Should I feel bad?

incisron

Lol don't feel like a moron I'm 2 silly.

jennifer_417

incisron wrote: »

19. Sorry if I seem whiny.

You don't seem whiny...you just seem very young...which you are, so that's completely ok.

Lounmoun

To the title question: No, you shouldn't feel bad over food unless you stole it.
You ate 4 starbursts. Not even close to something you should feel bad about.

You are an adult. If you want to eat some or all of your calories in candy it is your body, your decision and your consequences. Is it a healthy nutrition choice? You know you will be missing a lot of nutrients your body needs if you only eat candy.
Can you have the foods you like, still get enough nutrients and lose weight? Yes.
To lose weight eat fewer calories than you burn. Start with logging everything you eat or drink even if you are having a day where you eat over your calorie goal.
Try to change your diet gradually by adding in more fruits and vegetables and getting more protein. Pre-logging food before you eat it can be helpful in making better choices that fit your goal.

Your mom seems to not be the person to guide you here. Realize that she he has her own food and weight issues. I'm a fan of talking to people who care about me and trying to achieve understanding. If you can, show your mom your food diary and your goals. Show her that you are not going over your calories or doing ridiculous diets. You are at a stage where your relationship with your parents is shifting. Let her know that nagging is not supporting you. Support would be treating you like an adult and asking about your plan and if you need help. Ask her for her recipes so you can log more accurately. Plan meals together. Volunteer to cook more often. Maybe she'd like to join MFP and be your friend so you can support each other. Ask her to exercise with you on occasion.

Carlos_421

Food =/= sin

incisron

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Thanks so much every1

scolaris

I think at 19 it's time you start being responsible for what you do or don't eat & mom needs to stay out of it.

lynn_glenmont

I am definitely not suggesting that you say this aloud to your mother, but when she criticizes you for eating something that you know you are fitting in your goals for the day (even if your goal for the day is "today's a special holiday or event and I'm OK with eating at maintenance today"), think to yourself, "Should I really be taking diet advice from someone who isn't able to control her own weight, as opposed to relying on the well-documented method of tracking my calories and keeping energy intake below energy expenditure?" Do not roll your eyes when you think this. This is a thought for you, to help you realize that not all advice is good advice, and to help you keep confidence in yourself.

callsitlikeiseeit

i understand most people have a much different relationship with their mothers than i do, but even at 19 (almost 20 years ago) had she (my mother) tried to tell me what to do I'd have told her to sod off in no uncertain terms.

youre grown. put on your big girl panties, tell her your doing this YOUR way and if she thinks she can do better, then she is more than welcome to use her own methods for her own body.

rankinsect

There aren't unhealthy foods, there are unhealthy diets. Sure, Starburst are not exactly packed with nutrients, but if the rest of your diet meets your nutrient needs, and you stay within your calories, Starburst aren't going to hurt you in any way.

You can have a very healthy diet that includes foods typically called unhealthy. You can have a very unhealthy diet consisting entirely of foods normally considered healthy. It all comes down to whether you're meeting your body's nutrient needs and eating an appropriate amount of calories.

PinkPixiexox

No. You shouldn't feel bad.

I'm not sure of your relationship dynamic with your mother but I'm going to make a wild assumption and say she probably means well and yet doesn't really know how to portray that properly.

There is no reason why you can't eat whatever the hell you want. If you put on weight, that's entirely your business (although I assure you OP, a few extra starbursts here and there & a well enjoyed christmas isn't going to be your undoing).

You're obviously well aware of your calorie's and your food choices so I really don't think you have anything to worry about here. What I would say is this - ease up on the pressure on yourself. You're human.