Guys only! Does your woman tempt you to eat more during her TOM?

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  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    GirlNGlasses wrote: »
    You are stronger than any bag of oreos. I have a similar situation only he doesnt have a TOM. So I just simply remove myself from the situation. Ignore the temptations and the tears. Its all just games of sabotoge.

    Good advice. I'll try just ignoring the tears.
  • SlamF
    SlamF Posts: 2 Member
    Eating in bed is gross. I think that's the most concerning part of this post.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    The crumb issue is what is really driving me nuts about this. Oreo crumbs. In bed.

    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    I don't know if she's using her TOM as a free pass to act out or if women really do have uncontrollable urges. That's the part that I don't understand.

    Why ask this in a "guys only" thread? (Obviously didn't end up being guys only.) I'm not understanding that part.

    My bad. I guess two women could live together and have this same issue.
  • Sued0nim
    Sued0nim Posts: 17,456 Member
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    jemhh wrote: »
    The crumb issue is what is really driving me nuts about this. Oreo crumbs. In bed.

    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    I don't know if she's using her TOM as a free pass to act out or if women really do have uncontrollable urges. That's the part that I don't understand.

    Why ask this in a "guys only" thread? (Obviously didn't end up being guys only.) I'm not understanding that part.

    My bad. I guess two women could live together and have this same issue.

    Don't worry

    We are female

    We don't let guys tell us what to do ;)
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    SlamF wrote: »
    Eating in bed is gross. I think that's the most concerning part of this post.

    Actually I've made that joke before. "Confucius say, many who eat cookie in bed wake up feeling crummy."
  • jemhh
    jemhh Posts: 14,261 Member
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    jemhh wrote: »
    The crumb issue is what is really driving me nuts about this. Oreo crumbs. In bed.

    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    I don't know if she's using her TOM as a free pass to act out or if women really do have uncontrollable urges. That's the part that I don't understand.

    Why ask this in a "guys only" thread? (Obviously didn't end up being guys only.) I'm not understanding that part.

    My bad. I guess two women could live together and have this same issue.

    Or perhaps a woman could tell you what a woman does or doesn't experience during her period?
  • NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner
    NobodyPutsAmyInTheCorner Posts: 1,018 Member
    edited October 2015
    She's doing it wrong. During TOM I wouldn't share my treats with ANYONE. Tell her this. She should be eating them all to herself.

    [Edited by MFP Staff]
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    jemhh wrote: »
    The crumb issue is what is really driving me nuts about this. Oreo crumbs. In bed.

    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    I don't know if she's using her TOM as a free pass to act out or if women really do have uncontrollable urges. That's the part that I don't understand.

    Why ask this in a "guys only" thread? (Obviously didn't end up being guys only.) I'm not understanding that part.

    Probably a strategy...because nothing attracts opinionated women to a thread like labeling it "guys only".

    And I'm speaking from experience here of receiving one of my two strikes in a "TOM question-women only" thread.
  • cnbbnc
    cnbbnc Posts: 1,267 Member
    She needs to get a grip on herself. I mean...what is supposed to happen here? Every time she has her period for the rest of her life you're going to be expected sit and eat junk with her?

    And besides that, if she wants to lose weight then she needs to learn not to sit with a bag of cookies every month. That's her issue. Not yours.

  • sallygroundhog
    sallygroundhog Posts: 133 Member
    er, everyone is different.
  • SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage
    SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage Posts: 2,668 Member
    Waffle, you are so naughty :wink:
  • tomatoey
    tomatoey Posts: 5,446 Member
    Haven't read other responses. We actually burn a few more calories during TOM, so yes, we're hungrier (or some of us more than others. Why the things some of us are hungry for are chocolate and chips & dip, I don't know, maybe we need glucose for complicated endocrinological reasons and those deliver it quickly? *shrug*).

    It is not cool of her to lean on you by asking you to eat the same thing to make it ok for her, though. She needs to learn that a) having some extra calories during TOM isn't the worst thing in the world, b) nothing's actually wrong with chocolate or ice cream now and then, and c) it is not ok to do this to your partner!

    She could maybe track her periods so that she knows for sure that the reason she's wanting to cry is what it is, maybe that will help her get to grips with things a little better.

    As far as managing the emotions, yeah, she could take her chances with birth control (if that's not a risk for her, which it might be) or an SSRI, but not everyone is up for that (and BCP isn't a good idea for everyone), and I think that's fair enough.

    PMS is a huge pain for the women who have it, though.
  • Packerjohn
    Packerjohn Posts: 4,855 Member
    Sack up. Tell her she can eat as many of those things as she want's but you're watching your calories and they don't fit.
  • Olivia
    Olivia Posts: 10,137 MFP Staff
    edited October 2015
    This discussion has been cleaned up and re-opened. Please adhere to guidelines or we will lock it.
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    Thanks @Alex! Did you mean for it to be in Chit Chat? Seems like a serious question to me!
  • GreenGoddess22
    GreenGoddess22 Posts: 3,818 Member
    _Waffle_ wrote: »
    I've been trying to eat healthier and she has as well but every time she has TOM she brings out the junk food and it's like she doesn't care that I'm wanting to avoid temptation.

    Last night we had a great meal of grilled chicken and a tasty salad, followed by a small piece of pumpkin pie. We're both on target for our calories and then she brings an entire bag of Oreo cookies to bed with her and puts it in between us and starts eating. She even has the nerve to demand that I eat some too. "Just eat a few so I won't feel like I'm the only one getting fat."

    I tried telling her that she's being insensitive but then she'll start this bit where she claims I don't understand her cravings and how she has to eat more food. She makes me the bad guy and even starts crying if I get upset about it. I don't care if she eats it but why does she have to tempt me with this food too? Can't she at least go eat it in the other room? No, she has to be near me when she makes bad decisions for some reason.

    Do women really have uncontrollable desires to eat food? There's no way her body needs that much junk food. I understand she needs a bit more nutrition but why can't she just eat more at dinner? Does TOM make a whole that only junk food can fill and if so why try to force other people to join in the bad decisions?

    I was on meds that messed with my hormones and for me, the cravings were very, very hard to control as well as the crying. I hated feeling like that, but I couldn't help it. Imagine you have a really bad itch you can't scratch, that is how I felt about bad for you foods because it made me feel better once I consumed them.
  • Determined_ella_89
    Determined_ella_89 Posts: 1,710 Member
    edited October 2015
    :flushed: Am I the only one that doesn't want to eat anything much at all during that time? Lol
  • jofjltncb6
    jofjltncb6 Posts: 34,415 Member
    Good. That thing that made me go :neutral: was cleaned up too.

  • GreenGoddess22
    GreenGoddess22 Posts: 3,818 Member
    Obviously I missed some things lol!
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