The excuses we tell ourselves, and others
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I'm gaining muscle
I'm big boned
Mowing the lawn and parking further away from the door is all the exercise I need0 -
Variations of reasons why it's all his fault.0
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The one I hear a great deal of from clients, and just people in general: I cannot lose weight because of *insert name of medication*. Which translates to "I am a special snowflake and I am not going to work on reducing what I eat and moving more because it takes work." *as I sit there and try not to roll my eyes and lecture*0
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So many of the above.
By biggest one right now is - but I'm going out with my friends and I want to eat and drink like them, so I'll start after this weekend. This never really works because I do something social almost every weekend and sometimes during the week. For some reason when I started losing weight, I was much better at eating healthier and sticking to water while we were out, not so much right now.0 -
strong_curves wrote: »My biggest excuse was "I don't eat that much". Well I thought I wasn't eating a lot then I started logging here and realized I DO eat a lot, much more than I realized especially when it came to snack foods.
Oh yeah, this one too.
It's not the quantity, it's the calories.
My own mother uses this excuse ALL THE TIME. Needless to say, she's still morbidly obese.
I have friends who swear that they only eat healthy foods, but are still 20+ lbs overweight. You can be overweight and only eat healthy stuff.0 -
missblondi2u wrote: »I can relate to many of these! Here are some of mine:
1. All the women in my family are big, so I guess that's just how I'm supposed to be.
--Right, like we all have this gene that magically injects fat into your body at the age of 25--
2. My husband still thinks I'm sexy! Who cares what other people think!
--Ever think MAYBE he's just being the kind, loving man he is as opposed to thinking 75 extra pounds is hot--
3. Life's too short not to enjoy the foods you love.
--Ok, but enjoying food is different than binge eating chocolate all day, every day. Besides, eating all that junk is going to make life a little shorter--
My bf doesn't say anything negative, either, but you know they're just being nice. Mine is thin, works at it, so im highly doubting that he finds my 40+ lbs hot.0 -
Biggest excuses:
1. My back/shoulder is in pain (and while true, 1; it goes away when I'm actually keeping up with my rehabilitation, which includes lifting and 2; I can still eat healthy even if I'm in too much pain to work out)
2. I had a bad day (even though I can have some really crappy days, I *know* that I much prefer a hot cup of tea, a warm bath, some favourite tv and a small piece of dark chocolate and maybe a few hard candies and dried mango over a gigantic bar of candy chocolate).
3. No time. (Though I know that there's no such thing, because it's all about how I prioritize the time I do have, and the fact that I'm doing it wrong.)0 -
"People say I look okay"... yeah? Well, what do you yourself say??0
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Mine was that I could eat whatever I wanted and not gain weight, so I saw no point in being miserable eating very little food to lose (the dietitian I saw when I was 19 convinced me that I had a very low metabolism and would have to eat 1300 calories forever if I wanted not to be fat anymore).
That's pretty much it. I never even looked for an excuse, I just didn't want to do it (I did maintain my 200 pounds easily eating whatever I wanted for 10 years, until I was put on steroids, which made me gain, and that's what made me start to lose weight, as I wasn't maintaining anymore).0 -
missblondi2u wrote: »I can relate to many of these! Here are some of mine:
1. All the women in my family are big, so I guess that's just how I'm supposed to be.
--Right, like we all have this gene that magically injects fat into your body at the age of 25--
2. My husband still thinks I'm sexy! Who cares what other people think!
--Ever think MAYBE he's just being the kind, loving man he is as opposed to thinking 75 extra pounds is hot--
3. Life's too short not to enjoy the foods you love.
--Ok, but enjoying food is different than binge eating chocolate all day, every day. Besides, eating all that junk is going to make life a little shorter--
My bf doesn't say anything negative, either, but you know they're just being nice. Mine is thin, works at it, so im highly doubting that he finds my 40+ lbs hot.
I can say my husband didn't care unless it affected my health....I am the smallest woman he has dated in his adult life...even at my biggest.
Some men don't care.
My excuses were...
1. To tired (yah exercise gives you energy)
2. To much stuff to do...if you count keeping the couch on the floor "stuff"
3. I look fine...
4. I am not "that" big (delusional)
But that was near the end...at the start I just didn't care to be frank. I like food. I like to eat so that's what I did and it was fun for 20 years. Now I just don't eat as much and move more.0 -
MENOPAUSE
It's soooo hard-
nope your BMR is declining at the same rate it has since you we're in your 20's.
move some weight- it will help you retain a higher BMR as you age.
CICO works just the same, just be aware of what your hormones are doing to your appetite and work through it.
Cheers, h.0 -
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middlehaitch wrote: »MENOPAUSE
It's soooo hard-
nope your BMR is declining at the same rate it has since you we're in your 20's.
move some weight- it will help you retain a higher BMR as you age.
CICO works just the same, just be aware of what your hormones are doing to your appetite and work through it.
Cheers, h.
@middlehaitch
Your experience and wisdom could help here too...http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10274406/any-45-females-succeeding-at-losing-weight-pre-menopause#latest0 -
I've had a long day so I'll enjoy a glass or two of wine - one bottle later and 500 cal, oops I'll burn that off with cardio or just eat less tomorrow. Result 6 kg and a muffin top
solution find better stress release in gym lifting weights. 0 -
I gave birth to 6 kids I will never be skinny again.... Then I see skinny people who had 6 kids lol0
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I know this one can be controversial, but I'll throw it out there since you asked. It was the most dominant one for me for far too many years.
"But saying I need to change means something is wrong with me. Saying I need to lose weight means I'm not good enough the way I am. I'm an attractive, happy and confident girl. I shouldn't need to change to please society."
This turned into embracing my larger size and carefree (eating) attitude as proof of my self-confidence. I was so wrong. I was so caught up in trying to place the blame on society's expectations, that I didn't see the health risks I was taking on.
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DeguelloTex wrote: »I'm so tall the extra weight doesn't show much.
OK, for a long time, maybe it didn't. Then it did.
ME!0 -
"I'll just eat better tomorrow"
I'm guilty of thinking that a lot. Luckily these days I have it far more under control than I used to.0 -
-- I will start tomorrow, but today I'm gonna eat a ton of junk food that I DEFINITELY WILL NOT be eating anymore. Y'know, cause I'm starting my diet. *repeat a million times*
-- well okay, I'm a little overweight...but I'm in a lot better shape than all these skinny girls in class getting out of breath so fast, so it must be alright.
-- I'm too tired/don't have time/have to get up too early to go to the gym.
And the biggest one...
-- I'm happy with how I am. (Translation: I've resigned myself to the fact that I will always be a gelatinous sack of crap).0 -
I was moderately thin (120 - 125 lbs) for many years, then had kids, got a desk job, and started commuting to work. The weight piled on and then stuck at 195 lb for a long time. I told myself, this must be my body's new set point; it just doesn't want to be 120 lbs. anymore. I'm not as young as I used to be. I'm a mom now; I just have a mom body. It wasn't until I stepped on a scale one day and was over 200 lb. that I was finally jolted into doing something about my weight.0
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brightsideofpink wrote: »I know this one can be controversial, but I'll throw it out there since you asked. It was the most dominant one for me for far too many years.
"But saying I need to change means something is wrong with me. Saying I need to lose weight means I'm not good enough the way I am. I'm an attractive, happy and confident girl. I shouldn't need to change to please society."
This turned into embracing my larger size and carefree (eating) attitude as proof of my self-confidence. I was so wrong. I was so caught up in trying to place the blame on society's expectations, that I didn't see the health risks I was taking on.
Yes! This reflects my love/hate relationship with the whole "real women have curves" campaign.
I remember back when I had gotten too big for the "normal" size clothes in most major department stores. I started shopping at Lane Bryant where suddenly I was the smallest size in the store. It made me feel more comfortable being overweight because I lost that anxiety of not being able to find fashionable clothes that fit. I became that carefree Lane Bryant catalog girl who embraced her size and looked great.
While part of me will always be thankful for stores like Lane Bryant that help plus size women feel better about themselves, I'm so glad that I made the decision not to be one of them anymore. Not because I hated the way I looked or because I felt pressure from society, but because I had the will and determination to make a healthy change for myself. There has to be some balance between accepting your body the way it is while recognizing that you have the power to make changes for the better.0 -
"Losing weight sucks and I'd rather be fat than miserable"
It was a two edged excuse too, because i was already miserable and losing weight is only miserable if you make it that way.0 -
I don't think mine as an excuse because I was only 46 kg for years and years prior to my weight gain, I was even too skinny. I see it as a reason. My pills that made me sooo hungry all the time and my doctor saying there is no way we can stop that side affect that I need the pills which made me fat (I would order pizza at 2am in the morning Every Single Day and eat it with chips because the pills made me out of control.) I quit the pills, now I eat less than an average person and I am happy with it. Rarely I binge, but I think everyone does that once in a while. I already lost 12.5 kg at total, and I am continuing to lose.
I think thinking your reasons as excuses is a self-blame and doesn't cause good results especially if you don't concentrate on solving the problem and instead think of it as a lack of commitment.0 -
1) it's not fat, it's contentment. I was slim when I was single and gained once I was in a relationship
2) I'm in an unhappy job. Once I change that I'll sort it out then. I changed job and was happier and still put on weight.
3) I love food and cooking. I had to realise I can still love and enjoy cooking and eating while losing weight.
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missblondi2u wrote: »Yes! This reflects my love/hate relationship with the whole "real women have curves" campaign.
I remember back when I had gotten too big for the "normal" size clothes in most major department stores. I started shopping at Lane Bryant where suddenly I was the smallest size in the store. It made me feel more comfortable being overweight because I lost that anxiety of not being able to find fashionable clothes that fit. I became that carefree Lane Bryant catalog girl who embraced her size and looked great.
While part of me will always be thankful for stores like Lane Bryant that help plus size women feel better about themselves, I'm so glad that I made the decision not to be one of them anymore. Not because I hated the way I looked or because I felt pressure from society, but because I had the will and determination to make a healthy change for myself. There has to be some balance between accepting your body the way it is while recognizing that you have the power to make changes for the better.
This is a great quote.
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"I'm depressed"
"I'm tired"
"I'm anxious".
"I'm on my period (PMDD)"
"I have fibromyalgia, I can't"
"I can't do it".
"I hate myself".
"I deserve it"
"I'm upset"
"Too busy"
"I don't have the time...I have pets to take care of"
Working out helps with all of those...0 -
missblondi2u wrote: »
Yes! This reflects my love/hate relationship with the whole "real women have curves" campaign.
I remember back when I had gotten too big for the "normal" size clothes in most major department stores. I started shopping at Lane Bryant where suddenly I was the smallest size in the store. It made me feel more comfortable being overweight because I lost that anxiety of not being able to find fashionable clothes that fit. I became that carefree Lane Bryant catalog girl who embraced her size and looked great.
There has to be some balance between accepting your body the way it is while recognizing that you have the power to make changes for the better.
I have the same mixed feelings about these types of campaigns. Thus I lead with saying it can be a bit a bit controversial. I think that this body-beautiful movement is a tricky one. We need to be careful to value ourselves in spite of our body, without confusing it for valuing ourselves FOR our body.0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »Variations of reasons why it's all his fault.
Yup this always0 -
I need someone to motivate me?0
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"This food tastes too damned good and I don't care right now..."
Not an excuse, per se, but my reason every time.
Every. Time.0
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