The Silent Treatment: Does it work?

bonitacash08
bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
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Sometimes I feel that's the only weapon I have left.

You can scream.

You can cry.

You can beg.

You can rationally talk it out under thinly disguised hysteria.

But at the end of the day, nothing says "I mean it" like being ignored so much you doubt your own existence.
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  • xvxCelticWandererxvx
    xvxCelticWandererxvx Posts: 2,890 Member
    Ya. Silence is hell. It speaks volumes.
  • traceytwink
    traceytwink Posts: 538 Member
    Best tool ever to let my kids know they have gone to far
  • SweetestLibby
    SweetestLibby Posts: 607 Member
    Not with me. I like silence; I find it peaceful. Most of the time I only speak when there is something to be said. Someone not talking to me isn't going to bother me. My boyfriend however hates silence. It unnerves him and brings up negative emotions. Given him the "silent treatment" would be bad/potentially damaging.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    My husband HATES when I give him the silent treatment. He tries anything and everything to get me to talk to him.
  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    by all means use the silent treatment, and "cutting off" will surely be effective, particularly on a SO predisposed to cheat.
  • Big_Bad
    Big_Bad Posts: 57
    It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

    And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

    I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.
  • Iron_Lotus
    Iron_Lotus Posts: 2,295 Member
    Oh yes because being silent after a fight or whatever ALWAYS warrants sticking your d!ck elsewhere. Please
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    by all means use the silent treatment, and "cutting off" will surely be effective, particularly on a SO predisposed to cheat.

    First of all, how can you be "predisposed" to cheat? You can be predisposed to diabetes. Predisposed to heart disease. But I refuse to believe you can predisposed to a behavior like that.

    Any cutting off NEVER solves anything.. That's a different thread lol
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    I love reading threads where someone's sarcasm meter is completely broken.

    Oh, and in for more silence.
  • traceytwink
    traceytwink Posts: 538 Member
    It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

    And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

    I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.
    My kids know how much they mean to me, so don't get slating me as a parent you don't know me or my children, shouting never works with my two they just hear noise, this works for us as a family and the silent treatment lasts 10 mins max, don't judge others on your own relationship with your mother.
  • NikkiFightinFat
    NikkiFightinFat Posts: 15
    I like how the silent treatment not only brings out the guilt that may be festering, but also reveils other underlying things that they don't tell you about upfront...lol. Silence is golden and it opens them up like a book :laugh:
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    I love reading threads where someone's sarcasm meter is completely broken.

    Oh, and in for more silence.


















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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...
  • xvxCelticWandererxvx
    xvxCelticWandererxvx Posts: 2,890 Member
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  • _noob_
    _noob_ Posts: 3,306 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    yeah, I just go fishing.
  • Morninglory81
    Morninglory81 Posts: 1,190 Member

    You can rationally talk it out.
    Fixed your options for you.

    This is all that's needed. Weapons are for people who refuse to do this.
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

    So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??
  • traceytwink
    traceytwink Posts: 538 Member
    It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

    And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

    I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.
    My kids know how much they mean to me, so don't get slating me as a parent you don't know me or my children, shouting never works with my two they just hear noise, this works for us as a family and the silent treatment lasts 10 mins max, don't judge others on your own relationship with your mother.

    I feel sorry for your kids. :frown:

    Don't be they have a lovely life, but I think I feel for you go speak to your mother ????
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    in for judgement and ridicule
  • dare2love81
    dare2love81 Posts: 928 Member

    You can rationally talk it out.
    Fixed your options for you.

    This is all that's needed. Weapons are for people who refuse to do this.

    This. The silent treatment to me is a control mechanism, a manipulation, and a mind game. None of which I'm fond of. Additionally, none of these usually amount to solid relationships.
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    Don't be they have a lovely life, but I think I feel for you go speak to your mother ????

    You know what else works great? Whispering..

    They can't hear you scream dinner's ready but whisper you brought home chocolate cake and they're beside themselves trying to find you
  • XxYeaIrocxX
    XxYeaIrocxX Posts: 224 Member
    Doesnt work for me.

    My husband acts like nothings wrong when Im quiet and will go on about his day. And I'd never use it on my daughter because talking works with her. He is as non observant as they come and if i dont lay out the details and explain to him everything, he'll think everythings just peachy lol.

    If talking decides not to work one day for my daughter I ever so gently lean close to her ear and calmly say "You have 5 minutes to redirect your attitude or there will be consequences" and she about craps herself every time and straightens her little butt right up.
  • JaneDough_
    JaneDough_ Posts: 301 Member
    Yes, it does.


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  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

    So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??

    To me communication is everything so no I don't give the silent treatment but if someone wants to give me the silent treatment well go ahead lol does not bother me one bit.
  • dare2love81
    dare2love81 Posts: 928 Member
    So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??

    No. See my previous post.
  • bonitacash08
    bonitacash08 Posts: 378 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

    So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??

    To me communication is everything so no I don't give the silent treatment but if someone wants to give me the silent treatment well go ahead lol does not bother me one bit.

    So then it's more the silent treat than the silent treatment?
  • mojohowitz
    mojohowitz Posts: 900 Member
    in for bad parenting advice.
  • SweetestLibby
    SweetestLibby Posts: 607 Member
    Don't be they have a lovely life, but I think I feel for you go speak to your mother ????

    You know what else works great? Whispering..

    They can't hear you scream dinner's ready but whisper you brought home chocolate cake and they're beside themselves trying to find you

    My dad does this. He doesn't yell or scream. He speaks at a certain level and if you miss it because you're not listening, paying attention, or ignoring him then it's on you. :laugh:

    My mom tries to use the silent treatment but it does more harm to her then us - she's the social butterfly. My dad and I are stubborn and content with silence. We know she loves us and that she's not going any where so we're content to let her get it out of her system. We'll be here to talk like rational adults when she's ready. :smile:
  • Trueray
    Trueray Posts: 1,189 Member
    It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

    Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

    So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??

    To me communication is everything so no I don't give the silent treatment but if someone wants to give me the silent treatment well go ahead lol does not bother me one bit.

    So then it's more the silent treat than the silent treatment?

    ahahaha I guess so.

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