Online relationships can ruin real life ones

The_Enginerd

I'm more worried about my real life relationship ruining my online ones...

Seriously though, I have friendships with taken women in real life and online, and vice versa for my SO, and we are both okay with that.

AllTehBeers

Sorry you were cheated on.

pain_is_weakness

I am married and I have male friends on here. My husband doesn't get anymore jealous of my friends on here as he would in "real life". If I cross the line in either way that would be bad on me but I never have. Now my husband and I have a more liberal relationship than most (lol, don't ask you don't want to know) but we still do have our boundaries and we know them well. I have never seen any of my friend on here that are married or in relationships come out and say "Hey I crossed the line with a guy online and now my SO is pissed or leaving me" I don't know who your friends are but that's just me.

Bottom line if you are gonna cheat you are gonna do it, online meeting or it may be someone you already know. Everyone is different no judgment from me, sounds like maybe you got a little burnt? I know I love my male and female friends and love flirting ect, my hubs knows me well enough to know nothing would happen and I feel the same about im

ItsCasey

does his wife know you met with her husband?

Does she?

Not that it's any of your business, but of course she knew. So did my boyfriend at the time. Would I be talking about it openly on the Internet if it were some huge secret?

Not everyone is a big fat liar. I don't know what experiences you two have obviously had with cheating or being cheated on, but don't put that on me.

whierd

You know what else ruins real life relationships? Laundry.

lisamarie1780

does his wife know you met with her husband?

Does she?

Not that it's any of your business, but of course she knew. So did my boyfriend at the time. Would I be talking about it openly on the Internet if it were some huge secret?

Not everyone is a big fat liar. I don't know what experiences you two have obviously had with cheating or being cheated on, but don't put that on me.

little tip for you... if you're a private person who doesn't like people in their business then don't advertise your business in a chat forum where people from all over the world can read about it

Also, I don't recall anyone accusing you of anything or putting anything on you ... it was a simple question in response to your admission that you meet with married men you speak to on the internet.... we were interested to know if the wives of these men knew about it

berriboobear

Also depends on the "real life" relationship... because I don't really think any of my online relationships will harm my real life ones with my friends or family... if you're specifically talking about a "real life" romantic relationship with a bf/gf or spouse, than it really depends on the couple and how they choose to define and lead their relationship together.

Alatariel75

I think you mean "forming inappropriate relationships while being at best not open and at worst dishonest about them can ruin an existing relationship".

It isn't "online" vs "real". If someone in a relationship is going to form another one which will impact on the existing, there is something already fundamentally wrong. Online can make it easier, but it isn't net vs real.

xxghost

I think you mean "forming inappropriate relationships while being at best not open and at worst dishonest about them can ruin an existing relationship".

It isn't "online" vs "real". If someone in a relationship is going to form another one which will impact on the existing, there is something already fundamentally wrong. Online can make it easier, but it isn't net vs real.

I agree completely. If you are in a relationship with someone, and you meet someone else and things get romantic, that is bad. It does not matter whether you meet the person on the internet or not. This isn't the Sims, no one is fake, and unless you're chatting with a bot, there is someone else on the other end. This coming from someone who has never had an online relationship - I've never understood why people felt the relationship was different just because it was formed online, especially with the increasing trend in internet dating.

Anyway, back on topic. I have plenty of friends online. I've roleplayed for years, and made close relationships with people. Nothing romantic, and my boyfriend knows about them.

bikeswimrunnergal

Sorry you were cheated on.

I wasn't cheated on and this never happened to me. It has happened to people I know.

bikeswimrunnergal

Not that it's any of your business, but of course she knew. So did my boyfriend at the time. Would I be talking about it openly on the Internet if it were some huge secret?
Not everyone is a big fat liar. I don't know what experiences you two have obviously had with cheating or being cheated on, but don't put that on me.

You are pretty defensive. It was a just a question.

jjay23

i pm people on here and have convos about all different types of things. My boyfriend can access my emails at any time he likes (ipad is everywhere and always signed in to all) he trusts me and I trust him, its healthy to have male and female friends and healthy to flirt, I dont cross the line and never would. I love my boyfriend and it makes me feel good to know that he is desired and comes home to me. we all get a little jealous sometimes despite ourselves but I think if there is trust in a relationship and nothing wrong is being done then how do online relationships differ from any other? I think it should have said cheating can ruin real life relationships

Skinny_minny_mo

You do see the irony of asking this to people you dont know and have never met ONLINE?

people set their own boundaries and as supposedly responsible adults should be able to deal with the complexities that come with online relationships.