Anyone else doing this completely alone?

ElisaBeth1996

Kalikel wrote: »

I've had a few people say they were going to start losing because if I can do it, they can, too. They ask a bazillion questions, which I answer. Then they decide to eat like 500 or 800 calories a day, which they do for a day or two or three. Then they're off the diet. Every. Single. Time.

They're just crash dieting. They don't really want to lose weight.

So, yup! Just me. That I know, anyway.

Would you be supportive if someone wanted to reach the same goal you do, more than anything?

Teamhynes

I'm doing this alone too. My hubs is great, but in the end, I'm the one with the jacked up relationship with food and the goals to get myself healthier. No one can do that, but me. MFP - all those likeminded people - that's the community for me.

amy102875

Yes, I'm a single mom of 4, recently moved to a small town and don't know too many people. MFP boards have been very helpful. At the beginning I was on the success stories page reading multiple times a day. It really helped.

misterdale67

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Yep!

I think that it is actually a lot easier alone.

I completely agree!

oh_happy_day

shell1005 wrote: »

Yep. I talk very little about weight loss in my actual real life. People who talk 24/7 about their diet and exercise program....well, IMO it couldn't be more annoying. I do what works for me and don't feel the need or desire to talk about it. If a friend or a co-worker wants to chat about....I'm A OK with that, but I am rarely one to bring it up.

Same here, I save it for my MFP. I do have some real life friends who are on MFP (that's how I got here!) and I mention any victories/struggles I have to my partner. I talk to gym buddies about exercise and fitness but that's because we train together and are interested.

Orphia

Yes, knowing our own achievements is very motivational and the whole reason I do this.

Though I still see support (here, at home, at work) as the icing on the (calorie-free!) cake.

TerryJackson61

Yeah I'm alone at it too. I don't think my wife fully grasps it or understands it. My Mother-in-law who lives with us doing a different type of program but hers is more because of her diabetes.Thank god for my MFP friends I love them and am willing to add anyone who is serious about so we can support each other.

shadowconn

yep. Absolutely. Completely. Alone. It sucks. My facebook people are just "liking" my posts, which I guess is fine. But no real encouragement anywhere.

triciab79

I did it completely alone by choice. I am the one who will have to live in this body and eat or not eat what is on my plate. Whenever I tried to diet with other people they want to do the same thing at all times. No two people are the same so no diet will work the same for any 2 people. I might want to walk 4.0 today and I don't want to go 3.5 because someone else didn't sleep as well last night. I might be ok just having a protein bar for lunch and I don't want to go get salads just so someone else doesn't eat alone. I might want to lose 1.5lbs a week and I don't want to feel guilty cause someone else only loses .5lbs. It is easier to run this sort or race with blinders on so that you can focus on your progress rather then someone else's path. Everyone is different though. I am not very social so I do not feel the need for support or sympathy the way most people do.

walkdmc

I am doing it alone but rely heavily on my internet weight loss friends and groups. I belong to a lot of FB weight loss groups, Sparkpeople, and read a lot of blogs. So, I guess I'm not really alone.

needstobefit15

I have my two kids and my dad that lives in a different city other then that I'm alone.I have to few people on here.my boyfriend and my family ain't supportive. It seems like my boyfriend wants me to stay fat so he can get all the attention.

threec

2snakeswoman wrote: »

Yes, just me. I only have limited support at MFP also because I'm not a calorie counter. I've tried many times to do it that way, and A) I don't have enough of an accountant mentality to find any joy in CI/CO; it's a gigantic chore for me. logging makes me think about food all day long - what can I have? how many calories do I have left? Oh no, I want to eat now, what if I run out of calories?

What works for me is to keep myself as busy as possible with other things until I'm undeniably hungry, then I eat a reasonable portion of what I want (like a homemade bacon cheeseburger on whole grain bread with tomato slices last night), then go back to doing other things (including exercising because it makes me feel good). That's my entire weight loss strategy - wait until I'm hungry and don't stuff myself. I've been losing 1-2 pounds per week this way, total of 21 as of today, so I think I'm doing all right.

So happy that I'm not the only one here who can't count

steponebyone

lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »

I am recently divorced, live alone, and none of my friends are currently in any kind of weight loss program. I sometimes share my successes with them, but don't want to bore them with details. I am really grateful for this discussion board because I get great feedback and support. So...thank you!!

I'm doing it alone as well. I'm glad there are community boards because I find so much information on everything almost daily. It's pretty interesting.

tkphotogirl

Losing weight alone but with a supportive husband. He does most of the cooking and I serve up the portions. Outside of MFP I haven't really talked about it with anyone, other than acknowledging the few people who have noticed.

yogacat13

My husband is tall and slim, and while he wants to eat more healthily and is generally supportive by going on walks with me, I keep most of my weight loss stuff to myself. At most, I'll ask him to walk with me or point out that I only have 400 calories left for dinner when he suggests going to get fish and chips rather than cooking, and he's understanding.

busylakemom

yea, I hate it

Domicinator

My family has a lot of health nuts in it, so it's nice to have them to talk to. And the MFP forums are really great if you feel like your friends and family might be getting a little tired of hearing about it.

Losing weight is a really big deal. You have to have an outlet to talk about it somewhere or another or you'll lose perspective during the frustrating times and that puts you in danger of quitting.

I would say use these message boards to your advantage. People here are very helpful. You will get tough love, support, praise, etc. when it's needed.

SLLRunner

lauragreenbaum148 wrote: »

I am recently divorced, live alone, and none of my friends are currently in any kind of weight loss program. I sometimes share my successes with them, but don't want to bore them with details. I am really grateful for this discussion board because I get great feedback and support. So...thank you!!

Awesome! Keep up the good work. )

mz_getskinny

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Yep!

I think that it is actually a lot easier alone.

I agree!!!!

Lynzdee18

I'm doing this on my own. It takes my husband a little time to get used to me dieting. I plan on this being the last time..... I am recording everything I eat this time as well as my exercise. I do like the community aspect of this app. but I read and don't usually comment. If I stay away from bread and its relatives, I can manage quite nicely! Thanks for all the good ideas on recipes and the like. :-)

koreynafenderson

I am alone but I am not alone.... If that makes any sense. I have tried so many thing over the last decade till I am just lost and know I need to do something.... Just unsure of what! I do MFP ... However because I have tried so many things I am still lost. Looking for an accountability partner

Liftng4Lis

I'm not alone, I have my MFP friends.

katelynneelswick

Yep, all alome here. My family eats extremely unhealthy and is completely unsupportive. They scoff at me and make fun of me for wanting to eat healthy. I keep everything to my self. It can be extremely hard when someone is sitting there offering you fried chicken and all you can say is no thanks, I'll stick to my roasted cauliflower. And your mouth is just salivating. But in the end it is your battle and only you can fight it. One day they'll be asking us how we did it !

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mnalsa83

Like most of everyone, other than my few MFP friends that are doing this, I only have my mother who is doing better for herself (she's lost close to 100lbs) but not much encouragement. When I try to eat healthier, she only negatively comments about the food. And my S. O. doesn't really focus on a healthy eating lifestyle other than me preparing everything.
The managing food and calories is the easy part, it's the motivation for getting my butt put for a walk or work out.

LaceyBirds

Live alone, doing it alone, only told a couple of people. I have updated them at a few milestones, but don't really talk about it as I personally might not find it interesting so don't want to bore others. I am not finding it difficult to do it alone, and being able to occasionally post a NSV or other success here is really nice.

Kalikel

ElisaBeth1996 wrote: »

Kalikel wrote: »

I've had a few people say they were going to start losing because if I can do it, they can, too. They ask a bazillion questions, which I answer. Then they decide to eat like 500 or 800 calories a day, which they do for a day or two or three. Then they're off the diet. Every. Single. Time.

They're just crash dieting. They don't really want to lose weight.

So, yup! Just me. That I know, anyway.

Would you be supportive if someone wanted to reach the same goal you do, more than anything?

Sure. I'm pretty supportive in general, even if it's not something I'd want. I think I am, anyway. I think people who know me would agree.

I'm not going to be anyone's coach, though. Not going to call someone up and tell them they need to go to the gym, lol. But will cheer them on if they mention they did it. But that goes for anything, not just weight loss.

I only know one person who is kind of trying to lose weight, but she's kind of back and forth with it. She will get there eventually, though.

carlyp79

My husband and Mother know. My kids are toddlers, but they know I go to the gym to get stronger - because my husband tells them so when they get out of bed and ask where I am!
I decided to do this, I shop and prepare everyone's meals so they are along for the ride at times. My husband doesn't calorie count but weighs himself regularly and tries to stay active, but he has some complex health issues. I feel bad when I tell him I've lost weight because the medications he is on make it very hard to lose weight (steroids and immnosuppressants).

I have friends who are Certified Personal trainers or weight lifters, or training as Nutitionists... I don't see them often but don't discuss it with them incase they feel like it's 'talking shop' or I'm just another person looking for free advice.