess up a lot!)

pointkoala

I'm sorry, I took it out of context, I'm a mess today.
I know I ate a lot. 800 more calories than I should have eaten. Granola bars, crackers, and pasta... :-(
Last month when I went overboard with the veg ice cream, it was an extra 600 calories that day.
I know I ate a lot, I guess I just don't like hearing it.

But last time... I was fine for a month. I am still doing so much better than I was before I started in July. I accounted for everything in my diary too.

I need to relax and just work harder tomorrow. The cravings came too quickly. I won't give myself the option to binge eat tomorrow. I'm in control.

arditarose

pointkoala wrote: »

I'm sorry, I took it out of context, I'm a mess today.
I know I ate a lot. 800 more calories than I should have eaten. Granola bars, crackers, and pasta... :-(
Last month when I went overboard with the veg ice cream, it was an extra 600 calories that day.
I know I ate a lot, I guess I just don't like hearing it.

But last time... I was fine for a month. I am still doing so much better than I was before I started in July. I accounted for everything in my diary too.

I need to relax and just work harder tomorrow. The cravings came too quickly. I won't give myself the option to binge eat tomorrow. I'm in control.

You don't have to apologize. I was for some reason feeling like being honest but it's probably not what you needed to hear.

800 isn't that bad. If you're doing a 500 calorie deficit you basically wiped out a day and a half.

You could try working with a weekly calorie goal which could give you a little wiggle room for the weekend or special event.

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squeeeyk

I also had a terrible day today. However, tomorrow is a new day with new choices. You can do this!

Sabine_Stroehm

Today you learned that starting your day with a crap ton of sugar doesn't easily lend itself to a great day in terms of fueling your body for weight loss. GOOD JOB!
Now, start tomorrow by fueling your morning with some good protein, some good fats, and some good carbs and go forward.

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999tigger

Honestly OP its nothing, 800 calories is very little so keep it in perspective. If you are that bothered then do soemthing about it and walk an extra 30 mins a day. Log it and move on. Neating yourself up and stressing is utterly pointless.

coco_bee

We must be kind to ourselves when this happens. I ate a whole packet of shortbread the other day, I lost control but dam I enjoyed them they were so yum yum yummy with my glass of milk. Changing how we eat is not all or nothing. It is not black and white, its a grey area in the middle. Hey good on you for returning to the plan

tiggerlove

We all have our days when we get a little out of control or a lot out of control as long as u get back on track is what matters. Life is stressful and it makes us do things so don't worry be happy and look forward to tomorrow.Stay positive & Stay Strong.

pointkoala

Ah I was such a mess yesterday but definitely appreciate the support. New day. You can't just beat yourself up over one day.
I'm trying not to let the stress get to me but it's hard.
I didn't think about it before but having the unhealthy food first thing in the morning probably did set me up for a bad day.
It's like.... one of those things (or even half the granola bars) would have been reasonable. But then I just kept going.

I really did just need some support. Encouragement that it's not the end of the world and I can do better the next day. In going to try to walk and hoop more today. Unfortunately I sprained my ankle so I can't do a ton of exercises (great time to do it, I know) but I'm trying to max out what I can do. Normally I would have done my evening walk last night but was too depressed and crazy

I feel like a different person today :-) it will be a better day!

47Jacqueline

You were successful today. You counted each extra chocolate bar, etc. That means you were mindful as you ate what you chose to eat in addition to your perhaps planned eating. Being mindful is a step towards change.

rats2010

I was dying for pizza Wednesday.. and ordered. On the bright side, it was only a medium and eaten over the course of several hours as I was going through old papers and such. Even though it blew my calories (even with exercise calories) by >200... I just hit it harder Thursday morning in the exercise dept to help make up for it in the weekly total. It happens, we're all human. Tomorrow (or the next meal) is always a new place to start doing better.

kommodevaran

pointkoala wrote: »

But last time... I was fine for a month. I am still doing so much better than I was before I started in July. I accounted for everything in my diary too.

I need to relax and just work harder tomorrow. The cravings came too quickly. I won't give myself the option to binge eat tomorrow. I'm in control.

Yes, I think you should relax. But don't work harder, whatever that means, tomorrow. All that control, all those restrictions, why does it seem like it's going so well, and suddenly - it doesn't? That's because we can sustain almost anything for some time, but not for ever. And that's not because you are weak, everybody will succumb eventually if they restrict too much. That is not a mistake, that is your body's alarm system going off. If you want to avoid that for the future, make sure your calorie deficit isn't too big, and get enough nutrients. Make room for "you-time" and enough sleep. In short - don't deprive yourself. Be kind to yourself. The clue is finding just the right amount of restriction that allows you to lose and maintain weight comfortably.

What I have done - I don't know if it is possible or even seems reasonable for you, but anyway, this works for me: I have removed everything I used to binge on from my house. I meal plan and shop accordingly. I cook most of what I eat from scratch, have a varied diet of fresh whole foods I like every day. I will eat anyhing I want, but not everything at once, and not all the time. I treat treats as treats. I do have cravings from time to time, and I binge a little sometimes, but I don't get mad at myself for it. I just try to analyze what happened to better avoiding it, and move on.

Matt200goal

I definitely get it. Only 17 days in, had one bad day and a horrific one (went "psycho" on some- a lot of - PB&J sandwiches as a late night snack...) so far. Know I'm going to stumble some, just trying not to make it a streak and when I fail one day, start anew the next...

pointkoala

kommodevaran wrote: »

What I have done - I don't know if it is possible or even seems reasonable for you, but anyway, this works for me: I have removed everything I used to binge on from my house. I meal plan and shop accordingly. I cook most of what I eat from scratch, have a varied diet of fresh whole foods I like every day. I will eat anyhing I want, but not everything at once, and not all the time. I treat treats as treats. I do have cravings from time to time, and I binge a little sometimes, but I don't get mad at myself for it. I just try to analyze what happened to better avoiding it, and move on.

I actually have removed almost everything from my house however I ended up at the store yesterday which is just a mess. I have asked my partner to do all the grocery shopping even though he hates it. But I had to pick something up and I grabbed some granola bars. why?!? I don't know. But I did.

I do have crackers around because I keep them as a snack for once in a while (I like guacamole + crackers sometimes when my calories account for it). But then I had too much. And same with pasta.... it's okay to have pasta once in a while but it did not work for me yesterday yet I still did.

My partner keeps any junk food in our place away from me so I don't know where it is lol. Only our vegan ice cream is in the freezer. Uhhh we haven't bought any more after that though

By work harder.... I more just mean focus harder and not let myself slip. Not cut my calories more than usual. Maybe exercise a bit more but not a ton more to overload it. Just get back into the swing of things

shadowfax_c11

Sometimes you are going to be told truths that you don't want to hear. Some of them might even hurt. Really really good friends are the ones who will tell you the truth even if it might hurt. I have a couple of those myself and they can be quite brutal. But they are all the more valuable to me because they do it. They don't do it out of meanness they do it because they care and want to see me improve myself. It is not easy to tell someone you love a thing that you know is going to hurt them, even when you know they need to hear it.

Now as for your little problem of occasionally losing control. You said ,
"But I had to pick something up and I grabbed some granola bars. why?!? I don't know. But I did."

Okay this is where you need to start. Spend some time examining this. Why did you? Deep down you do know why. You need to face it. Whatever your why is you have to confront it, admit it and accept it. Only then can you do something about it. Maybe that means you need to rethink your diet goals and food choices or how you view certain kinds of foods. Only you can decide what you really need. The truth is you have a problem that you need to stop ignoring or complaining about but never doing anything about it.

Between last night and this morning I ate an entire large pizza. It was a lot more than I should have eaten. I decided to do so consciously even though I knew that really I should not. I also ate a few cookies that I didn't log. I know why. I am an emotional eater and this week has been emotionally very stressful for me. Some very deep and powerful triggers were tripped and I barely managed to stop short of a full on binge. I managed to at least keep myself at or slightly below maintenance. I know that this will slow down my weight loss progress but I decided that I just needed to give myself a break. Going forward I will make sure that it does not become a habit but I will give myself permission to not always be perfect.

Your friend told you a truth that you didn't like hearing. Was she correct? Do you really think she wanted to hurt you or do you think she just told you a truth that you needed to hear and accept?

I also reached out to some friends to help me with my feelings. They are supportive and helpful but also said some things that were hard to hear and offered some possible actions for me to take that are needed but will require a huge effort for me to do. I may or may not follow some or all that advice. But I will take it into serious consideration and accept that what they said is probably true. And that they said it because they care enough to say things that are hard to say.

Success or failure(in this case) is based on what you do long term and not on the actions of one day. Again. Take some time to think seriously about the reasons for doing things like eating more ice cream than is reasonable or a whole box of cookies or whatever. If you don't know why you do things how are you going to ever change it?