Supportive partners/spouses/SOs/families
Machka9
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Tell us one (or more) ways your partner or spouse or SO or family in general has been supportive in your process of losing weight. 
Little things or big things they've done to assist.
Little things or big things they've done to assist.
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I'll start with ...
My husband is building me a gym in our basement.
We had a gym membership at a great place, and were both going, but then we moved and it became really inconvenient to go. We looked around at gyms in our new area, but none appealed to us. So ... he decided to build a gym at home. We'll both use it, but I suspect I'll be the main one using it because he works a physically active job and often needs rest more than another workout.
He had the area where my trainer* is now located done in June, so I've already been using that, and he is nearly completion of the weights area. My little toothpick arms might soon develop some muscle mass!
*Trainer - a device to which you attach a bicycle so that you can ride in one spot.0 -
Excellent post!
When I'm at my honey's house, he makes sure I have the kind of food I like.
He tells me I look great and how proud he is of me becoming fitter and taking good care of myself.
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He nodded politely when I first started losing weight.
If he is making dinner he checks if mine has to be weighed.
He bought me the scales to weigh my food.
He brings protein powder home for me if it is on sale at Costco, even if I am not out.
He bought me a year pass at our rec centre.
He doesn't mind doing dinner when I am using my pass and not making dinner.
He comes to aqua fit once a week to keep me company.
He calls me little mermaid because I was brave enough to go swimming in the deep end in my own last week, and swam 10 laps after 1 week of building up to it.
Cheers when I tell him I can dead lift an Oly bar ( no weight on it, but hey, I tried).
I could go on and on, but basically he has let me do my own thing, not complained, and supported quietly.
Cheers, h.0 -
A home gym would be the best present ever! Unfortunately we have no room.
Mine is generally supportive and encouraging. Eats the food I cook, even though he considers it sorely lacking in potatoes and bacon. He comes running with me when it's too dark for me to go alone. Points out new bits of muscle definition. Tells me I'm beautiful and sexy - he's always done this, regardless of my weight. Tells me he's proud of how hard I work and how fit I am.0 -
My hubby stops at a special shop to buy fresh produce for me every week. He is not a fan of most veggies & fruit, so I know he does this just for me. He has been encouraging me ever since I began making changes, and he has been trying to make some changes, too. And he gets almost as excited about my little victories as I do.
ETA: Oh! And when we went to see Mission Impossible, he surprised me at the start of the movie, with a little treat bag filled with exactly 15 g of pepitas. So cute!0 -
And he's never once complained about how much time I spend at gym!0
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Brother convinced me to start kick boxing where I was told about mfp.
Brother and I joined a gym.
To counter the supportive side because that would be too kind a post and even though he wouldn't read this post his head would get bigger.
Brother has started complaining that I'm too skinny and runt like, trying to get me to gain muscles.0 -
I live with my parents, taking care of my mom full-time after she had a couple of strokes. My dad has been really supportive of my weight loss journey. When he cooks he leaves off cheese or dressings for me, but checks if I want them, and we take a 1 mile walk every night together, plus he walks with me on 3-4 mile walks on the weekend. It's really been quite enjoyable to spend that time with him, I realize I won't have him forever and I'm treasuring the opportunity.0
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Hubby does most of the cooking. We share shopping duties. His favorite foods are fruits (watermelon especially) so he cuts them up and put them in containers for me. We go to the same gym but at different locations.0
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Hubby hasn't complained about my time to workout even though it means up to 2 hours with the kids and sometimes all the bedtime duties.0
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My husband points out during um intimate times that he can feel my muscles and tells me that they turn him on even more.
He has started slapping my bum in public saying that I look awesome.
He weighs all the ingredients and writes them down if he's cooking so I can enter them into my diary.
The best part though? He tells me every day that he loves me regardless. But he is so proud of me0 -
I live with my parents, taking care of my mom full-time after she had a couple of strokes. My dad has been really supportive of my weight loss journey. When he cooks he leaves off cheese or dressings for me, but checks if I want them, and we take a 1 mile walk every night together, plus he walks with me on 3-4 mile walks on the weekend. It's really been quite enjoyable to spend that time with him, I realize I won't have him forever and I'm treasuring the opportunity.
I'm really sorry about your mom.
But I think it's great that you and your dad are able to do things together.
I moved back in with my parents a few years ago, for a few years, while getting another degree and it gave me a chance to reconnect with them. For about 13 years, I had been living about 2000 km away from them ... rarely saw them and didn't even communicate with them very much. Moving back in allowed us all to get to know each other again. And my father and I cycled together a lot during that time.
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My boyfriend has been quite supportive of me through both the highs and lows I've gone through since I have started this process.
He suggests more active things for us to do together. Instead of just sitting around watching TV we go for walks.
He sends me cheesy motivational memes as a way to cheer me on.
He isn't afraid to give me a reality check when I need it.
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This is such a cute thread!
My fiancé has been extremely sensitive to my weightloss because I do unfortunately have a history of eating disorders, including bulimia. He always knows exactly what to say and when to say it. Although he didn't like a lot of the types of foods I make, such as soups, he is finding that he enjoys the healthier things I cook (or so he says). He always suggests things for us to do together like hiking or walking our dogs, and gets on my case if I haven't worked out in awhile.. Because apparently I get crabby.0 -
I think my husband is supportive largely because he respects what I'm doing, it makes sense to him, it doesn't seem like some lame nonsensical diet I learned about from Oprah or some magazine or from an infomercial or some alarmist half-wit selling a book or a blender or a juicer.
He likes that I can lose weight and have ice cream or Twinkies or chocolate or cheeseburgers or diet coke everyday, because of CICO. I mention *diet* coke because of a funny conversation he had with his mother recently, where she informed him that she learned from the internet that diet coke's artificial sweeteners actually make people fat and advised we should switch to regular coke. She was apparently convinced this is so and my husband apparently got really annoyed by her advice and her reasoning.
It's funny, though, whenever he goes shopping with me, he'll read the label of items he is interested in to "check the calories and macros." (His words.) That he is considering these things before putting something in the cart is somewhat supportive of me I think, but also I think he's enjoying knowing the calorie and macro breakdown of food items for its own sake now. Because it makes sense to him to consider these things.
He is supportive in other ways, but this is getting long already, don't want to write a novel here on how wonderful I think my man is.
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My husbands favorite hobby is to cook and he's REALLY good at it. He's specifically goes for low calorie and filling just for me now. It's amazing.0
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My sister:
Helped IMMENSELY me financially
Has been helpful for my self esteem, especially when it came to what I wore.
Encouraged me to not give up after my car accident and honestly just made me feel better by coming by everyday
Introduced me to MFP years ago
Was supportive with me getting rehab and other things when the rest of my family insisted I would be fine, despite what my doctors had been saying
Isn't afraid to tell me when something looks bad
Aside from comments about disliking the smell of sardines, she doesn't try and make me feel weird about getting smaller portions / weighing out my food
My mom:
Bought different health foods for me in the beginning
Agreed to take me to the park when I wasn't able to drive
Gave me a reality check when I was going too far with how little I was eating
My dad has said a few nice things, but he also tries to take credit for my loss, says discouraging things, like "I don't want you getting fat again" ,and still calls me gorda sometimes.
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My SO has been really sweet. When I weighed myself for the first time in a long time, I realized I had gained about 25 pounds since last weighing myself. I was really upset, but he just supported me in losing weight.
Since then, he has told me when he notices new changes.
He eats all of my cooking and says he likes it.
He runs with me when he has free time. The first time I tried to do C25K and couldn't even finish the first day, he just said "You'll get better." Today, I texted him to tell him I just ran 25 minutes straight.0 -
I'm not sure you want to ask me this, I can talk all day about how wonderful my husband is lol
from the beginning he was always 100% supportive, he gets super excited with me over every ounce lost lol he even goes over my photos I take every ten pounds lost with me and helps me see clearly which areas are smaller or more toned. He has always told me many times a day how much he loves me and how proud of me he is. He goes out of his way to weigh my food if I'm busy cooking so I can log accurately, he tells me everything I cook is wonderful, he goes shopping with me to buy goal clothes whenever I want, he goes to the gym with me whenever possible, and he has decided to join me on having a healthier lifestyle instead of just supporting it and has already lost 6 pounds so far! I'm very proud of him, he's my best friend and I could never love anyone else the way I love that incredible man 0 -
my sweetie started logging in MFP to support and encourage my logging.
he buys me fitness equipment after helping decide what would work for me.
he goes for walks with me.
as my size changes, he encourages me to get fitting clothes.
he's always sweet and romantic, even when i was at my highest weight.
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My boyfriend always gives me a big hug, kiss, and slap on the behind whenever I tell him I'm down another pound. He tells me how proud he is and that I'm doing a great job. He's even considering making some changes himself, just for health because he's 5'7-8" and around 150lbs, so he doesn't need to worry about weight right now.
The biggest help is him not letting me give excuses or give into all my cravings. He makes sure I keep myself in check and eat in moderation.0 -
He understands how much my goal means to me and compliments me regularly to keep me feeling on top. This is vital for someone like me who is very self-aware at the best of times. He congratulates every single pound lost 0
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My partner has no problem with the fact that I slow dinner down by wanting to weigh everything he is putting in it. He constantly tells me that he doesn't think I need to lose weight but understand it is how I feel about myself that is important, and so supports me and congratulates me when I mention I have lost weight. I love him so much for it 0
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He got a pedometer app on his phone and competes with me. We have been going for night walks instead of collapsing in bed to watch TV.
He went out to get me a battery for my food scale the minute it died.
He hugged me in bed and said, "WOW! Your belly is shrinking!"
He has never complained when it's salad night, and even suggests salad night when we've had too much heavy food.
He checks nutrition stats when he's shopping.
He walked behind me and said, "Dang, your dumper looks hot in those jeans." (Yes, dumper.)0 -
He's paid a lot of co-pays for docs and lab work related to my WLS. A LOT of co-pays.
He's stopped bringing home my trigger foods; he eats them at work or when he's out with the guys.
If he makes dinner, he weighs my food and if it's more than 2 items, he writes it down and brings me a post-it.
When I need to walk and he'd rather be playing a video game, he goes walking with me.
He asks me about why I'm doing something, then actually listens when I geek out about it.
He tolerates my recipe try-outs and even makes requests outside of his food comfort zone.
We go shopping together now and he spends time reading labels with me.
He set up rewards for my last set of losses... 175 spa day, 150 bikini with attached vacation, 125 Louboutins, 115 silk for a new dress and coat, 106.5 (GW) pearls.0 -
Dh tells me he wants me to be happy with my body and compliments me. He doesn't comment on my food choices.
Dd sometimes exercises with me. She is a teenager so I want to model healthy weight loss and positive habits.0 -
My fella has pushed me from the start. I said I wanted to lose weight yrs ago, but never stuck to it. Then I decided to really put effort in. He came running with me to be my pacer and push me further when I would have stopped, he trained me at home when I couldn't get to the gym, he got me into the gym and taught me how to use all the equipment. He pushes me harder in the gym when i'm having a down day, spots me and supports me. He's a fitness nut himself and tends to eat very similar but we work out between us what we having for tea. He gives me motivation when I need it.0
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My wife does most of the cooking because I'm just terrible at it. (I'm really good at cleaning the kitchen up afterwards though!) Even for the most complicated, ingredient filled dishes she makes, she always tries to figure out serving size/weight/calories for me as accurately as possible, and files the recipes away for the next time we have them. She also leaves all the packaging out on the counter for me in case I want to scan something into my log.
But more importantly, she puts up with my crabby-ness on days where I just want to pig out on everything and feel like I'm fighting the urge all day. She is very understanding about it. I couldn't be doing this without her help and patience. Well, I could, but I'd be a mental case.0 -
And also ... (I've mentioned some of this elsewhere, but I'll put it here too ...)
My husband makes dinner most evenings, and he often presents me with my plate complete with a sticky note on the edge containing the weights of the food on the plate.
He also emails me links to any recipes he uses off http://www.taste.com.au/ or wherever else he gets them, so that I can upload them into MFP.
He bought the current scale we have in the kitchen for me. He wanted a scale down in his workshop, and our previous kitchen scale was rather basic. So he took that one, and bought me a nice-looking new one that goes with the decor.
We go grocery shopping together ... that's something we've done right from when we first got together. My eyes aren't what they used to be and I need to carry an array of glasses now, so I don't always have the right ones for reading the small print on the labels with me when we're shopping ... so he reads them out to me. I also think in calories, not kilojoules. So many things here are listed in kilojoules, but I know that if you divide kilojoules by 4, you're right in the ballpark of calories. While we're shopping, I'm constantly saying, "What's 3000/4?" "What's 980/4?" and things like that. He's really quick with the math, so he just fires off the answers to me.
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This thread is so great! Sometimes, I think we all feel like people around us just don't get it but it's so nice to see a thread like this!
My husband goes for "runs" with me. And by that, I mean he basically shuffles next to me while I run. He can easily run a 7 minute mile while I run closer to 13, but he still likes to do it together.
When he cooks, which isn't often, he uses cooking spray instead of oil or butter.
He goes to the gym with me, even when he doesn't feel like it, to spot me.
He tells me all the time how proud he is and how great I look. He doesn't care if I lose more weight as long as I'm healthy.0
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