My Wedding is in 30 days!!! HELP!!!

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  • jimandpam87
    jimandpam87 Posts: 62 Member
    Just wanted to add: something else you might consider is lowering your carbs a little bit and making sure you're not eating too much sodium. This could potentially help you drop any bloating/water weight that you're carrying right now. You will feel better and your dress will fit better if you're not bloated. Just a suggestion.
  • DrifterBear
    DrifterBear Posts: 265 Member
    You'll have a great day, and feel even better if you're 30 days in and lose a few to get under 200. Consider it a life change not a quick fix. There's a lot you can learn on this site and people here to help keep you motivated. You can't lose 50 lbs in a month, but you can get yourself on the track to a healthy and happy life with your new husband. BTW, I'm getting married 5/21 and completely understand the stress!
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    edited January 2016
    Are you not weighing in and tracking every day? It sounds like you need that reality check.

    I'm am also 5'10" and 205 is not a "fat cow" weight for me. Not even close, actually.

    Maybe you need to focus on exercise and body composition instead of just nutrition.

    There is no reason why you can't get in SOME exercise every day. Go for 15 minute walks between study sessions, if nothing else. Getting up and moving around will help with your focus.

    Stop making excuses and come up with a realistic plan. Getting under 200 should be very doable in the short timeframe that you have.
  • wearmi1
    wearmi1 Posts: 291 Member
    I'm about 30 days from my wedding as well. I stopped drinking alchohol about 2 months ago because for me it leads to over eating and frankly is just empty calories in my opinion. Stick to your calorie goals and exercise. You won't be able to move mountains in 30 days but you will feel better about yourself on your big day and that's what's most important!
  • Sarahb29
    Sarahb29 Posts: 952 Member
    With only 30 days just do your best to maintain your weight now so you can still fit into your dress. Eat healthy and focus on getting things in order for your big day. Enjoy your wedding and start a diet after your honeymoon :)
  • angerelle
    angerelle Posts: 175 Member
    Don't stress it now. Your wedding day is about celebrating your love for each other and making a commitment to each other in front of your friends and family. One of the best things about our wedding was feeling bathed in the goodwill of all the people who came to share the day with us. They don't care what the number on the scale says on that particular day, why should you? If you want to lose weight, do it in a realistic, sustainable way. I hope you both have a fantastic day and a long, happy life together.
  • MKEgal
    MKEgal Posts: 3,250 Member
    +1 to the good advice above:
    start eating healthfully,
    don't go overboard on anything,
    ignore that horrendous post about a "cleanse", :anguished:
    and enjoy your wedding (including forgetting about the "eating healthy" part, for one day).


    After that, get yourself a food scale & learn to use it.
    Decide on some exercise you can start doing, and keep doing. Maybe several, so you're not bored.


    Here are some posts you might find helpful.
    At least read sexypants.
    Also my blog post (at the bottom), which has links to reliable sites discussing things like
    "what's a healthy weight range for me?"
    "how many calories should I be eating?"
    "what are the healthy % ranges for macronutrients?"

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10012907/logging-accuracy-consistency-and-youre-probably-eating-more-than-you-think

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/819925/the-basics-dont-complicate-it/p1

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/872212/youre-probably-eating-more-than-you-think/p1

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/833026/important-posts-to-read/p1


    Goal setting, including weight, calories, and macros
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/MKEgal/view/2014-06-08-setting-goals-667045
  • Jozzmenia
    Jozzmenia Posts: 252 Member
    edited January 2016
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    This was me at 6 feet tall 230/240 pounds. I can't recall the exact number and I already barely ate the week of and forgot to eat because of stress. My maid of honor was constantly asking if I ate when she was here. I didn't need added dieting. I wasn't at my goal weight but was happy with my pictures and happy during the day. I don't feel like my world ended. Dresses work miracles, makeup, hair, wedding glow, etc.

    Don't do any crash dieting. Don't fall into the trap of what is offered because you'll lose less than you think and sacrifice more than you think.

    I was like you. Wanted to lose more than 50 pounds to lose as my wedding crept closer and closer. Showers, cake tastings, rehearsal dinners, etc. don't help with those goals. If you crash diet, fast, cleanse, etc. you'll be ravenous when food is in front of you and take 2 steps back. And you don't want to look like a crackhead or a smoker on your wedding day from nutrient deficiency. What you can do now is make healthy choices. Fill up on veggies, make smoothies in the morning with lots of green veggies and supergreens powder, protein, blueberries, greek yogurt, chia, etc. Start your day with that and a giant glass of water. Drink water and eat green leafy veggies all day IN ADDITION to lean proteins like salmon, tuna, grilled chicken, etc. at meals eat double veggies and meat. Make healthy choices from here until then and you'll have glowing skin and lose weight in the process.

    Hit the gym. 3 days in a row, day 4 get a massage and give your muscles a break. Repeat. Alternate weights and cardio each day and work the muscles that are least sore. park at the back of the parking lot at work, take the stairs when you can, find any way you can to stay active. You're not going to be an expert in 30 days but seek help if you need it from a trainer. If you're at the gym doing something for an hour 6 days a week that's progress.

    At this point, stay away from the scale it will just make you crazy. Don't think about losing weight. Think about eating healthier, sustainable changes, adding activity and having a wonderful wedding. The rest will fall into place.

    Have a wonderful wedding!
  • mdrossmiller
    mdrossmiller Posts: 7 Member
    One other tip, since you mention grad school. Treadmills are a great place to study boring textbooks... makes it harder to fall asleep B)
  • Jozzmenia
    Jozzmenia Posts: 252 Member
    you can study on the treadmill? impossible for me lol. bike maybe.
  • KhaleesiBlue
    KhaleesiBlue Posts: 13 Member
    If you lose weight now, your dress may not fit. But in 30 days I doubt you will be able to lose a significant amount anyway. This is something that should have been started several months ago. However, start eating right right now, decide that you are going to to start eating healthier and make better choices and you will lose weight. It won't be immediate, but there's no time to start like the present :) Enjoy your wedding OP!
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    Sarahb29 wrote: »
    With only 30 days just do your best to maintain your weight now so you can still fit into your dress. Eat healthy and focus on getting things in order for your big day. Enjoy your wedding and start a diet after your honeymoon :)

    I'm in the "don't mess with the fit" camp. Enjoy your glorious day. So much has led up to this, just relax, be yourself and have fun. Easier said than done lol but give it a shot
  • WalkingAlong
    WalkingAlong Posts: 4,926 Member
    Crash dieting is probably a bad idea for all the reasons mentioned but if have made up your mind that you're 100% going to try it, consider this plan.
    http://www.amazon.com/The-Rapid-Fat-Loss-Handbook/dp/0967145643

    At least it's well thought out and safe. Not cheap but it might be cheaper elsewhere in pdf form.
  • joinn68
    joinn68 Posts: 480 Member
    emmycantbemeeko wrote: »
    jaynee7283 wrote: »
    Am I the only in the camp of "just enjoy your wedding date - your fiance loves you the way you are so no need to stress out about it"?

    You have enough going on planning the wedding that you don't need to add the stress of trying to lose ANY kind of weight before the wedding.

    I feel a lot better in general at a higher weight but eating and moving well and losing steadily than I do at a lower weight but sedentary and gaining.

    I'll echo these two : your fiance, your friends and family love you the way you are. And... I feel a lot better mentally if I am exercising. Saved the weight loss for after the wedding. Enough stress already preparing for it I would think
  • chandanista
    chandanista Posts: 986 Member
    Jozzmenia wrote: »
    you can study on the treadmill? impossible for me lol. bike maybe.
    I've noticed a girl at my gym with a textbook propped on the elliptical. I couldn't do it but she does, with occasional slowing down periods to highlight and write in the margin.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    Jozzmenia wrote: »
    you can study on the treadmill? impossible for me lol. bike maybe.

    Sure..bike or elliptical work better. You can also get a set of portable bike peddles to put under your desk--they sell them at Walgreens.
  • myheartsabattleground
    myheartsabattleground Posts: 2,040 Member
    brittanygv wrote: »
    Ok - so heres the thing: my wedding is in 30 days and I am technically 50 pounds overweight. I am 5'10 and weigh 205 lbs with 15 lbs gained since August last year because of stress and overeating. I thought I was losing weight over the past month because I have been paying attention to my portions and making, what I thought, were better choices, but obviously not.

    I need help!!! My wedding is in 30 days and I don't want to look or feel like the fat cow I feel like right now. Obviously, I can't lose it all but I don't know where to begin in losing any! I have always struggled with my weight and I feel stuck- like I can't change this body no matter what I do. I literally feel gross every time I put clothes on. This is not how I want to feel when I am putting on my wedding dress.

    Any advice?

    Get a time machine.
  • oh_happy_day
    oh_happy_day Posts: 1,137 Member
    Has your dress already been altered to fit you? If so, please be wary about losing even a few lbs because it could cause a last minute crisis with a dress that won't stay up! With only 30 days to go you can definitely feel better by eating well and being active but please don't put pressure yourself at an already stressful time. Enjoy your day and marrying your love!

    There's a post circulating around reddit at the moment which is a cautionary tale on why attempts at last minute weight loss can be a very bad idea indeed. As the tale goes a bride used shakes to get rid of some bloating and on the day 'gambled on a fart and lost' while wearing a very expensive gown, shape wear and only having access to a portajohns... Carnage followed.

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