The Silent Treatment: Does it work?

bonitacash08

Sometimes I feel that's the only weapon I have left.

You can scream.

You can cry.

You can beg.

You can rationally talk it out under thinly disguised hysteria.

But at the end of the day, nothing says "I mean it" like being ignored so much you doubt your own existence.

xvxCelticWandererxvx

Ya. Silence is hell. It speaks volumes.

traceytwink

Best tool ever to let my kids know they have gone to far

SweetestLibby

Not with me. I like silence; I find it peaceful. Most of the time I only speak when there is something to be said. Someone not talking to me isn't going to bother me. My boyfriend however hates silence. It unnerves him and brings up negative emotions. Given him the "silent treatment" would be bad/potentially damaging.

Iron_Lotus

My husband HATES when I give him the silent treatment. He tries anything and everything to get me to talk to him.

_noob_

by all means use the silent treatment, and "cutting off" will surely be effective, particularly on a SO predisposed to cheat.

Big_Bad

It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.

Iron_Lotus

Oh yes because being silent after a fight or whatever ALWAYS warrants sticking your d!ck elsewhere. Please

bonitacash08

by all means use the silent treatment, and "cutting off" will surely be effective, particularly on a SO predisposed to cheat.

First of all, how can you be "predisposed" to cheat? You can be predisposed to diabetes. Predisposed to heart disease. But I refuse to believe you can predisposed to a behavior like that.

Any cutting off NEVER solves anything.. That's a different thread lol

BeachIron

I love reading threads where someone's sarcasm meter is completely broken.

Oh, and in for more silence.

traceytwink

It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.

My kids know how much they mean to me, so don't get slating me as a parent you don't know me or my children, shouting never works with my two they just hear noise, this works for us as a family and the silent treatment lasts 10 mins max, don't judge others on your own relationship with your mother.

NikkiFightinFat

I like how the silent treatment not only brings out the guilt that may be festering, but also reveils other underlying things that they don't tell you about upfront...lol. Silence is golden and it opens them up like a book :laugh:

bonitacash08

I love reading threads where someone's sarcasm meter is completely broken.

Oh, and in for more silence.

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cwolfman13

It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

xvxCelticWandererxvx

_noob_

It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

yeah, I just go fishing.

Morninglory81

You can rationally talk it out.

Fixed your options for you.

This is all that's needed. Weapons are for people who refuse to do this.

Trueray

It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

bonitacash08

It doesn't work on me...which enrages my wife. I can go the distance...

Same here I can go a month, two months, as long as the other person wants to take it. Besides silence is always good for the mind lol.

So you guys don't give your SOs the silent treatment??

traceytwink

It's emotionally abusive and no one deserves it.

And for the person who said they use it on their kids, that was one of my mother's parenting techniques. It didn't work out so well. Pretending like you don't care at all about your kids or what they say or want is very harmful. Silence should never be punishment.

I think you should probably rethink your relationship and your method of dealing with problems.

My kids know how much they mean to me, so don't get slating me as a parent you don't know me or my children, shouting never works with my two they just hear noise, this works for us as a family and the silent treatment lasts 10 mins max, don't judge others on your own relationship with your mother.

I feel sorry for your kids. :frown:

Don't be they have a lovely life, but I think I feel for you go speak to your mother ????

wolverine66

in for judgement and ridicule