How do you deal with norms?

AnvilHead

EvgeniZyntx wrote: »

I'd take the cookie.
Really.

What would one cookie do?
I'm sure it is tasty.

Plus nostalgia.
The sweet pain of coming home.
Homecoming.

Haiku fail - it's 5/7/5.

Mondoweft

If you are really worried about social drinking, order an orange juice or a diet coke in a small glass. Looks like a mixer with a lot less calories.

the_log_lady

I don't read clinical level paranoia into his tone at all. It's possible that it's there, but it's an impossible call to make from text/ a few comments online.

You realise he's also referencing actual sociological theorists' work, right?

Societal norms are incredibly pervasive, and advertising is way more hooked in than many seem to realise. It's the things we don't question that perhaps we should. For example, when you think of farm animals, what do you picture? What is the reality? Marriage? Love? Beauty? A generation smoked, we drink, drugs are bad, low fat is good ...

So what mental illness am I displaying signs of?

Perhaps, Oliver Mol, you could use these for the drinking:
- You've been unwell and you're on antibiotics that can't be taken with alcohol
- You're having a 'dry' month.
- Drink lemonade or lemon lime and bitters but ask for it in a vodka glass.

People will get used to it and not ask any more.

I stole those off a 'how to hide you're preggers' thread on some maternity forum.

As for the rest, I don't know. I'd eat the cake if it's someone's birthday, and drink the tea all the time because I prefer it. I'd get the most exotic tea I could find and make a thing of it with a special mug and all, make for a conversation.

I like bpetrosky's answer, too.

shadowfax_c11

Life does not play tricks. If you eat a cookie it is because you decided to eat a cookie. If you eat the whole package. that's on you too. If you give in to peer pressure to drink or eat excessively... yep that was your choice.

It isn't society, it isn't marketing, it isn't per pressure. It is YOUR CHOICE. you have free will. Use it.

If your choices are different from other people, that's okay. What isn't okay is making other people feel uncomfortable about their choices because you think yours are better.

Joining co-workers for an after work drink is a good thing. No law says you have to drink alcohol or high calorie drinks. You could oder soda water with lemon or a diet soda. One shot of rum is only about 90 calories a 5 oz glass of white wine maybe 100. So really... one drink isn't going to end your diet and alcohol (in moderation) has known health benefits so it is even "healthy". If you really don't want to drink say, "I just don't enjoy the taste of alcohol".

Coffee also has known health benefits. But if you just don't like coffee have tea. If someone asks, which they likely won't, say, "I just don't like the taste of coffee".

You won't get fired for not liking those things. You might get fired for being a pompous *kitten* about it.

EvgeniZyntx

AnvilHead wrote: »

EvgeniZyntx wrote: »

I'd take the cookie.
Really.

What would one cookie do?
I'm sure it is tasty.

Plus nostalgia.
The sweet pain of coming home.
Homecoming.

Haiku fail - it's 5/7/5.

Only for norms.

EvgeniZyntx

lemurcat12 wrote: »

EvgeniZyntx wrote: »

I'd take the cookie.
Really.

What would one cookie do?
I'm sure it is tasty.

Plus nostalgia.
The sweet pain of coming home.
Homecoming.

Is it a madeleine?

de Proust, evidently.

salembambi

im vegan im "frozen out" nearly every food related event i am forced to attend

but i dont care im use to having to defend my food /eating "lifestyle" to people , i also dont drink but thats because i hate it and genuinely have never liked how it makes me feel so i stopped completely

i guess i grew a big back bone about these kind of things a long time ago though , try not caring about other people and what they think it will help you a lot