...I really need a Lap band?

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  • grimendale
    grimendale Posts: 2,153 Member
    I personally think that a dietician is a good idea. I worked with a dietician for the first six months of my weight loss, and found it very beneficial. A dietician is an objective person who can teach you how to eat and keep you accountable. Learning the proper portion sizes, proper meal breakdowns and how to pay attention to what you eat are all beneficial skills that will serve you well in the long term. In spite of many of the responses provided, there is no shame in needing help to get on the right path to health. A lap band is a tool, but it is a tool of last resort and should not be used lightly. Make sure you go with a dietician and not a nutritionist; you want someone who is properly licensed and certified, and nutritionists are not controlled by a licensing board. Good luck.
  • SusanB148
    SusanB148 Posts: 72 Member
    I would also like to suggest that you think about setting up some strong boundaries in dealing with your mother.

    From what I have read, your mother's recent dealings with you have not been helpful, and she needs to know that if she wants you to maintain relations with her, she will have to lay off telling you what to do about your weight, how to take care of your health -- or any other subjects that are causing you to feel upset and depressed.

    If she does not follow your rules, place limits on the amount of contact she can have with you.
  • LiftAllThePizzas
    LiftAllThePizzas Posts: 17,857 Member
    Good for you for wanting to lose the weight naturally. Even if you get a lap band, you will still have the emotional side to deal with, and that's what your family needs to understand. The lap band will fail miserably if you don't deal with WHY you are overeating in the first place. Plus, you want to be healthy for the rest of your life, right? Explain to your family that to be successful in the long-term, you need to learn to eat right and fuel your body properly, and a lap band is just an easy way out.

    I've already explained to then what my concerns were about the long-term condition of my overeating and they won't listen. Then they get angry with me for throwing their idea away.

    I mean, it just looks like I'll have to do this the hard way and be firm with them about how I feel. I'm still going to the appointment, but I'm pushing for a therapist because I do have a lot of emotional issues that may be contributing to this.
    Why are you explaining yourself to them? They aren't the boss of you. You are an adult and you don't have to explain your life decisions to anyone. Tell them to FOAD and don't even bother arguing with them, because doing so gives them the idea that it's their place to participate in decision making for you.
  • NonnyMary
    NonnyMary Posts: 982 Member
    If you get a lap band, you still have to deal with your food habits. That wont make it go away. So the lap band is not the savior of weight loss. it has a lot of complications. The most icky thing to me about it is that when they insert it inside you, they also have what is called a portal that is under your skin. then every month or so, you have to go to the doctor and he sticks a needle in that port to either add or reduce saline. Do you want that? But there are complications, like bleeding, or your body rejecting a foreign object.

    Please read up about it, its not so easy as everyone might think.
  • CrazyTrackLady
    CrazyTrackLady Posts: 1,337 Member
    Lose the lap band suggestion.

    Get a spine.
  • corgicake
    corgicake Posts: 846 Member
    I never really thought of myself as an emotional eater, but I must be. I always just thought I was obsessed with food. And that was it. I'm just always eating. But I'm trying to resist it.

    And my mother, all she eats is bbq wings and diet mountain dew and she had a gastric bypass really early. I just feel quite gross when I think of it and I don't want surgery for me.

    THIS.

    Folks who took a path that they themselves feel shame over tend to hate on people who got what they wanted without taking that path... and they're utterly vicious toward those who plan to do that. You are not a girl. You are a full grown WOMAN and an ADULT fully capable of telling the haters to kiss it while there's still enough to go around, family or not.

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