Starting over

MarcyKirkton

I'm sorry you are drawing negative attention. I'm sure that doesn't help you personally.

Sued0nim

MarcyKirkton wrote: »

I'm sorry you are drawing negative attention. I'm sure that doesn't help you personally.

There is no negativity on this thread but there is a lot of truth, some of it is more direct but it does boil down to a knowledge of the OP as someone who has a disordered relationship with food, binge eating and continual under eating and then stating that she is going to continue to undereat as though she has listened and accepted advice

To break it down: Saying you will hit 1200 gross when you're 5'8 and far from inactive is still under eating unfortunately. That said it is probably a psychological improvement and things do happen in small increments, but I for one am pretty sure I've seen the OP post about hitting 1200 before.

Oh well I'm a constant optimist and I will continue to post what I believe from my research and personal experience is the truth

MarcyKirkton

rabbitjb wrote: »

MarcyKirkton wrote: »

I'm sorry you are drawing negative attention. I'm sure that doesn't help you personally.

There is no negativity on this thread but there is a lot of truth, some of it is more direct but it does boil down to a knowledge of the OP as someone who has a disordered relationship with food, binge eating and continual under eating and then stating that she is going to continue to undereat as though she has listened and accepted advice

To break it down: Saying you will hit 1200 gross when you're 5'8 and far from inactive is still under eating unfortunately. That said it is probably a psychological improvement and things do happen in small increments, but I for one am pretty sure I've seen the OP post about hitting 1200 before.

Oh well I'm a constant optimist and I will continue to post what I believe from my research and personal experience is the truth

I really don't know the personalities here or their history. I just was responding to her obvious distress that her issues were the focus. Mea Culpa!

WinoGelato

rabbitjb wrote: »

I appreciate the thought ...sorry this thread has gone south again

But if you don't want to trust your fitbit, and that's up to you, you need to change your basic activity level

Your fitbit is basically telling you that your activity level of sedentary is wrong, that your activity level should be active

It's right. You are a busy mom, you are no way sedentary

I love my fitbit and eat every calorie even from just walking to the bathroom, because my body's done that and used up energy doing it

I am set to sedentary but that's fine because I trust my fitbit to adjust ...if I earn back 400 calories over sedentary it is because I've moved about 10000 steps and that takes energy = calories

This is very true. I was set at sedentary when I first got my FitBit and was getting huge exercise adjustments. I started reading some threads in the FitBit user groups, got some good advice from people like Heybales who told me that averaging more than 10K steps a day means you aren't sedentary. I upped my activity level on here to lightly active, got a higher baseline of cals to start with, and the exercise adjustments decreased and were more representative of when I would actually burn doing "exercise". Now that I average >15K steps a day, have increased my activity level to active, and it works quite well. I trust the little bugger implicitly and lost my weight and am successfully maintaining using it.

Similar to you OP, I'm a busy working mom and that means we are in no way sedentary.

People that are telling you that you should be eating more aren't attacking you or disrespecting your post. You keep saying you want to do better, and I think you are sincere about that, but because of your disordered thinking about eating you just can't trust that you should be eating more than 1200 cals, and comments like those in this thread and others are very upsetting for you which is why I'm not sure this is a healthy place for you with your current mindset.

Liftng4Lis

MarcyKirkton wrote: »

I really don't know the personalities here or their history. I just was responding to her obvious distress that her issues were the focus. Mea Culpa!

The people responding are doing so with a knowledge of her posting history, therefore doing it by keeping in mind the OP is seeking professional help for her eating disorder. They are in no way being mean, they're being honest.

SingRunTing

You need to net at least 1200 calories. Stop making excuses. Your fitbit is adjusting your calories because you are more active than you put into MFP. It's not lying.

WBB55

@superhockeymom We're not here to bash you. And 99.9% of the things you're reading and taking to heart as "negative" from these forums are not, in fact, negative. You're interpreting it that way because you're being defensive about choices you know are going against what the good, intelligent, experienced people here are suggesting you consider.

If your FitBit is giving you huge calorie adjustments even when you don't do purposeful exercise, it means your activity level you've chosen (sedentary) is not optimal to get the best results. You can ignore the FitBit. You can ignore our rational, reasoned, experienced advice. And then you can continue to get the same results you've been getting: unhealthy goals/expectations, binge/starve cycles, disordered thinking about the power of food, etc.

Or, you could trust science and us and what your FitBit is telling you, and achieve the results you actually want in a sane, logical manner that won't cause you all the emotional distress you're displaying. We just want you to actually be happy and healthy, and not sweeping your issues under the rug.

kshama2001

MarcyKirkton wrote: »

I'm sorry you are drawing negative attention. I'm sure that doesn't help you personally.

She said she was over her 1200 calories. People responded that due to her Fitbit adjustment for exercise, she wasn't actually over, and was in fact under. I'm sorry you both see that as negative attention. I see people genuinely trying to help.

And then the OP pushes back and the thread goes downhill

superhockeymom

Hi guys. Love you. Away for the weekend just enjoyed some tortellini with Alfredo yum yum. Not sure I am going to log everything this weekend I have no scale to weigh food and I honestly really don't care right now. And no this is not a binge cycle. I ate a normal portion maybe a little small but I am satisfied. I actually feel very normal and very happy. So you all have a great weekend get some sleep some exercise read up on crazy people. I will be back on Monday with my new super positive recharged outlook on life. Hey I may surprise you.