How do i not feel ashamed?
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Hugs every1 thamks so much.0
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You can do it! There's lots of great advice here. One thing I do to get my step count up when I'm at home is to be as inefficient as possible when I'm moving around the house. So, for example, if I'm putting laundry away, I will only carry a few items at a time, so that I have to make multiple trips up and down the stairs to put everything away. Or I'll walk back and forth from the table to the sink when cleaning up after dinner, carrying one dish at a time. Your exercise doesn't have to be in a dedicated time - by adding a few more steps into every activity, you can see some benefit there too!
As for the voices in your head, if I had that problem, I'd try to drown them out with music I love and find invigorating.0 -
Hi, I'm 19, I want to move more and for reasons I don't quite feel up to explaining, my parents and i feel I should exercise at home right now and I want to do it by walking. How do I not feel ashamed of walking around my yard or in a room? Or is this something I should feel ashamed by?
When I first started trying to get healthy, my sort of mentor friend had me walk around the house briskly for a certain number of minutes every day, which increased gradually. I got made fun of by a guy who came to our house to do something. So every time I did the exercise after that, I heard voices in my head making fun of me and it was kind of crippling. They wouldn't go away no matter how many times I kept pressing on with that exercise. Eventually the mentor and i fell out of contact due to busy schedules and I stopped those exercises.
I want to move a little more now, just a little, and I'm planning to do it in a few minutes. The only thing I'm worried about is the voices telling me I am stupid. The voice I'm afraid of is one with the face of an (imaginary) man I admire and look up to. I don't want that to cripple me again.
So should I feel ashamed? If so, I won't do it, but if not, how to ignore the voice or get rid of it?
Thanks. Sorry for the rambling.
No, you should not feel ashamed. Lots of people exercise at home, ot in their yard. Nothing weird about it.
But, I get the feeling, that if you have not already seen one, a therapist would help you.0 -
I know you weren't asking but I've tried Jessica Smith and Leslie Sansone videos. They're both excellent for in home walking.0
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I walk around the kitchen island all the time (and I'm a similar age as you). Of course, my family gives me comments about it, but at least I am up and moving (and my mother is jealous of how many steps I can get in a day from it).
I like to watch Netflix while wandering around the kitchen island (or read the news/Facebook). One episode of the current show I'm watching gives me about 3500-4000 steps, and I don't feel too bad about wasting my time on that stuff if I'm also getting some activity in.0 -
Attitude Check: Only YOU can make your thoughts make you feel bad about YOU. Even though that guy wad an *kitten*, YOU gave home much more power by letting his comments make you feel bad about YOU.
Make a funny face in the mirror; sing out loud in your car, do hip hop in your own house!!! And if someone sees you, look them dead in the eye, smile your most devious smile, and shout at the top of your lungs "YEAH, BABY!!! THAT ' S WHAT I'M TALKIN' ABOUT" and then just keep shakin' your groove thang for the world to see!!0 -
Incisron, ashamed? Absolutely not! You should see some of the things i get up to at home. Whenever im alone i sing and dance around the house like a loonatic -and im not ashamed in the slightest. Go you! P.s try dancing, its so much fun.0
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Whitezombiegirl wrote: »Incisron, ashamed? Absolutely not! You should see some of the things i get up to at home. Whenever im alone i sing and dance around the house like a loonatic -and im not ashamed in the slightest. Go you! P.s try dancing, its so much fun.
I do this too, even when people are around. My husband looks at me like I'm crazy, and my 2-year-old laughs his butt off. It is way fun!!0 -
Hi, I'm 19, I want to move more and for reasons I don't quite feel up to explaining, my parents and i feel I should exercise at home right now and I want to do it by walking. How do I not feel ashamed of walking around my yard or in a room? Or is this something I should feel ashamed by?
When I first started trying to get healthy, my sort of mentor friend had me walk around the house briskly for a certain number of minutes every day, which increased gradually. I got made fun of by a guy who came to our house to do something. So every time I did the exercise after that, I heard voices in my head making fun of me and it was kind of crippling. They wouldn't go away no matter how many times I kept pressing on with that exercise. Eventually the mentor and i fell out of contact due to busy schedules and I stopped those exercises.
I want to move a little more now, just a little, and I'm planning to do it in a few minutes. The only thing I'm worried about is the voices telling me I am stupid. The voice I'm afraid of is one with the face of an (imaginary) man I admire and look up to. I don't want that to cripple me again.
So should I feel ashamed? If so, I won't do it, but if not, how to ignore the voice or get rid of it?
Thanks. Sorry for the rambling.
I walk around my house all the time. I love gaming, TV, movies... pretty much most things that keep me sitting on my butt when I'm not at work (where I also sit on my butt). This time of year, especially, when it's already getting dark by the time I get home from work I walk around my house while I play games, watch TV or read. It's a great way to move more while still doing something I enjoy. Anyone who would try to shame you for something like that is a very small, very sad little person - so don't pay them any attention!0 -
A friend once said to me, "We need to sing louder than the voices in our head!" Isn't that the truth?! Give yourself some positive thoughts to think instead, because you can't think "I shouldn't be ashamed" or "What someone said doesn't matter" because that makes us think about the negative things more. Here are some ideas:
This is a great start today.
I walked longer today than yesterday.
I walked faster today than yesterday.
I enjoy walking.
I am burning calories.
I am getting fit.
etc.
You get the idea. You can do this! Walking is so much fun and has so many benefits. Do you have a fitbit or other step counter? This would be a great way to help motivate yourself and give you something else to think about.0 -
missblondi2u wrote: »Whitezombiegirl wrote: »Incisron, ashamed? Absolutely not! You should see some of the things i get up to at home. Whenever im alone i sing and dance around the house like a loonatic -and im not ashamed in the slightest. Go you! P.s try dancing, its so much fun.
I do this too, even when people are around. My husband looks at me like I'm crazy, and my 2-year-old laughs his butt off. It is way fun!!
My SO will dance with me. Last night we practiced cumbia, bachata and salsa.
The only thing to feel ashamed about is sitting on your *kitten*.0 -
I used to walk around a table to study for spelling and history. If it's nice out I'll walk around campus with a filled out study guide or not so nice around the inside of a building. This is nothing to be ashamed of is no different from running or walking on a track. That guy shouldn't even be a consideration he's a jerk ignore him.0
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You are trying to better yourself. There is no reason to feel ashamed. People can be insensitive and are best ignored. Others have given great ideas, for me I get bored trying to walk in the house so I have a treadmill setup in front of a TV. If you live near an animal shelter, volunteer to walk some of the dogs. Or if you have your own, I have seen very few dogs that weren't ready to go at the suggestion. If you live near a mall, join the walkers or take a few laps around your favorite big box store. You have the right idea. Get moving and don't let anyone stop you.
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I know a lot of people with fitbits, and it's completely normal for them to walk around their houses in circles at the end of the day to meet their step goals! They post about it on Facebook, we all understand the struggle lol.
I second the recommendation to do yard work and housework to get exercise. Also, walking is a normal part of being human. I don't understand why someone would make fun of a person for walking around??? It's like making fun of someone for eating or going to the bathroom or sleeping??? It makes no sense.0 -
Do you like going to a store like walmart if you do thats how I started and i was almost 300 lbs but I would push a cart just like i was shopping and would walk around the store until i had 10000 steps0
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Dance! I travel a lot and sometimes I'm in hotels without gyms. I've perfected the art of doing aerobics in my hotel room. Sometimes while watching movies on my computer. Or listening to music that gets my feet going. Of course there's no one else in my room to laugh at me - maybe you can do things in your bedroom? The movies or music might drown out the voices in your head!
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holothuroidea wrote: »I know a lot of people with fitbits, and it's completely normal for them to walk around their houses in circles at the end of the day to meet their step goals!
This is true! Though I've started dancing around the kitchen while I'm washing up or cooking to up my steps. The other day I even danced around the Christmas tree! I am so sorry that a stranger put you off - as time goes by you will care less about what other people think.
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So, you feel ashamed for taking control of your health? Which will bother you less: having someone pass judgment on you for trying to be proactive about your health or having someone pass judgment on you for doing nothing about your health?
I was once walking( for exercise ) past an outdoor cafe, wearing a shirt that is basically a see through shirt under the right lighting ( outdoor light) and a group of women laughed and commented that someone wearing my shirt with my body should be ashamed. That sucked for me to hear but i can see their point. Either way, that interaction made no change in my desire to better myself for my own peace of mind.0 -
You should never be ashamed when you're trying to do something healthy. I do get where you're coming from, I used to feel very selfconscious when I went outside for a run, I always thought I was running funny, and like everyone was staring. But then I realized noone cares. It's important that you do something for yourself, and always be proud of that!0
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Don't feel bad! When I'm at work and haven't done anything for a while I just do 4 count jumping jacks in a place no one will see. I find this is more effective because it burns more calories in a shorter period of time and you can stop and restart as needed until you've accumulated the time or number of calories you want to burn. Don't feel you have to do it all at once. I jump for a minute rest for 30 seconds and repeat. I'll do that five times every hour or every other hour and after 4 times I've had 20 minutes of cardio!0
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OP - please don't feel ashamed! I usually try to walk around the living room in the mornings while I read the news. I walk brisk laps for 30-60 minutes. We have windows in the front of the house that don't have blinds, so I know the neighbors probably see me. Who cares if they judge me because I walk laps in the living room. I'm getting exercise, and working on my health. I also go for walks in the evening. I prefer to do it outdoors, but if it's raining or its cold I walk laps a second time in the living room. You're so young - please learn how to not be affected by the opinions of strangers. Your life will be much more fulfilling
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If your yard is big enough, could you circle it while listening to music on an mp3 player? When I first started out with 100+ to lose, I felt very self conscious about exercising in my neighborhood during the daytime and especially if people tried to strike up a conversation. I got around both issues by going in the evening right around sunset or after, and listening to music on earbuds kept people from bugging me.0
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If Pheobe ran unashamed, so can you, so can we all! (Walking counts, too).
The One Where Phoebe Runs
And the person who makes fun of the person walking/exercising to better themselves, THAT is the person to be pitied.0 -
missblondi2u wrote: »I've been stared at like a crazy person for pacing around a tiny airport terminal during a 2 hour layover because I wanted to hit my 10K step count for the day. I just kept walking because to heck with other people and what they think.
I do that because I can't sit still - I mean, are you really going to sit on your butt for an entire layover? Those chairs aren't comfortable. Maybe people were just looking at you because you were the only moving object in their line of sight and they were bored.
Who makes fun of someone for walking? That's weird. OP, sometimes people are just not quite right, and you really can't take it personally.
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I haven't read all the replies, but i get 20,000+ steps in everyday without leaving my yard/house. My neighbours no doubt think I'm loopy, but i could care less what they think!!0
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You inspired me. I spent a solid 1/2 hour walking around the house today while multi-tasking.0
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HUGS every1 for the support and suggestions.0
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Can you walk with someone? Or talk to someone on the phone? Might help to distract you.
You have ZERO reason to feel ashamed!0 -
I actually had a VERY similar experience about 5 years ago when I started working out in my basement (I was 17). My parents told a guy who was over that I started exercising and when I walked upstairs to greet him, he teased me about it to the point where I had to stop completely out of embarrassment. Please don't let that happen to you, and NEVER feel ashamed. I have started exercising again and I can tell you that I would gladly say I'm keeping fit to his face and I wouldn't care what he says. Keep doing what you're doing! Like a few people have said, you're already doing more than a lot of people!! ❤️0
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