Supportive partners/spouses/SOs/families

mirrim52

He supported me, even when I have started this before and never stuck to it.
He put our daughter to bed so that I can go to the gym, and makes sure he doesn't plan anything that would conflict with my gym time or derby time.
Whenever I complain about not wanting to go, he encourages me and reminds me that I will feel better if I do go, but still recognizes when I am exhausted and just need a night off.
He eats whatever I make for dinner, and keeps my weaknesses out of the house when I am home.
He encourages me to buy new clothes and will take me shopping for stuff that fits. (I have a hard time buying clothes for myself).

RebeccaNaegle

We meal prep together, go to the gym together, compliment each other, notice the differences in each others progress, help each other with form, the whole nine yards! Love it!

glitzy196

My husband is doing it with me , so we are both super supportive, he however gets like 2100 valories a day vs my 1470. He went to the store to pick up treats one night. I was bummed because i didn't have any calories left. Before he even opened the bag he asked how many calories i had left for the day. I frowned abd said 40. He was sooo happy! He had bought me 40 calorie fudgesicles. It was cute.

FoodFitnessTravel

Mine is not only supportive, but he PUSHES me to work out and to push myself beyond my limits even when I don't want to and I just wanna stay at home, eat ice cream and watch shows. I get mad at him but every single time after he forces me to work out (when I didn't feel like working out in the first place) i felt amazing!
He doesn't like me eating sugars, unnecessary carbs or sugary drinks, instead he always encourages me to eat healthy and nutritious things. He doesn't believe in counting calories but he is extremely fit. I am so happy that working out is what we have in common!!

CSARdiver

My wife has been extremely supportive - not pushy when it comes to meals. I tend to be the pusher when it comes to exercise.

Years ago she bought an elliptical, which I used for the majority while getting back to a decent weight. We have been DIYing the basement to include a weight room and small workout area. Just picked her up a Bosu.

Venus_Red

Mine is supportive by granting my wishes and not making a huge deal of it. It is important to me that this become a lifestyle for me instead of a "diet" so our family just accepts food choice and activity changes (which in and of itself is supportive, I know).

jgnatca

Even when I was out four times a week, he didn't complain or interfere.
We joined a gym together. I stuck with it; he comes occasionally.
He doesn't complain about home cooking. If he doesn't like it, he quietly breaks open the beans.
He pats his stomach and brags on my home cooking for helping him lose weight.
He let me take his Walkman on my longer run yesterday. This is a big deal for my OCD man.

My daughter was opposed and distraught about my decision to go ahead with WLS, so I stopped talking to her about it. Now that I am much more active, she is openly proud of me.

My niece, bless her heart, encouraged me to try some fun runs this year including the Tough Mudder.

rhyolite_

He paid for our home gym (about $3,500 up front) so that I could work out whenever I wanted/needed to. He's the cook in our family, so he asks me what I'd like to eat (or what I have calories left for) every day so he can buy/prepare it. He even asked me to teach him about the app I use for logging and show him how to do it so he could weigh/log for me on nights he makes bigger dinners.

The other day I overdid it at lunch and only had calories left for a small dinner, which left me unsatisfied. My husband made a plate that looked exactly like mine and said he'd eat the same as me so I didn't feel left out.

He's always been very good to me in this journey (and through everything else), mostly because he's so excited that I've been successful in recovery from my ED.

bloody88

My bf prefers me to have extra weight. He was actually pushing food to me so I would gain weight for the past years.
When after a couple of years together I gained some weight, and told him that I wanted to lose it, he didn't like it. After he saw that i was serious about it and i didn' t give in to his "sabotage" of bringing home high calorie food, while having a conversation with him that I didn't feel comfortable in that weight:
1. He agreed on buying food every week that would fit into my calorie goal, our budget is tight atm so he ended up spending less money for himself
2. He cooks lunch for me when he doesn't have night shift
3. He weights every single ingredient he used for that lunch
4. He boils eggs when i am about to get back from the gym so i can get my post workout protein
5. Every week after we resupply the fridge, he chops(?) the chicken breast fillet off the chicken, trims it from fat and puts it in small bags after weighting it, to portion it out.
6. He checks if i have milk/apples/yogurt/chicken/cereals supplies(things that he doesn't eat)for the week and he buys anything if needed without telling me
7. He reminds me to go to the gym when i am slacking
8. He checks the expire dates on the products i am eating, and reminds me the day before, for example don't drink that milk tomorrow, it's about to expire.
Five months later, he still does that.

Machka9

Mine has also been encouraging me to get some nice clothes in my current size. Just recently, he told me to go out and buy dresses (I like dresses, and usually wear dresses or skirts) ... but he put one stipulation on it. No black. When I was heavier, I wore a lot of black, so he is encouraging me to get into some colour now.

Jokingly, I said I would try to find something in a dark navy or charcoal grey. He rolled his eyes.

noclady1995

My hubby cleared off the space around our home gym which had not been used in a few years. Then he put down a pad around it, since it's in the garage, so I could do stuff like push-ups and sit ups comfortably. And when I need to workout at night he's always willing to get the kids ready for bed. When I want to eat a specific meal for dinner, he and the kids are always willing to try it.

Karen_can_do_this

This is becoming one of my favourite threads

cbnorris

My love and I have different schedules and he usually works out before work, but gets excited to go to the gym with me at night as well.

ManiacalLaugh

My bf and I have had bouts about some of the things he says that he thinks are motivational when I'm not being good (pointing out other women and saying "see - you're going to look like that some day" is not, in any way, shape, or form, a good idea, guys. Just a protip, there).

BUT he's amazing at celebrating with me when I have successes and that has kept me going through some tough spots. When I report even the tiniest of victories on the scale, he will offer me massages, he does my chores for me, he'll cook... whatever he thinks he can do that I'll be grateful for.

Once I told him I'd lost a pound, but then followed it up with how miserable I was that day because I'd had an ovarian cyst rupture and cramps. To reward me for succeeding and to make me feel better, he went on a bike ride to my favorite custard shop - because I'd been "doing so good and because it looked like I needed it." I literally cried.

angelexperiment

SLLRunner wrote: »

Excellent post!

When I'm at my honey's house, he makes sure I have the kind of food I like.

He tells me I look great and how proud he is of me becoming fitter and taking good care of myself.

He is a keeper:)

angelexperiment

Machka9 wrote: »

And also ... (I've mentioned some of this elsewhere, but I'll put it here too ...)

My husband makes dinner most evenings, and he often presents me with my plate complete with a sticky note on the edge containing the weights of the food on the plate.

He also emails me links to any recipes he uses off http://www.taste.com.au/ or wherever else he gets them, so that I can upload them into MFP.

He bought the current scale we have in the kitchen for me. He wanted a scale down in his workshop, and our previous kitchen scale was rather basic. So he took that one, and bought me a nice-looking new one that goes with the decor.

We go grocery shopping together ... that's something we've done right from when we first got together. My eyes aren't what they used to be and I need to carry an array of glasses now, so I don't always have the right ones for reading the small print on the labels with me when we're shopping ... so he reads them out to me. I also think in calories, not kilojoules. So many things here are listed in kilojoules, but I know that if you divide kilojoules by 4, you're right in the ballpark of calories. While we're shopping, I'm constantly saying, "What's 3000/4?" "What's 980/4?" and things like that. He's really quick with the math, so he just fires off the answers to me.

Thiis is awesome!