I'm feeling down and wanting to Quit

michelleselmon

Yesterday I Weighed myself again on 3 Different Scales and i did indeed gain 6 pounds from eating healthy but i have to admit i wasn't weighing my food I am trying so hard and I'm proud of my Husband but he's eating not even 1200 calories on most days and he just lost 10 pounds. I think i need to be more active
I am going to drop my Calories down to 1200 My BMR is around 1700-1800
And i hear i need to stay in that range of eating I just think maybe I'm eating way too much I just want to see Results like he's seeing It's hard when he's eating 2 times a day and losing and he tells me I'm eating way too much and to eat 1200 Is he going about this all wrong?
Or am i going about this all wrong should i eat 1200 and see where that gets me any help or suggestions will help thanks

sheldonklein

Weigh everything. Choose a realistic goal. Eat the number of accurately measured calories MFP gives you for that goal. Don't compare yourself to your husband.

Liftng4Lis

Why not eat at the allowance MFP gives you and start weighing your food? As for your husband, he's not eating enough for a male, so I wouldn't compare yourself to that, as its unhealthy. YOU, however have this and are choosing to do it in a sustainable healthy way, so KUDOS woman!

althea5883

I agree, he's not eating enough and he's going to burn out. It's a lifestyle change and something you need to realistically be able to do. I would stay within what mfp tells you and make sure to measure your food.

50andfabu

I can relate to you, but neither one of us should quit. (I just came off of a bad 24 hours.) If you want to lose weight, you do have to eat at a deficit. 1200 seems to be this magic number everyone uses, but you might lose on 1300 or 1450. It seems that if you are gaining you will have to cut calories.

Things that I am trying:
1. log everything every day! This is effective and you learn about calories, sodium, what keeps you satiated, etc.
2. regular daily activity counts. I helped with a garage sale yesterday and I think I burned more calories walking around and moving things than if I went to the gym. (I am going to the gym today).
3. Men seem to lose faster than women anyway. Don't compare yourself. Your husband will probably not be able to sustain 1200 calories very long. It seems low for a ma.
4. Don't give up. If you give up you'll never get where you want to be. IF you say, hey, it's a setback, I'll regroup and get back to counting calories you will eventually reach your goal. Just about everyone who succeeds has had setbacks.

Good luck to you but don't give up!!!

booksandchocolate12

What your husband is doing is ridiculous, unsafe and unhealthy. It's not something you should want to emulate, despite the fact that he's lost 10 lbs.

You say you're not weighing your food. That's your problem. Weigh everything, log everything. Stop messing with your calories. Put your info into MFP and eat what it tells you to eat.

rwhyte12

Here are some changes I made to my diet. Maybe they will help you.
I lowered the carbs I eat to 100 grams a day. It's flexible but that's my aim.
I increased my fat grams up to about 55 to 80 grams a day. In doing this, I changed my primary fat to olive oil as told by a dietician.
I exercise six days a week swimming. An hour of swimming is a lot of calories burned.
I axed my sugar right down to the minimum.
I added Whey Protein and drink that at least one or two times a day. I'm into Strawberry flavour currently.
For snacks, I have mixed seeds.
If I look at all of the above, I can't necessarily pinpoint one thing. It all goes together but the change to olive oil has been positive.

DeguelloTex

Eating healthy, however you define that, isn't going to make you lose weight. Eating in a calorie deficit will. Weigh your food and be honest about how much you're eating, then go from there.

michelleselmon

50andfabu wrote: »

I can relate to you, but neither one of us should quit. (I just came off of a bad 24 hours.) If you want to lose weight, you do have to eat at a deficit. 1200 seems to be this magic number everyone uses, but you might lose on 1300 or 1450. It seems that if you are gaining you will have to cut calories.

Things that I am trying:
1. log everything every day! This is effective and you learn about calories, sodium, what keeps you satiated, etc.
2. regular daily activity counts. I helped with a garage sale yesterday and I think I burned more calories walking around and moving things than if I went to the gym. (I am going to the gym today).
3. Men seem to lose faster than women anyway. Don't compare yourself. Your husband will probably not be able to sustain 1200 calories very long. It seems low for a ma.
4. Don't give up. If you give up you'll never get where you want to be. IF you say, hey, it's a setback, I'll regroup and get back to counting calories you will eventually reach your goal. Just about everyone who succeeds has had setbacks.

Good luck to you but don't give up!!!

Thank you so much don't get me wrong he's in the 300's so i am proud of him i just can't believe how fast he lost and he's telling me do it my way I'm obviously losing so it makes me feel defeated and I do want to give up thanks so much for the Advice and I will try to keep going

LKArgh

michelleselmon wrote: »

Yesterday I Weighed myself again on 3 Different Scales and i did indeed gain 6 pounds from eating healthy but i have to admit i wasn't weighing my food I am trying so hard and I'm proud of my Husband but he's eating not even 1200 calories on most days and he just lost 10 pounds. I think i need to be more active
I am going to drop my Calories down to 1200 My BMR is around 1700-1800
And i hear i need to stay in that range of eating I just think maybe I'm eating way too much I just want to see Results like he's seeing It's hard when he's eating 2 times a day and losing and he tells me I'm eating way too much and to eat 1200 Is he going about this all wrong?
Or am i going about this all wrong should i eat 1200 and see where that gets me any help or suggestions will help thanks

Eating healthy and weight loss are two different things. Better food choices to get more nutrients is something you should do for your health. Eating less calories is what you do to lose weight.
You did not gain eating 1700 calories, so there is probably no need to aim for 1200, unless you are extremely short and sedentary. Set a realistic weight loss goal and let MFP figure out how much you need to eat. Start counting calories and you will be surprised. What you think is 1700 calories could easily be 3000.

michelleselmon

How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy

LKArgh

michelleselmon wrote: »

How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy

Unless your dr has asked you to control carbs for health reasons, it does not matter. You gain/lose weight because you are eating too many/little calories, not carbs.

booksandchocolate12

michelleselmon wrote: »

50andfabu wrote: »

I can relate to you, but neither one of us should quit. (I just came off of a bad 24 hours.) If you want to lose weight, you do have to eat at a deficit. 1200 seems to be this magic number everyone uses, but you might lose on 1300 or 1450. It seems that if you are gaining you will have to cut calories.

Things that I am trying:
1. log everything every day! This is effective and you learn about calories, sodium, what keeps you satiated, etc.
2. regular daily activity counts. I helped with a garage sale yesterday and I think I burned more calories walking around and moving things than if I went to the gym. (I am going to the gym today).
3. Men seem to lose faster than women anyway. Don't compare yourself. Your husband will probably not be able to sustain 1200 calories very long. It seems low for a ma.
4. Don't give up. If you give up you'll never get where you want to be. IF you say, hey, it's a setback, I'll regroup and get back to counting calories you will eventually reach your goal. Just about everyone who succeeds has had setbacks.

Good luck to you but don't give up!!!

Thank you so much don't get me wrong he's in the 300's so i am proud of him i just can't believe how fast he lost and he's telling me do it my way I'm obviously losing so it makes me feel defeated and I do want to give up thanks so much for the Advice and I will try to keep going

He weighs in the 300s and some days he doesn't even eat 1200 calories? That's crazy. I'm sure there are many reasons why you should be proud of your husband, but this behavior isn't one of them.

michelleselmon

aggelikik wrote: »

michelleselmon wrote: »

Yesterday I Weighed myself again on 3 Different Scales and i did indeed gain 6 pounds from eating healthy but i have to admit i wasn't weighing my food I am trying so hard and I'm proud of my Husband but he's eating not even 1200 calories on most days and he just lost 10 pounds. I think i need to be more active
I am going to drop my Calories down to 1200 My BMR is around 1700-1800
And i hear i need to stay in that range of eating I just think maybe I'm eating way too much I just want to see Results like he's seeing It's hard when he's eating 2 times a day and losing and he tells me I'm eating way too much and to eat 1200 Is he going about this all wrong?
Or am i going about this all wrong should i eat 1200 and see where that gets me any help or suggestions will help thanks

Eating healthy and weight loss are two different things. Better food choices to get more nutrients is something you should do for your health. Eating less calories is what you do to lose weight.
You did not gain eating 1700 calories, so there is probably no need to aim for 1200, unless you are extremely short and sedentary. Set a realistic weight loss goal and let MFP figure out how much you need to eat. Start counting calories and you will be surprised. What you think is 1700 calories could easily be 3000.

I am 5'3 and I would say i am Sedentary I hardly exercise when i walk my boys to the park i am so tired and all red in the face i feel i will die just from walking I was getting 1420 On MFP I think i will move back up to that I know all of you know what your talking about I am new to all of this and the Advice truly helps me thanks again

MommyL2015

My advice would be not to worry about the macros right now and simply worry about getting your calories measured accurately. Once you get good numbers and start to see loss, then you can change up your carbs and protein and all that to what you want.

I've got a good hang of it and I still don't worry about the macros. I try to hit my protein but that's all I really care about. I'm losing weight, I'm healthy, so that's all good for me.

booksandchocolate12

michelleselmon wrote: »

How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy

Honestly, I don't get too concerned with my macros. I focus more on my caloric intake. Almost 40 lbs gone.

But what do I know?

choppie70

First of all, do not compare yourself to your husband. Everyone's journey will be different. My husband lost 10 lbs in just over 3 weeks by cutting out soda. I lost nothing!

Secondly, your husband is not eating enough for a male. He is going to lose muscle and not just fat, plus he is not going to get the nutrients that his body needs.

What was the calorie goal that mfp set for you? I would use that and see how you do. Weigh all of your food, you could be eating more calories than you think.

Log everything that you put into your mouth! Littles bits of food here and there can add up.

shadowofender

In the beginning, it can be overwhelming because there's so many things to learn. Just do baby steps. Start with logging, you did. Don't worrya bout macros yet, just keep working on logging accurately. Get a food scale and start weighing your food, you'll be surprised how much of a difference it makes.

Also, try to avoid comparing yourself to your husband. There's a lot that can be said about his quick lost that's already been said but also at the end of the day, you're different and will have different things that work for each of you. Support him, but also focus on yourself.

michelleselmon

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

michelleselmon wrote: »

50andfabu wrote: »

I can relate to you, but neither one of us should quit. (I just came off of a bad 24 hours.) If you want to lose weight, you do have to eat at a deficit. 1200 seems to be this magic number everyone uses, but you might lose on 1300 or 1450. It seems that if you are gaining you will have to cut calories.

Things that I am trying:
1. log everything every day! This is effective and you learn about calories, sodium, what keeps you satiated, etc.
2. regular daily activity counts. I helped with a garage sale yesterday and I think I burned more calories walking around and moving things than if I went to the gym. (I am going to the gym today).
3. Men seem to lose faster than women anyway. Don't compare yourself. Your husband will probably not be able to sustain 1200 calories very long. It seems low for a ma.
4. Don't give up. If you give up you'll never get where you want to be. IF you say, hey, it's a setback, I'll regroup and get back to counting calories you will eventually reach your goal. Just about everyone who succeeds has had setbacks.

Good luck to you but don't give up!!!

Thank you so much don't get me wrong he's in the 300's so i am proud of him i just can't believe how fast he lost and he's telling me do it my way I'm obviously losing so it makes me feel defeated and I do want to give up thanks so much for the Advice and I will try to keep going

He weighs in the 300s and some days he doesn't even eat 1200 calories? That's crazy. I'm sure there are many reasons why you should be proud of your husband, but this behavior isn't one of them.

I am telling him he needs to eat somewhere near the 1800-2000 mark since he's a male and i tell him i think he's losing muscle and he says he's obviously losing and let him do it his way but i am worried about him but then again he is seeing results so that's why i wanted to ask you guys what ya'll thought before i started a diet like this But i am truly proud of him for losing just not in this way.

michelleselmon

shadowofender wrote: »

In the beginning, it can be overwhelming because there's so many things to learn. Just do baby steps. Start with logging, you did. Don't worrya bout macros yet, just keep working on logging accurately. Get a food scale and start weighing your food, you'll be surprised how much of a difference it makes.

Also, try to avoid comparing yourself to your husband. There's a lot that can be said about his quick lost that's already been said but also at the end of the day, you're different and will have different things that work for each of you. Support him, but also focus on yourself.

I truly am proud of him and support him but i am a little jealous lol But I will do what MFP has set for me I sat my goal at a 2 pound week loss and have lost nothing It makes me upset I started this almost a month ago i am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid and go from there thanks again for all the help

booksandchocolate12

The minimum number of calories that MFP recommends for a man is 1500. You can't force your husband to change his behavior, but that doesn't mean you have to encourage it.