I'm feeling down and wanting to Quit
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michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You can set your calories for zero or for a million. If you're not weighing your food, it won't matter.
Again: input your stats into MFP. Go with the numbers they give you. Then: WEIGH ALL YOUR FOOD AND LOG IT HONESTLY.
That's it.
I will take your Advice and use it thanks so much for everything you truly have helped me understand I am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid thanks again
I didn't realize that you didn't have a food scale; I thought you just weren't weighing.
Definitely get one as soon as you are able. They are quite affordable. You can get one in Walmart for under $20. Make sure it's digital, weighs in both ounces and grams, and has a "tare" function (allowing you to rest the scale to zero).
Good luck!
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SaffronSunrise wrote: »Weighing your food will change the whole game. Digital food scales aren't expensive and can be found at Walmart, Target, Amazon...so many places. Weighing everything took me a little longer in the beginning, but it's almost second nature to me now. I'm also washing a whole lot fewer dishes because I don't use measuring cups or spoons.
I just checked your diary and you really do need to start logging everything. MFP is giving you 1450 calories so you stick with that number (provided that everything is entered correctly. If your husband isn't weighing anything, he's probably eating more than 1200 (he should be, anyway) but he can eat more and still stay in a deficit because of his current weight, height, and just because he's a male.
HE literally eats nothing he will eat a cup of fruit at work and then a chicken wrap when he gets home from work at 12 am I thought you were not suppose to eat so late either The latest i eat a snack is 10:30 pm0 -
michelleselmon wrote: »shadowofender wrote: »In the beginning, it can be overwhelming because there's so many things to learn. Just do baby steps. Start with logging, you did. Don't worrya bout macros yet, just keep working on logging accurately. Get a food scale and start weighing your food, you'll be surprised how much of a difference it makes.
Also, try to avoid comparing yourself to your husband. There's a lot that can be said about his quick lost that's already been said but also at the end of the day, you're different and will have different things that work for each of you. Support him, but also focus on yourself.
It's hard not to compare when your both weighing yourselves at the same time lol and he starts bragging It made me feel like crap because we started this almost a month ago. So i was feeling so defeated last night but i feel better today and i'm glad it's a new day and i can try again
It might be worth it to talk to him about how you feel as well. If you're feeling like he is bragging, let him know it's great he's had a loss, but ask him to maybe tone it down a bit.0 -
booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You can set your calories for zero or for a million. If you're not weighing your food, it won't matter.
Again: input your stats into MFP. Go with the numbers they give you. Then: WEIGH ALL YOUR FOOD AND LOG IT HONESTLY.
That's it.
I will take your Advice and use it thanks so much for everything you truly have helped me understand I am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid thanks again
I didn't realize that you didn't have a food scale; I thought you just weren't weighing.
Definitely get one as soon as you are able. They are quite affordable. You can get one in Walmart for under $20. Make sure it's digital, weighs in both ounces and grams, and has a "tare" function (allowing you to rest the scale to zero).
Good luck!
Yeah that's the problem i don't have one at the moment
as soon as my Husband gets paid i am going to deff buy one. I am going to go see what they have today at walmart 0 -
shadowofender wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »shadowofender wrote: »In the beginning, it can be overwhelming because there's so many things to learn. Just do baby steps. Start with logging, you did. Don't worrya bout macros yet, just keep working on logging accurately. Get a food scale and start weighing your food, you'll be surprised how much of a difference it makes.
Also, try to avoid comparing yourself to your husband. There's a lot that can be said about his quick lost that's already been said but also at the end of the day, you're different and will have different things that work for each of you. Support him, but also focus on yourself.
It's hard not to compare when your both weighing yourselves at the same time lol and he starts bragging It made me feel like crap because we started this almost a month ago. So i was feeling so defeated last night but i feel better today and i'm glad it's a new day and i can try again
It might be worth it to talk to him about how you feel as well. If you're feeling like he is bragging, let him know it's great he's had a loss, but ask him to maybe tone it down a bit.
True i don't think he means any harm but it truly did hurt my feelings somewhat i have been trying so hard I just couldn't still believe i didn't lose 1 pound but i am going to be true to myself and start weighing my food and being honest and taking it 1 step at a time0 -
booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You can set your calories for zero or for a million. If you're not weighing your food, it won't matter.
Again: input your stats into MFP. Go with the numbers they give you. Then: WEIGH ALL YOUR FOOD AND LOG IT HONESTLY.
That's it.
I will take your Advice and use it thanks so much for everything you truly have helped me understand I am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid thanks again
I didn't realize that you didn't have a food scale; I thought you just weren't weighing.
Definitely get one as soon as you are able. They are quite affordable. You can get one in Walmart for under $20. Make sure it's digital, weighs in both ounces and grams, and has a "tare" function (allowing you to rest the scale to zero).
Good luck!
ok so the only thing i need to use measuring cups for is Solids correct? everyone says not to use measuring cups their Inaccurate0 -
Im sure they have all told you, but you sound confused its just a case of adopting behaviour that puts you at a deficit consitently. When its not working then you should first look at improvements including weighing and logging your food. That comes first. Get the deficit and then over time you will lose.
Be patient and realistic plus dont overdo the exercise. Slow and steady till you build up. Going off too fast leads to burnout and frustration.0 -
Im sure they have all told you, but you sound confused its just a case of adopting behaviour that puts you at a deficit consitently. When its not working then you should first look at improvements including weighing and logging your food. That comes first. Get the deficit and then over time you will lose.
Be patient and realistic plus dont overdo the exercise. Slow and steady till you build up. Going off too fast leads to burnout and frustration.
I am confused with all of this but i get what i need to do I am going to weigh all my food and take it 1 day at a time0 -
michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You can set your calories for zero or for a million. If you're not weighing your food, it won't matter.
Again: input your stats into MFP. Go with the numbers they give you. Then: WEIGH ALL YOUR FOOD AND LOG IT HONESTLY.
That's it.
I will take your Advice and use it thanks so much for everything you truly have helped me understand I am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid thanks again
I didn't realize that you didn't have a food scale; I thought you just weren't weighing.
Definitely get one as soon as you are able. They are quite affordable. You can get one in Walmart for under $20. Make sure it's digital, weighs in both ounces and grams, and has a "tare" function (allowing you to rest the scale to zero).
Good luck!
ok so the only thing i need to use measuring cups for is Solids correct? everyone says not to use measuring cups their Inaccurate
No! Use the scale for solids, measuring cups for liquids.
As to your other comment about not eating late: it doesn't matter when you eat. People have ideas that you shouldn't eat after 6pm or 7 or 8...but it truly doesn't matter. In many other countries (that don't have the obesity problem we have in the US), dinner isn't until 8 or even 9 at night.
It's the quantity, not the time.
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michelleselmon wrote: »Yesterday I Weighed myself again on 3 Different Scales and i did indeed gain 6 pounds from eating healthy but i have to admit i wasn't weighing my food I am trying so hard and I'm proud of my Husband but he's eating not even 1200 calories on most days and he just lost 10 pounds. I think i need to be more active
I am going to drop my Calories down to 1200 My BMR is around 1700-1800
And i hear i need to stay in that range of eating I just think maybe I'm eating way too much I just want to see Results like he's seeing It's hard when he's eating 2 times a day and losing and he tells me I'm eating way too much and to eat 1200 Is he going about this all wrong?
Or am i going about this all wrong should i eat 1200 and see where that gets me any help or suggestions will help thanks
I was not weighing every thing and my weigh loss was very very slow. It's much better now and I feel better for it. I weigh everything now.
Start a new day a new you.
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OP, do you think that you would be able to keep yourself off of the scale for a week or two while you focus on tightening up your logging?0
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michelleselmon wrote: »how much working out should i do to lose 2 pounds a week? will jumping roping and walking 2-3 miles 6 days a week be enough to lose 2 pounds a week?
You are looking at it the wrong way. Get your food consumption and deficit accurate and under control first.
If you exercise, then realise it takes a lot to burn significant acount of calories. Not impossible but it takes a lot.
Very rough guess but lest say walking burns 300 cals an hour and you walk 40 mins for those 2 miles, thats 200 cals per day x6=1200 calories burned and you need to burn 3500 cals to lose 1lb. It helps, but exercise alone at that rate wont result in that loss of 2lb a week its not enough. Its importnat to get it into perspective.
Dont panic, be patient and take the good advice am sure has already been given. Exercise can help, but as with all weight loss its about consistency and being at deficit.0 -
michelleselmon wrote: »Im sure they have all told you, but you sound confused its just a case of adopting behaviour that puts you at a deficit consitently. When its not working then you should first look at improvements including weighing and logging your food. That comes first. Get the deficit and then over time you will lose.
Be patient and realistic plus dont overdo the exercise. Slow and steady till you build up. Going off too fast leads to burnout and frustration.
I am confused with all of this but i get what i need to do I am going to weigh all my food and take it 1 day at a time
Thats a start dont panic its a learning process. Do what all the successful weight losers have done, they all have things in common and those good habits are what people are trying to get you to adopt. Start with http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1
You can lose all your weight in 2 years at 1lb a week. Get the idea in your head it will take some time, but think what a change it will make for you. Good luck, learn as much as you can.0 -
You do sound confused; I think you are making it much more complicated than it is. If you are like many of us, you've probably heard a million diet "theories" (some of them sound, some of them just plain crap) in your life. They're probably all swirling around in your head right now.
It all boils down to calories in, calories out. Eat less than you burn.
Take a deep breath. Get that scale. Weigh your food on it. Measure your liquids in measuring cups. Log everything honestly.
Seriously....that's it.0 -
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booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You do sound confused; I think you are making it much more complicated than it is. If you are like many of us, you've probably heard a million diet "theories" (some of them sound, some of them just plain crap) in your life. They're probably all swirling around in your head right now.
It all boils down to calories in, calories out. Eat less than you burn.
Take a deep breath. Get that scale. Weigh your food on it. Measure your liquids in measuring cups. Log everything honestly.
Seriously....that's it.
I get it i will take the Advice and use it thanks so much 0 -
Your BMR is not 1700-1800. I have 50-100% more lean muscle mass than you and my BMR is 1850-1900. Your base calculations are off and need to lower calories.0
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Your BMR is not 1700-1800. I have 50-100% more lean muscle mass than you and my BMR is 1850-1900. Your base calculations are off and need to lower calories.
I have looked my BMR up on Several BMR Calculator's and that's what it says
here are my Stats Female 23 years old 5'3 That's where i got the calculation was on the websites0 -
Yes. It can get discouraging.0
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michelleselmon wrote: »Your BMR is not 1700-1800. I have 50-100% more lean muscle mass than you and my BMR is 1850-1900. Your base calculations are off and need to lower calories.
I have looked my BMR up on Several BMR Calculator's and that's what it says
here are my Stats Female 23 years old 5'3 That's where i got the calculation was on the websites
Are you sure you calculated BMR, rather than TDEE. BMR is unimportant. Just use the calories number MFP gives you. As others have said, you are making this way too complicated. Eat at a deficit. Eat a reasonable variety of foods. Weight will come of in a healthful manner.0 -
OP how much do you weigh. I cant see it on the thread or your profile. Just find out what your maintenance is.0
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You don't *have* to exercise to lose weight, but exercising gives you more wiggle room in your calorie count. The caloric deficit is what matters. Exercise is mostly for fitness and to help with medical issues.
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michelleselmon wrote: »how much working out should i do to lose 2 pounds a week? will jumping roping and walking 2-3 miles 6 days a week be enough to lose 2 pounds a week?
I think this sounds a little aggressive right out of the gate, especially in light of your feeling worn out after walking to the park.
Exercise will come in time; start with weighing your food and staying under your calorie goal. Eat food that you enjoy! Give it some time before facing the scale. Success will happen for you - but try not to over-complicate it or rush it.
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Michelle,
Weight-loss isn't linear. I can go up and down pounds from one day to the next, but it's not fat, it's water weight/retention/a big dinner. It's a marathon, not a sprint. It took time for the weight to go on, it'll take time for it to come off. Though I totally get the urge to rush, because once you want it gone, you want it GONE, but it's not going to work that way. Slow and steady will win the race.
As for going below your BMR ... Think about BMR ... Basic Metabolic Rate. What your body needs minimally to function. Why would you go below that deliberately by 500-600 calories a day? Would you go scuba diving without enough oxygen? Same thing.
Please don't compare yourself to anyone else. You need to do what's right for your body. From what you posted, your husband is not losing weight in a safe or sustainable manner. Everyone's body is different, that's why the numbers vary so greatly from person to person. It takes time and patience to figure out what will work best for you.
Try not to get so fixated on losing two pounds per week, or reaching some magic goal weight. This is the only body you've got, please treat it right! For starters, try setting MFP to lose 1 pound per week (the general idea is to lose .5 pounds/week for every 25 pounds you need to lose). Take measurements, that will be another way to track your progress! Keep walking a little. It will get better. And easier. I run now. And I always swore I would only run if I was being chased.
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booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy
Honestly, I don't get too concerned with my macros. I focus more on my caloric intake. Almost 40 lbs gone.
But what do I know?
Ive lost 108 and have paid zero attention to macros. I only have about 15# to go And have no intention of ever minding them. If its fits in my calories Its fair game.
OP start weigjing your food. I have successfully lost all this weight eating around 1800 calories, But I weigh everything.
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booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »You can set your calories for zero or for a million. If you're not weighing your food, it won't matter.
Again: input your stats into MFP. Go with the numbers they give you. Then: WEIGH ALL YOUR FOOD AND LOG IT HONESTLY.
That's it.
I will take your Advice and use it thanks so much for everything you truly have helped me understand I am going to get a food scale as soon as i get paid thanks again
I didn't realize that you didn't have a food scale; I thought you just weren't weighing.
Definitely get one as soon as you are able. They are quite affordable. You can get one in Walmart for under $20. Make sure it's digital, weighs in both ounces and grams, and has a "tare" function (allowing you to rest the scale to zero).
Good luck!
ok so the only thing i need to use measuring cups for is Solids correct? everyone says not to use measuring cups their Inaccurate
No! Use the scale for solids, measuring cups for liquids.
As to your other comment about not eating late: it doesn't matter when you eat. People have ideas that you shouldn't eat after 6pm or 7 or 8...but it truly doesn't matter. In many other countries (that don't have the obesity problem we have in the US), dinner isn't until 8 or even 9 at night.
It's the quantity, not the time.
Adding that I also work 3rd shift and Sleep only 2-3 hours 5 days a week and eat essentially around the clock and has not made any difference in how I lose weight.
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lindaloo9331 wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy
Honestly, I don't get too concerned with my macros. I focus more on my caloric intake. Almost 40 lbs gone.
But what do I know?
Ive lost 108 and have paid zero attention to macros. I only have about 15# to go And have no intention of ever minding them. If its fits in my calories Its fair game.
OP start weigjing your food. I have successfully lost all this weight eating around 1800 calories, But I weigh everything.
Macros are more for nutrition though so if that doesnt bother you then only paying attention to your deficit is fine. If you lift you wnat min protein or if you are dong a particular low carb diet then they are relevant.0 -
lindaloo9331 wrote: »booksandchocolate12 wrote: »michelleselmon wrote: »How many carbs should i be eating a day? I somehow go over on my carbs and sugar every day and i am eating healthy
Honestly, I don't get too concerned with my macros. I focus more on my caloric intake. Almost 40 lbs gone.
But what do I know?
Ive lost 108 and have paid zero attention to macros. I only have about 15# to go And have no intention of ever minding them. If its fits in my calories Its fair game.
OP start weigjing your food. I have successfully lost all this weight eating around 1800 calories, But I weigh everything.
Macros are more for nutrition though so if that doesnt bother you then only paying attention to your deficit is fine. If you lift you wnat min protein or if you are dong a particular low carb diet then they are relevant.
Basically even if you're not targeting a specific percentage for each macro, if you eat a varied diet, chances are you're getting enough _____. Especially with a cool # like 1800. That's one of the potential issues with consuming too few calories, it can be hard to get enough macro and micro nutrients from your diet
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I just want to thank all you wonderful people for all the Great help and Advice i feel so much better from all the help I will most Deff get a food Scale as soon as possible and start out easy on the Exercise Thanks again 0
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