you cant tell people anything

lulalacroix

Just because she wasn't so receptive at the time doesn't mean she didn't really listen. Sometimes people need to digest the information before they heed the advice. And then sometimes they just ignore the advice all together.

But I kind of have to chuckle at someone at a good weight trying to lose a pound a day. That's so close to impossible.

williams969

BZAH10 wrote: »

williams969 wrote: »

Nope, you can't (with some people). My mother in law, who lives with us now, has congestive heart disease and kidney failure. I feed her according to her health team's orders. 6 months later, she's on less meds (and kidneys are not in neexd of dialysis) and her pants are literally falling off (she had about 20-30 extra lbs on her).

I feed her the types of things she likes, just tweaked to closely match her medical needs (she sees how I prepare and shops with me). She claims I'm doing it (my way of eating/feeding my family) unhealthy and I'm killing them all, slowly, because once a week we eat fast food in modest quantity.

As if eating at greasy spoons twice a day, and potato chips for dinner was the "right" way (her prior eating ways).

Wow! She's lost that much weight and doesn't need dialysis and yet she still claims your way is unhealthy??? I don't even know what to say about that other than good for you for taking such good care of her and your family and yourself.

Yeah, she's ornery, and claims the change in meds is the cause of her weight loss, not the other way around. I shrug and go, "must be so". And carry on with what I do. She just is blind to the fact that eating right (for one's needs) does not have to be exotic or punishing and tasteless.

brb_2013

quiksylver296 wrote: »

That's frustrating when you see someone doing something so dangerous.

I've had a co-worker ask me three different times what I am doing to lose weight. I've explained, all three times, that I am just tracking my calories in MFP using a food scale. Not cutting out foods, not drinking special shakes or taking any pills. She has said, all three times, that using a food scale is too hard... Then quit asking me!

No one wants to believe they actually have to DO something to change their bodies.

sheermomentum

You tried. Perhaps the best you can do is keep a friendly (but quiet) eye on her if you guys speak often, and ask how she's feeling.