my family don't understand my lifestyle.

baldielove13

diyadiamonds wrote: »

Patttience wrote: »

Well without knowing what she cooks, its hard to know but its sounds like its you who are being unreasonable. I mean it won't kill you to eat her food. Or even if you put on a tiny amount of weight from eating some of it, how is that doing to cause you any harm. Its that you don't want to eat her food for your own private reasons. You ahve a right not to eat her food but I think you should be compromising because i can't see how eating her food can be that bad but your refusing to her eat food could easily be seen as insulting. In fact it is insulting as you reckon its not good. I think you are probably being selfish.

LOL didn't I say I do eat her food?

I am a control freak (not towards others just towards myself) and when I'm not in routine I get irritated - call it selfish if you want.

You have the right to be selfish. Your mother will eventually get the message if you choose not to eat her food. Eat her food when you want to. Don't eat it when you don't. You are the one in control.

jgnatca

OP, you describe your reaction to being in a "nightmare". So I suggest it's your obsession that needs curbing, not your mom. Otherwise your social circle is going to get pretty small.

fiddletime

I have two grown sons and would never demand that they eat what I make. They're forging their own paths. It's their time and as long as they don't ask me to change for them I won't ask them to change for me. It's hard letting go as a parent.

Food was obviously a major bond in your household. But what is more important than the food is the time together at the table. You're both losing this happy time together. I'd have another sit down with her, as it seems to me that she's the one having trouble letting her daughter be her own woman (no matter if that person has food issues or whatever).

urloved33

sounds like to your mum food is love...or control.