Requiring Incoming Friend Request Messages

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  • LolliLouUk
    LolliLouUk Posts: 172
    I like people to include a message with the request just because I think it's polite. I do the same if I add people. I don't automatically decline those who don't but I do look at their profile and will decline it if it's blank and/or have nothing but a friends list full of girls (if it's a boy adding me - I don't want to be added merely to be part of a collection of girls on a profile, if that makes sense)
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
    Honestly, anymore I tend to only accept FR's from people I've interacted with, be it on the boards or through mutual friends. As such, messages don't really matter a whole lot because I already had some form of contact with them. I like having a small list, and I'm pretty darned fond of those on it.

    aawwww back at ya girl!

    the best way to form a good friends list is to send FR's to people you see either interacting with your friends or on the boards who you have common interests with, and they are interesting to you.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I require it for the reasons you stated. And if there is no message (with the exceptions of people I've actually interacted with) that means the person didn't even bother reading my profile.

    I also don't accept generic, "looking for support," types of messages because those people are mostly friend collectors and inactive.

    This has resulted in my having a supremely awesome FL.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    If you are really active on this site and have a constantly expanding friend list, you start to understand the need for "requiring" a message with friend requests. It becomes impossible to keep up with everyone, so you get more picky about who you add. It's not because I think I'm more important than everyone else. I just don't want my news feed overrun with updates from people who don't interact with me and don't share the same food/fitness interests. That prevents me from being fully able to communicate with the really awesome people currently on my FL. And I don't see the point in adding someone, only to hide their updates from my news feed.
  • magnum26
    magnum26 Posts: 356 Member
    Personally I dont care if someone is active or not, any friend request will get accepted, as I only have 3 on here so far, I don't see any reason not to accept the request.
  • JustJennie1
    JustJennie1 Posts: 3,749 Member
    When I FR someone I always include a message as to why. It could be a "I liked what you said in XYZ topic" or something like that.

    When I receive a FR without a message (or a creepy one) it's an instant denial, especially when your profile is locked and you have a picture that is clearly not you.

    Oh, I will also deny FR's from people who look as though they are "friend collectors".
  • jenn26point2
    jenn26point2 Posts: 429 Member
    Facebook is for collecting friends that may or may not be close or may or may not have the same interests as me... MFP is where I collect friends who have the same fitness and weight related interests as I do. If someone sends me a request with no message and their profile is locked so I can't learn about them, I will typically delete them. Some I will send a message to and ask who they are, how I might know them, etc. While I prefer a message with the request, I don't require it. I don't want to talk to a silent audience or a group of stalkers, so if you friend me, please talk to me!

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