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The i am not fat anymore struggle?

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  • segacs
    segacs Posts: 4,599 Member
    happymom221 wrote: »
    I m close to goal weight and am gradually switching To Maintenance . I will always have problem spots like jiggly arms and inside thighs. I want to let that go and think that time and toning will help. I want To be strong and I don't want my face to be saggy from being too thin

    Yeah, I will always be short and freckled and frizzy and pale. That's just how I'm made, fat or thin. I don't think there's anything particularly attractive or desirable about protruding ribs, though, so I'm not trying to lose weight past a healthy range. My main goals now are strength- and health-based, not scale-based.
  • Kalikel
    Kalikel Posts: 9,603 Member
    stevencloser wrote: »
    A little bit when I'm squishing that little bit of fat that's still there around my bellybutton that prevents my abs from showing. But most of the time when I look in a mirror I'm like "Holy *kitten* I look hot now."
    If that is you in the pic, you are exceedingly muscular and should immediately stop thinking you need to worry about fat. There simply isn't any fat to worry about there. None. Zero.

    There is something off with your face, though. I can't quite...it's the ears! You might want to get those checked.
  • middlehaitch
    middlehaitch Posts: 8,488 Member
    I lost slowly, 30lb over a year, so I was quite used to my size by the time I was in maintenance. However, last year ( 5yr later) I started a Zumba class in a studio with a wall of mirrors, I nearly wet myself laughing at myself wiggling away. I looked tall and slender. Weird.
    I'm only 5'1, and I hadn't grown taller, but abstractly watching myself animated really made it hit home I was where I always wanted to be. Weight and fitness wise- my proportions were correct and you could see a bit of muscle under the layer of fat. ( at 62 I want a layer of fat otherwise I would look scrawny and stringy).
    Big confidence boost.

    It takes a while to get use to a new you, and you will always be surprising yourself in reflections, mirrors, photos, and videos.

    Cheers, h.
  • Abby_C2014
    Abby_C2014 Posts: 86 Member
    edited October 2015
    I feel the same way too almost everyday. When I go outside, people tell me I look fit. But when I look at myself in the mirror, I see all the negative things I see (not the positive ones). I have low self esteem and need to fix it in order to love myself. ^_^
  • tabletmfp
    tabletmfp Posts: 53 Member
    happymom221 wrote: »
    I m close to goal weight and am gradually switching To Maintenance . I will always have problem spots like jiggly arms and inside thighs. I want to let that go and think that time and toning will help. I want To be strong and I don't want my face to be saggy from being too thin

    I am really confused. I lost 17 kilos over a long time. I take size 10, down from size 16 UK sizes. But some days I look in the mirror and I think I am still overweight. Sales staff in shops say I am things but I'm not sure. I can't decide if I need to loose more. I thought I reached maintenance 2 weeks ago so I started to add a few hundred calories a week. My weight went up .3 kgs this week and I'm not happy. What is happening to me? Even a tiny .3 kilo increase upsets me even though I know my weight won't stay exactly the same. I know I should have a range for maintenance and I choose 61 to 63 kilos, but now that I am there I'm still not happy.
    I keep comparing myself to others who are say 55 or 58 kilos. Even though they might be shorter and younger than me, I find it hard to accept that I weigh more than them. I wonder will I ever be happy? Will I always want to be thinner.? Oh I do like how I look now but I just keep thinking a bit more,, a bit more......when does it stop?

  • justrollme
    justrollme Posts: 802 Member
    edited October 2015
    middlehaitch wrote: »
    I lost slowly, 30lb over a year, so I was quite used to my size by the time I was in maintenance. However, last year ( 5yr later) I started a Zumba class in a studio with a wall of mirrors, I nearly wet myself laughing at myself wiggling away. I looked tall and slender. Weird.
    I'm only 5'1, and I hadn't grown taller, but abstractly watching myself animated really made it hit home I was where I always wanted to be. Weight and fitness wise- my proportions were correct and you could see a bit of muscle under the layer of fat. ( at 62 I want a layer of fat otherwise I would look scrawny and stringy).
    Big confidence boost.

    It takes a while to get use to a new you, and you will always be surprising yourself in reflections, mirrors, photos, and videos.

    Cheers, h.

    This wins Most Adorable Sentence on MFP today. :D
  • KnitSewSpin
    KnitSewSpin Posts: 147 Member
    yes, me. I've lost 40 lbs. and I still feel so chunky. I'm in the healthy BMI range, I wear a size 6, and I'm fit and active. This morning I wanted to do some gardening and I was sooooo scared to put on a pair of my gardening pants that used to be so tight on me I couldn't bend over in them to pick weeds. I put them on and they are actually very loose - I don't even have to unbutton them to pull them up. When will it ever get through my thick skull? Someone called me "willowy" yesterday and I laughed at the absurdity. People call me thin all the time. I really wish my mind would catch up with everyone else around me :)
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