How do you forgive bad people?

salembambi

you have to define "Bad" it depends on who and what kind of meanness is happening

KANGOOJUMPS

I do not forgive. see ya later!,,

musclesandmusic866

Not sure you have to forgive anybody but when you let things bother you....they win. So don't let them win:)

henshemi

I usually don't...but..

sw33tp3a15

I forgive everyone who has ever hurt me. Like the saying goes, what goes around comes back around.

47Jacqueline

Forgiving someone doesn't mean you condone what they did.

margaretlouise123

I used to hold a grudge but since spending a year here in Afghanistan I see that no one is promised tomorrow and to spend each day as if it were you're last and karma has it's way anyhow

verptwerp

"Characteristics of toxic people: They do not have the ability to feel guilt, they are irresponsible, they thrive on drama, they brag about the last person they outsmarted, they've got a bunch of short-term relationships and, lastly, they are delusional."

Over 60+ years, there are only 2 people I've cut dead in my mind ..... I don't talk to them or about them. And a few other people I'll avoid like the plague (like a toxic sister-in-law) ..... but I will play nice tomorrow at Thanksgiving

jgnatca

I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.

jgnatca

Yeah, survivors of cruelty know. There is such a thing as bad people.

Luke_I_am_your_spotter

You don't. I can forgive a good person who does a bad thing but I cant forgive a bad person. Eff em.

Straza66

BraveNewdGirl wrote: »

I generally decide that they don't deserve to rent space in my head and focus my energy elsewhere. I'm big on letting ish go, but not forgetting who has burned me in the past.

What she said, it's just easier to forget about it than to sit on something that's hurt you and let it affect you as much as it is. Eff em, basically. Your time's more important than that.

beagletracks

jgnatca wrote: »

I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.

What she said ^^ There are people who have done some pretty horrible things to me and never apologized or repented. It does not weigh on my heart or blacken my soul not to have forgiven them. If they asked sincerely for it, I might grant forgiveness, but they never will. Would I save them if they were drowning? Yes. Can I be at peace without forgiving them? Yes. Would I cross the street to avoid them? Yes.

beagletracks

newmeadow wrote: »

I don't think it's part of human nature, generally speaking, to forgive - especially unprovoked, severe and life ruining transgressions.

Well stated.

Luke_I_am_your_spotter

peppermintpudgy wrote: »

jgnatca wrote: »

I prefer the Jewish concepts of repentance and forgiveness, which doesn't come with an automatic "get out of Sheol free" card.

http://www.crosscurrents.org/blumenthal.htm

There cannot be forgiveness if there hasn't been repentance and an attempt at restitution.

So my short answer I guess is, "avoid bad people". Cross the street.

What she said ^^ There are people who have done some pretty horrible things to me and never apologized or repented. It does not weigh on my heart or blacken my soul not to have forgiven them. If they asked sincerely for it, I might grant forgiveness, but they never will. Would I save them if they were drowning? Yes. Can I be at peace without forgiving them? Yes. Would I cross the street to avoid them? Yes.

I think its kinda funny that Santa concurs with the jewish philosophy.

OliverMol

People will always be territorial. Use a whip. Or buy secret mini bottle of skunk spray and give them a vemgefull innocent hug. Spray in Hair. Vengeance is only sweet when undiscovered. Bc they cant retaliate as easily.

violetjin123 wrote: »

Ok. This is just a random question. How do you forgive some people who are mean to you? What can you do to let it go and not be bother by it?

OliverMol

Edit: Lol.